Child abuse: Don't let indifference rule you

Romania
September 10, 2009 1:51am CST
I thought twice before starting this discussion considering that it's quite a sad topic. But, I do think that the fact that such phenomenon does occur too often in our days it's even more depressing. Everyday I see at TV or hear news about kidnapped or abused children. A few weeks ago, headlines were about a baby-sitter who had to take care of two little angels. After seeing a weird behaviour at their children, the parents decided to put a hidden camera to spy the baby-sitter.What they saw only after one or two days was sinister. The woman who was supposed to take care of their kids was addressing in a vulgar, terrible way when she talked to them. She beat them many times, and even without having a reason. And the two children were 2 and 4 years old only...The short movie was presented at the news, in the evening. In one episode, the woman lifts up the little boy, holding him by the ear only...Having a baby, I must admit that seeing that in my mind weren't too peaceful thoughts at that moment. One day, while I was coming home I saw an old lady on the street. She shouted at a little boy, and began to hit him in the face. He was about 3 years old, I think. This made me feel sick, I really had unorthodox thoughts about her all day long. I'm convinced that what I saw it's just a little piece from what's happening in our world. What's worse is that many of us don't care about such sad facts. I believe that the world would be more different if we did care.
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@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
10 Sep 09
My dad used to beat me to a pulp when I was a kid so I am against all forms of violence. Indifference is something that clouds the mind and is the reason why a lot of things in the world dont change. That, plus, many who witness things and refuse to take a stand. I agree, the world would be more different if more people would just care.
• Romania
10 Sep 09
I don't know how much will comfort you this, but I truly felt sorry as I was reading your comment. Anyway, thx for your answer, there aren't too many who have the courage to discuss about such delicate aspects, especially when it comes to their personal life.
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
10 Sep 09
Thanks for your sympathies I can openly discuss here because I am just a mere screen name or a name without a face. It's easier. It's hard, dealing with it, but well, life goes on and life is what you make it. I tend to lean towards the positive so I dont drown in misery. It works and I would recommend it to anyone. Happiness is a mindset :-) Thank you again.
@cmdr001 (371)
• Portugal
10 Sep 09
Well, about children who get kidnapped and molested, there's really nothing much to be said about that. We all know how dreadful that is and how not -all- efforts to prevent that are being made, but words alone won't really change that. The case of abuse that you portrait from what you seen in the news is also undeniably a terrible case that doesn't really need too many words to tell how awful it is and it's plain cruelty that should be punished severely. Beyond that however... it's a very blurry line my opinion. You have a child? Raise it as you may. It's other people's children? Allow them to do their work as (grand)parents. People are having children at times perhaps without realizing the burden they are bringing upon themselves. It's not just a money sink, it's a sink of time and patience as well, something that many people can't really afford. That's why today's generation is as it is, they've been poorly raised by their parents but now... what's to be blamed? The rigid or the lenient parents? There's been nothing wrong with a few slaps, be it the cheek or the toosh. It won't kill the child. Harm? Maybe. Perhaps the physical punishment will help it associate better that something is -wrong- and shouldn't be done, whereas just saying "No!" for what could be a grieve mistake may not teach them well enough and they'll just repeat the mistake, again and again while all that they are said is "No!". Why stop doing something that's probably fun just because someone says no... there are no negative consequences even if the action in itself is negative. So, while I can understand your concern that the way some people treat their children is an abuse... or the way they allow -other- people to treat their children may be so, I think it's worth noting just exactly what's going on before taking conclusions. Pointless harming -is- bad... rough discipline however may make between a good person and a bad one in the future.
• Romania
10 Sep 09
Let me understand: you think it's well and healthy to educate a child by using violence? I wasn't talking about those a "few slaps", but about abuse in it's most negative sense. Have a good day!
@sjvenden27 (1851)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Child abuse is very real, yes it does happen each and every day to many children around the world.. It is very easy to turn away from it because it is just too hard to deal with.. or you do not want to step on the wrong person's toes... Too often child are the ones left in the dark; without support, without the help.. many cases of child abuse go unreported, taking a stand for an abused child can be hard for someone to do... or even worst when you do... let me share an example; I was having a family get together one Christmas... I can remember that day like it just happen.. My family was over we were just about done with the meal... my niece who was going to be 2 in a couple days decided she was done with her food and pushed her plate away... Her dad was not happy that she didn't finish what was on her plate... so he picked her up and then sat on my couch spanking her... then when he was done... insisted on her to stop crying... he was hitting her very hard... like 7 or 8 times... he started flicking her fingers to stop crying.... that didnt work, she kept crying... then he throw her over his knee again and started spanking more... this went on for a good 15 minutes... the other adults, including me was trying to get him to stop... trying to take her from him.. I ran to my room once my sister had my niece... I called the police and reported the abuse... after there investigation... 3 people saying the same thing... the police told me that it was just a case of a father disciplining their child and that I should mind my own business from now on.... My niece to this day has back problems because of that beating... but the people in uniform turned their cheek to the abuse!!! Needless to say her dad was NEVER ALLOWED AT MY HOUSE AGAIN!!! Child abuse is around, it no longer should just be ignored!!! People wonder why these teenagers are so ANGRY, and VIOLATE!! Blaming everything else on earth but themselves! Wake up people, love your children each and everyone... They are God's gifts to us, and its our responsibility to protect them!!!!!
11 Sep 09
I'm a mom too and that is one of the most important things I considered before I took job. Is my daughter going to be safe while I'm away? good thing my mom and cousin take very good care of her. They love her very very much. I am blessed to have these people in my life. I feel sad that those parents weren't as lucky as I am and I do hope that those kind of baby-sitters be punished. I don't know what I will do if I ended up with cruel baby-sitters. I'd probably kill her.hehehe just kidding.
@vandana7 (51277)
• India
11 Sep 09
Hi Sanziana, I think people have to face the fact that for every 5 women out there who love children, there is at least one who really has no affinity towards children. She is pretending she has because society expects her to! It is inconceivable for us to think that a woman does not want children. There may be many reasons for her her developing those dislikes, like being saddled with a bunch of younger siblings when young instead of being allowed to play about freely. So what is childhood resentment gets attuned to watching only those aspects in life, and it merely continues to consolidate till the foundation becomes very hard to break. Likewise, every woman who steers clear of children, is not exactly averse to them. Remember David Copperfield's aunt? I for one feel, the need to leave the child in somebody else's custody should not arise. For so long as a child is a child, parents should be willing to forego their pleasures. That is also part of the price of parenthood. If they have to work, then baby sitter is no solution. They do need to look at people who truly love children, and would be more than willing to have them around, with or without monies. I read another post of a young toddler being beaten up at a supermarket by an elderly man. The rules of disliking children apply to both sexes. It is just that we need to realize that when we tell our older one look after ur baby sister or baby brother, instead of allowing them to go their way, it creates resentment.
@horsesrule (1883)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Yes, it it very terrible, child abuse. And it is not just that it affects the child but when the child grows up, he is messed up in the head. I know this because my parents, both of them, were child abusers to me and my brother when we were growing up. The last time my father hit me was when I was 21 years old and I had my daughter with me. I was very scared but did not take it and threw a bowl of cat food at him and vowed never to speak to him again. It was awful and I did not speak to him for many years. The only reason I ever did speak to him was because of my mother. I have never been scared of him again though so that is a good thing even though it was awful at the time. So I am very against child abuse. I believe that as parents, our job is to protect the children.
• Hong Kong
10 Sep 09
i totally agree with you, i mean that woman which screwd up. totaly mad. Its going to be really hard to solve a problem like that because most parents i think nowdays only want like a little angle with no faults and when they do and they do not like or expect it, they hit them. People do not even resonaise the true nature and virture of children only thinking they are little angels who look cute in photos or something.