Are you a man or a mouse?

@Humbug25 (12551)
September 9, 2009 4:22pm CST
I am most definatly a self confessed mouse. I hate confrontation and arguing with people, especially my friends! If someone knocks into me in a busy store then it is me who is the first to oppologise or let someone else take the last parking space in the parking lot even though I was there first. Yet if I have a problem with a company or when it comes to having to have a word with my son's teacher then I don't have a problem, I become a giant as big as the rest of them! So how about you? Are you a push over or do you stand strong?
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@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
9 Sep 09
Hi Humbug, I am definitely a man, well not literally of course but yes in terms of your question. I enjoy a friendly arguement with friends but do not mix with confrontational or aggressive people full stop as they are of no interest to me as lack manners. I hate people getting in my space. I also have a special eye I give to keep people under control, it's worked for years because no one expects it and they don't want to be on the receiving end twice, a look often says more than words to the crass. I've never been a pushover and it's too late to learn it now.
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@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Sep 09
hi thea my mom also had the look,we c alled it the evil eye' we got it when we misbehaved so we didnt do that very often.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya thea09 Well I like to think that by my age there is little to be confrontationaly about but you do get the odd problem with a parent in a playground!! Thanks
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Sep 09
I really like women in skirts Humbug. Because I can hide behind them when things get rough! I will "do" what is necessary if I have to. But I try to avoid confrontation in the first place. I have discovered that the best thing to do with an angry person is to let them talk on and on - I just stay silent. Eventually they run out of steam and I can talk. Quietly and (hopefully) sensibly. There is the occasional time when nothing will work. That's when the skirt comes in useful! LOL.
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@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Sep 09
hi pikefish Iused to hide behind my husband though he did wear skirts he was bigger than me. I always turned him loose on the Jehovah Witnesses who came around to our door. He would start quoting the bible according to the seventh day adventists and they sent them away really soon. I almost passed out with low blood sugar when i was alone with them as they did not take my hint that I had to go eat before I passed out. so I shut the door and locked it in their fac es.but they just stood there til I came back but then my son took over and boy did he send them flyin. He said." YOU dont leave my mom alone I am going to sic the doberman on you" now we didnt have a dog of any kind but they thought we did.they left.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hey p1kef1sh Aww p1key you old coward you!! hahhaa I think you are definatly right about letting the angry person have their say and run out of steam before saying your bit but skirts are good as a last resort!! Thanks hun
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
9 Sep 09
may be I am half of each. I don't like arguing either I am not that fast talking back at people so I always lose. but I don't obey them or do what they want me to do. so I shy away from verbal fights, but I never stop fighting even if chances are I lose. If I believe I am right, nothing can stop me. I might delay a fight due to more important matters but I will not give it up until I am proven utterly wrong. I never gave in to bullies at school, even if I was hurt physically and verbally and I still became the class champ twice. it's probably mind over matters thingy. especially in a country where everyone is entitled to fair legal treatment, I am not afraid of keeping my course as long as I haven't done anything wrong.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya LittleMel I used to just avoid the bullies at school or gave them what they wanted if they demanded it but rarely cos I used to walk away if I ever saw them coming in my direction! hahaa Thanks
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Sep 09
mouse... except when it really, really counts....
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hey dawny ... and when it really counts you need to be as strong as a lion eh? Cheers
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Sep 09
Yup if it's important!
@sredith (239)
• United States
11 Sep 09
For me it's really weird. I'm generally a shy person, or actually it's more due to social anxiety, so I can't even order my own food or have a conversation with someone I don't know that well, but I have a horrible temper, and if I disagree with someone or if someone makes me angry I can be really scary!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
14 Sep 09
Hi ya sredith Yeah I have always been told to watch out for the quiet ones!! lol Thanks
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I am a woman not a mouse & i can stand strong w/the best of them.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ANTIQUELADY Good to hear it Thanks
@ellie333 (21029)
10 Sep 09
Hi Humbug, Like you I will make a stand when things matter, like health issues, the school, companies etc but usully if someone bumps into me I say sorry although it was them that type of thing. I guess I am a pretty passive person until pushed or anything to do with my children then I not to be taken lightly. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@Humbug25 (12551)
14 Sep 09
Hi ellie333 Good to see you! I too am very passive but can get to be like a bear with a sore head if seriously discruntled by a company or teacher!! Thanks
@sissi320 (328)
• China
10 Sep 09
It depends, I stand strong for the things that I think I must. It is not bad to first to oppologise when people knock into you, but I think you need to stand strong for something also.
@Humbug25 (12551)
14 Sep 09
Hi sissi320 I do get annoyed with myself sometimes because it really shouldn't be me to oppologies but sometimes it is just the first word that comes from my mouth!! Thanks
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Well I'm definitely not a mouse, lol. but I dont like confrontation ether, but if I happen to get in to a confrontation I usually stand strong, and it also depend on the situation, like in the situation you described I would have let it go, but when it comes to other situations I tend to be strong and deal with it with diplomacy.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
14 Sep 09
Hi apples99 I think in life there are definitly times when you need to stand strong and other times when it is advisable to stand down! Thanks
@sasalove (1710)
• China
10 Sep 09
Hi Humbug, We are the same kind, I am also a self confessed mouse and I did not like to push over. Every guy has their over personality and character that surely they would liek to expect the respect. But in our daily life, I am aware that if you behave friendly and eat humble time daily, they will work up over you at the critical point, of course just some kinda people will do it. We should stand strong if you think that it is reasonale and no need to give any concession.
@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi sasalove I think you are right. Thanks
@littleowl (7157)
10 Sep 09
Hi Humbug, well I am much like you at home, with friends my family except my Dad, the last thing I hate is confrontation especially if I know someone can be verbal and hurtful. Like you if I am nudged by someone it is always me who says 'sorry' and that goes to my family who get annoyed that is what is said so frequently. Now my children are grown up I let them live live their own lives, so don't have the need to apologise so much it is nice to hear them say it to me for a change! So a lot of the time yes I am a push over...hugs LoLo
@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hey littleowl I think I am inadequetly equipped to deal with confrontation but try to supply my kids with the right verbal amunition to deal with situations but it is usually too late as the incedent has already occured!! I always walk away thinking, darn it why didn't I say this or that or the other!! hahahaha Thanks
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
9 Sep 09
I'm a bit of both hummy.. I tend to be timid mostly, but in the right situation, i'm a giant lion! if someone where to harm or talk badly about my children, i too wouldnt hesitate to step up.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya Sis Yeah I guess it depends on stituation and circumstance eh? Thanks
@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Sep 09
humbug25 I am also a mouse or a wuss just about the same thing . I just hate confrontations and avoid them like' crazy. I dont post to discussions about poitics or the ones'about smoking not hurting you. They get so nasty and insulting I cannot handle it. just too darned mean for me.I canstand strong over important things just like others but the bumping and pushing I just apologize and move away. I am a wuss.
@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya Hatley Ooooo wuss is maybe a bit harsh hahaha but yes I do call myself that from time to time. thanks
• United States
9 Sep 09
I'm definately not the mouse. Don't get me wrong, I don't go pick fights or punch out bad guys, but I do stand up for myself if I feel I've been wronged and I do tend to hold grudges. If some one were to knock into me in a busy store I wouldn't appologize unless it was my fault. I would more likely say "excuse you" and go on my way.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya tripmarty I think some of the time I am at a loss for words and say the first thing that comes to my head which is usually sorry!! hahaha Thanks
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
9 Sep 09
It depends on the situation, sometimes it's just best to walk away with your head up and it's just not worth the aggravation, I guess each person sizes up the situation and then either goes in head strong or shrugs it off, sort of flight or fight syndrome. I can understand your viewpoint when it comes to our children then we will fight tooth and nail to protect them or stand or for them. Other times it's just not worth all the hassle. I hate confrontations and will shy away from them, but then again I am not a people person and I can take them or leave them. It also depends on how people treat you too, my ex for example, excuse me for harping on about it, but I was a damn big giant with my ex and would give as good as I got. No one is 100% mouse or 100% man, you just have to search inside yourself for the hero at times ;0)
@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya wolfie34 I do think you are right my friend, you ususually are. Oh look no complicated words to try and spell dictionaryless!! hahaha Cheers hun
@uicbear (1903)
• United States
9 Sep 09
My friend often tells me that I am a big push-over and that I let too many people take advantage of me. Personally, I see myself as flexible and easy going. Really, why bother getting all worked up over something that really isn't that important or really doesn't have a significant impact on my life. Something really has to bother me in a big way for me to actually confront someone. Now if someone confronts me about someone, I have gotten very good at defusing situations and really talking and finding out what the issue at the heart of the matter is to solve the problem. Yelling and stomping around usually doesn't fix anything (even if it does make you feel a little bit better).
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@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Sep 09
Hi ya uicbear I too am very laid back and I think that ranting and raving only brings attention to yourself!! Thanks