Not married for carreer, is it normal for you?

@pormadi (1300)
Indonesia
September 10, 2009 2:38am CST
I found many women and men do not get married for carrer reason. Sometimes I can accept that situation. I think it is not normal situation. I do not know what they want in their life. Any opinion about this?
10 responses
• United States
10 Sep 09
Some people do hold off on marriage for careers. But I find here that couples hold off on having kids nowdays. IT's so common for people to not have a family until they are in their mid 30's or later. Wich in a way has it's benefits of more mature and established parents. On the otherhand having kids so late is not always the best when you are older as one could have high risk pregnancy. And no one wants to say that their parents are the ones who are elderly by the time they finish school and have to pep to enjoy Grandkids ect.
@pormadi (1300)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 09
I do see some of them were 30 - 50 years old. Sometimes I think they found difficulties to get the best couples for future. So the reasons maybe not for carreer only. There are many reasons to them.
@Eisenherz (2911)
• Portugal
14 Sep 09
Some people are too afraid of dealing with their own emotions so they use their career as an excuse to not pursue a relationship as serious as marriage, you see. I personally don't accept them and think that they should seek help. God forbid they miss the most important thing in life...
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
well according for some, the people who are gifted into having a beautiful career ended up as being failure when it comes to love and vice versa. i think it's true because when we priorities something for so much we tend to forget the rest.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
10 Sep 09
This could happen when both men and women alike are married to the job. I also think this might be a very worrying trend..
• India
10 Sep 09
i am in love with a girl. she is the most worlderfull and understanding girl in my life.. so i never experience any thing came between me and her career. but i know one thing that if you are helping and faithful towards your partner then married life will not disturb your career...
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
10 Sep 09
What a waste of a great opportunity for happiness. I was a workaholic for many years and all that was on my mind was the job. I loved what I did but that didn't fill the void. I needed something more in my life. That was a good lady in my life. Eventually I took my head out of my work long enough to meet someone and we have now been married 27 years and have a 23 year old son. What I would have missed if I had continued the way I was going. Get your head out of your career long enough to see that you can have both and be much happier.
• India
10 Sep 09
s .. if u r really passionate abt ur career den u can wait until u succeed in ur career n den get married.....
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
Hi pormadi I would also choose career over marriage. I had a bad experience with men back in high school and its kinda hard to forget that experience. It causes me to have fear in entering a relationship. Aside from that, I have also seen some couples who are having trouble keeping their relationship last longer while the singles are enjoying their lives being a single with a successful career and no worries. I would rather choose to be a single with a successful career rather than being with someone who will eventually make you cry.
@wolf2999 (213)
• China
10 Sep 09
Have never experienced love and be loved is indeed a bit sad.But fate is alse a goodly portion of luck things.Can only be as many as possible to pay own sincere,to get trun love.
• China
10 Sep 09
In some way,I think it's acceptable. Marriage is one of the most important things we pursue in our life.So we all have to consider many factors which could influence future development.For example,if the 2 people are all busy working with full schedule and even little time to relax,then what about when they get married and have kids,maybe no one want to quit the job or change a less-schedule one.