Are you afraid to criticize people's discussions?

United States
September 10, 2009 3:19pm CST
So, on mylot, you have to interacting with different people to earn money. The more socialized you are, the more money you will earn from mylot. Some people really have great discussions out here, and meaningful. I would more than happy to interact them, and give my honest personal opinion. For some serious discussion, for instance, politics, would you willing to give an honesty crticism on their discussions, even it would anger them, or they might revenge on your ratings? Would you willing to risk that?
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21 responses
@tdemex (3547)
• United States
10 Sep 09
When I fist started here I ventured in to the political arena and my star went from a 10 to a 6 LOL! It's taken me a long time to build it back up! I still go there as you've seen but I'm still nervous about it! T----
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• United States
10 Sep 09
wow, the thing is mylot allow people to do revenge rating. Even your opinion isn't provocative or defamation to anyone. You just express your mind on mylot. Some people just couldn't take it as a comment, and honesty.
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• United States
11 Sep 09
Well, I hope so, because last time I just reached my 9 points, and someone or some group of people just instantly pulled me down to 8 again. It took me a while to get it back where I am now. That is no fair, and it is not rightful.
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• Canada
11 Sep 09
I gave you all plus. Quite frankly I think the rest of us should give out more pluses so the cranks cannot affect our ratings. + + + +
@arkansos (546)
• India
11 Sep 09
Well, although I am not afraid of criticizing other people's discussions, I avoid doing that. Why Piss someone off? SO if its a bad decison, I just avoid responding. That's all.
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
11 Sep 09
So how do you manage to get your point across if you are afraid you will piss someone off?
@twooten (64)
• United States
11 Sep 09
you should never be afraid to speak your mind. in mean everyone is entitled to their own opinion. true adults should be able to speak their mind on any topic without being offensive, derogatory, mean or hateful. In my forty years of life i have found there is always a way to get your point across with words that are nice, truthful, but gets lets the listener know exactly what you mean. I make it a point to always remember what one of my teachers taught me. A person convinced their will is of the same opinion still. so you can agree to disagree and still be cordial to one another.
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
11 Sep 09
This is true but only if you are dealing with true adults. One person will always submit in order to keep good stimulating conversations going forth. But on the other hand if you are dealing with immature adults, well let's just say that's another story entirely. As they may not know how to submit at the right time.
@Quiplet (255)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Sure. You can give an honest belief of your own in politics without offending anyone. If they do get offended by your remarks, they are the jerks, not you. Opinions on MyLot are important, aren't they?
• United States
10 Sep 09
Well, I believe what you say here is honest, and I like your comment too. But not everyone can be like you, and be able to accept others' criticism. We all have to listen to criticism to learn what mistakes we make, or what other area we should need be improved ourselves.
@Qaeyious (2362)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I am pretty open when I think someone's view of the world is a bit screwy. One example is a poster who thought that pedestrians should follow the rules of the road while they are on the sidewalk, including not stopping to look around them. Another gave the opinion that people should wash their private parts with water after urinating. I gave my dissenting opinion with no problem, though I have yet to receive a best response from such a discussion.
• United States
11 Sep 09
Best comment is hard to given to people, and many people won't care about it at all. We all trying our best to achieve the best in mylot, and while others just want to do the malicious part.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
11 Sep 09
I have seen many who are over protective of their reputation and fear that their rating will dived badly if they are critical. They will just refuse to talk about something because 'these are sensitive issues.' When in fact they mean 'I don't want to talk about it because you are going to give me a hard time'. I have been to these hot spots on many occasions in my early parts of involvement in mylot which resulted in my rating becoming stagnant far too long or sliding down. I wish I had been more 'decent' and become a 'yesman' all throughout and it would not affect my reputation badly. Anyway, I have since mellowed down and no longer in an opposition party but a pro to all discussion as am getting tired of being volleyed for going against the grain.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
it is better not to criticize if a user do not like discussion they should leave it alone, read after then ignore. no more issuess..peace!!
@LiveLove (445)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I don't mind discussing what I disagree with in a discussion and I don't have a problem with people criticizing me. I would hope that my discussions aren't negative but if so, then my rating will just have to go down. I just enjoy how so many different views can be expressed here without being inflammatory and how sensible the mylotters are. It is why i always try to come back to this site when I have the chance.
@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I always think that it is important to tell the truth even if it hurts. I tend to have a sharp tongue so I don't like being mean but if I have to then I will. It is important for people to realize their mistakes. Also, I don't have a tolerance for people who discuss issues they don't talk about and I feel that they should be told off for their lack of information.
@dhugoi (315)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I would love to discuss my view what ever the topic are, its up to them if they find something sinister to it. But I always prefer concise statement just to nurture points on concern.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
11 Sep 09
if there was something controversial going on I avoided it because if I disagreed I heard that annoyed people would go through all your posts and rate you negatively. I know I disagreed with one person and my star ran down because I didn't have very many posts at the time. The negative button is used to punish as evidenced by the previous poster who had his star plummet through to a six, and then had to build it up over long periods of time. If I disagree with somebody I try to do it in a nice way.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I believe that everyone is welcome to share all their ideas here in mylot for as long as we follow their rules. So when someone submit a discussion here, she/he must ready to read any reactions or ideas about his/her topic. Well, if a person don't want to criticize his/her discussion then he/she must keep it on his/her self. Everyone of us has its own views or opinions and we are all free to express it, that is why there is a law of "freedom of speech" for every person has the right to speak out their minds no matter what topic it is. Obviously, I'm not afraid to speak out what's in my mind. I will surely give him/her a honest personal opinion regarding his/her topic that interest me. Well, if she/he gets mad what I've said then that's his/her problem already. Right??
• Australia
11 Sep 09
It is possible to disagree without criticising. I have had very lengthy discussions with people of opposite viewpoints, but everything has been with civility and respect. In fact, I became very firm friends with someone with opposing views. I will politely put my view anytime, but if others use disrespect or "put-downs" I will just withdraw. It is of no avail to discuss matters with such people.
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
11 Sep 09
No not really because some people bring up arguments or points that just really upset me and don't seem logical or humane when they say them. All you can really do though is state your opinion and hopefully make them think a little bit differently then they did before but that doesn't always happen so you just have to forget about it.
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I am not afraid to criticize but I have to admit to keep it to myself than put it in writing. I think the reasons the user put on discussion is to let other user put heir ideas and opinion on it. If you happen to find that it is a stupid, funny and irrelevant topics. You need to ignore it and never ever bother to reply on it to avoid flaming war.Peace!!
@vandana7 (63594)
• India
11 Sep 09
Hey politics is just a topic for me. It is not something that I am passionate about. I just have some ideas, and opinions on that subject. So if a friend of mine does discuss something, and her opinion is exactly opposite mine, I do not have any issues with it. As a matter of fact, I think of it as opportunity to express why I think the way I think, and I am sure he or she thinks of it as opportunity to come out with their reasoning as well. Many a times, in real life, we take a stand on issues, without thinking things thru. Here, we can ponder about what is right and what is wrong more clearly, read thru others opinions, reassess our position, and then come up with what we think can be correct thing. Since the possibility of coming to blows are virtually nil, I dont c why I should be afraid to criticize others discussions. And it is also the way u say it I suppose. Here u get more time to choose ur words carefully. In real life the words have to come to ur mind in real time. So avoiding unpleasantness is very easy in virtual environment.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Hi there clorissa, you bring up a good point as far as not being able to be honest on discussions because it will affect your ranking. As far as politics are concerned I would rather not get in the midst of it simply because it can be too controversial but as far as other discussions go I do feel that we should be discussing them openly and honestly. Even if our ranking is affected we should feel free to speak what's on our minds, or else how is there any freedom of speech?
@lamar91 (25)
10 Sep 09
I am not afraid of criticizing anyone's discussion if i find it necessary with with reasons,but you need to understand we are are to share thoughts,i would suggest all of us shall be understandable with a great manner because at the end we are all one team. The more we give honest thoughts ,the more we succeed.
@banadux (630)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I do sometimes avoid some conversations where I know I will have an unpopular response to the issue. On occasion, I do throw in on a conversation that I don't agree with, sometimes with good response and other times with bad response. I don't think your rating matters in relation to how much you get from myLot it only matters to other users I guess.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Hi Clorissa123 Yes I would be willing to give collective criticism I would't want to be obnoxious or mean but also you have to tell it the way you see it don't sugar coat it . There is a way of getting a point across without being insulting,I realize that some people take things very personally especially if it is a topic that they feel strongly about such as politics and relgion and so forth. We all at some point and time can easily take offense to something someone says thats human nature but you have to remember its just an opinion and everyone is entitled to one (although sometimes a lot easier said then done) Even though they are just typed words on a screen when someone is addressing you it makes it seem like their talking to you in person at times especially if they use your name when responding to a topic youv'e created. Theres no way to prevent people from responding in a negative way if they feel they have been insulted or disrespected regarding a topic they have started and feel strongly about or is of a sensative nature to them. For me I take it with a grain of salt..........and move on.