Married but childless!

Philippines
September 9, 2009 10:14am CST
How long have you been married and how long have you been praying that God grants your wishes to have a child? I have been with my husband for 13years before we got married last year February, and we're still childless. I already sought the help of my ob-gyne and I was told that I have a normal uterus. Thus, I was given a hormonal pills. Could you share your experience? I might get some useful info. Thanks!
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@zabawaus (1732)
• United States
9 Sep 09
hello, I dated with my husband 3 years before we got married, and now married for 3 years , i mean we are together 6 years, We don't have kids yet, we both are 32 years old, i hope we will have a kid before my 35-36 because after this age it would probably be hard to be pregnant . The reason we dont have kids is i am having some hormonal issues too. Some cysts, but with some medication it will be fixed. Hope you get well soon
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I'm advised to take a very expensive medicine (hormonal pills) for three consecutive months and we're hoping that it will correct my hormonal problem. I'm 31 already and I know that as time passes it will be harder to conceive.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
9 Sep 09
You have to have faith and keep on praying. I've personally got two children, but a very close friend of mine has been married for five years and doesn't have any as much as she wants a child. She's been pregnant several times but she miscarries every time that she is pregnant. Also, has your husband been checked as well because if the two of you are trying to get pregnant and the doctor says everything is fine on your end, there could be a problem on his end that is making it difficult to get pregnant.
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• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I'm curious... how come those who doesn't want to get pregnant conceives and those who really wish to have a baby doesn't.. funny (and depressing), right?
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• Philippines
9 Sep 09
all I could say keep on trying and praying. Eventually it would comes on the right time as you says you are perfectly normal to get pregnant. I know a neighbor who adopted a son for being hopeless to bear their own child, But after 10 years, the lady got pregnant and it;s been a blessing since then, they make sure both are healthy and maintain having good communication with your doctor.
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• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I hope it mine won't take that long. COnsulting an OB-gyne is quite expensive.
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• Malawi
10 Sep 09
I know the kind of situation you are going through right now. I also went through the same situation. We got married in 2005 and had our first baby in October 2008. We received all sorts of ridicule from church members, friends, relatives (close and distant) and neighbours. All of them could pull jokes which added more pain in our life and sometimes I would come back from work full of anguish. My wife too would come back from work crying. Sometimes we would sit down and question God why He allowed this to happen and why US? Did God forget our faces in His presence? We both underwent several medical tests and all that docs would say was "WE ARE ALL FINE, NOTHING WRONG'. Pain, misery, anguish went on until when my wife conceived in January 2008. I know it hurts so bad. Those people who pull jokes about childlessness do so because they do not know or understand the pain you go through at that particular moment. Many questions race up our mind why sometimes some people conceive and end up throwing the baby in a pit latrine while others so desperate fail to conceive? I learned alot in this experience and would like to offer some advice which I cannot manage to explain here. I also can recommend some books on this topic. Just drop a message in Mylot messages (in my message box) and please include your personal email address. Thanks.
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• Canada
13 Sep 09
Haven't been praying for children at all. We can't have children together, and we're just fine with that. We are not interested in having children. Hubby has children from a previous marriage, and they are grown, so we are not interested in having children together. Some childless married couples are happy that way.
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@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Unfortunately, I am one of those women. Married for five years already, still no baby yet. I really wish to have one the soonest. I'm 32 and not getting any younger. Our situation is difficult, no one understand us except those who are in the same situation. I pray that God will grand us a child soon.
@bmuchler (442)
• United States
19 Sep 09
I had trouble getting pregnant because I have polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). I was put on Clomid and Metformin at first, from my regular Ob/Gyn. After 6 months of this not working I was sent to a fertility specialist. I was taken off the Clomid and put on Fermara. The specialist increased the Metformin. I had to have a hysterosalpingogram to check for any blockages in my tubes. I also had to have ultrasounds on certain days of my cycle. This was to make sure I was responding to the medications. After the first month of seeing the specialist, I was pregnant. Not only was I pregnant, I was pregnant with twins. I had trouble conceiving my first child. He is now 7. After a year I was put on clomid and 3 months of taking the clomid I was pregnant. Be patient and relax. I know it's easier said than done.