Have you ever cheated your partner?

Romania
September 10, 2009 3:33pm CST
I thought of this topic because it's a very common aspect of our daily life. There are few who are still "pure" but even they do cheat maybe only with their mind. Not necessarily involving into a concrete relationship. But for those who do involve I was curious about their basic reasons. Why choosing to live like that? I don't pretend to be the innocent one in here, I'm asking this just to know how others think, what are the real motifs they rely on when engaging in this kind of relationships. Do you believe you're entitled to cheat if you feel you are neglected, bored? It was just an episode, or you practice this frequently for having fun, or just because this is your true nature?
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15 responses
• Australia
10 Sep 09
When I married, it was a vow to be faithful to my husband "as long as we both shall live". This was the intent of my heart and my mind and I can honestly say that in almost 50 years of happy marriage I have never even thought about another man in that way. Some will say that is because I have a happy marriage; that if I wasn't happy I might think differently. That is their opinion, but I know as far as I am concerned, it is wrong. Marriage is what you make of it. A good marriage doesn't just happen - but it will happen when two people have the same ideals. I hold that the reason for most failed marriages today is the fact that people rush into a relationship without getting to know each other (mentally, personality, character, likes and dislikes, etc) first. I do not believe there is ever any excuse for cheating.
• Romania
11 Sep 09
I liked your response, I think you're right. Thank you for sharing your views, I thought that happy marriages don't exist anymore in this days.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
10 Sep 09
I did it on my past, not proud if it but one just has to go on with life. It may, in my opinion, have to do with one's personality and one was raised, under what values one was educated, etc. I can't deny it was a phisically pleasent sensation but afterwards, the emotional damage done to the significant other(s) was aomewhat tormenting, at least for me. But as I said, life goes on.
• Romania
10 Sep 09
Thank you for your response, I like people who are frank.
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• India
11 Sep 09
I would say both yes and no. No coz the incidents occurred before I met my partner but nevertheless, they did happen and so I say ‘yes’. I have been in relations with other guys till I met my husband but I have never been able to tell him about them. So, in a way I have cheated him.
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• Romania
11 Sep 09
If you feel bad for not telling him this, maybe you should do it. But, think about it twice before actually doing it. Would this serve for something?Is it worth to do this? Think if you're not hurting him, he may never trust you again after knowing this. If you didn't cheated him, I guess it doesn't matter your past. Do you think he's that honest with you, do you believe he had told you everything about him? My opinion is that if you are happy with him, don't cause any trouble by mentioning facts that happened before you even met him. Have a good day!
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
i have never cheated on a partner. i loathe cheating. i do not like people who cheat. i would never commit myself to someone if i am just going to betray his trust. when i commit, it is for real. if there are problems between us, cheating is not the answer to fix those problems. talking about it is. cheating is an excuse for people who are too cowardly to just say it straight to your face that they want out of the relationship. you would never cheat if you truly respect/love your partner. you know that if you cheat, you might lose your partner. then why cheat? why would you risk losing your partner if what you have between you is the real thing?
• Romania
11 Sep 09
Yes, you are right. But, look around you, there aren't to many who see things like you and I, unfortunately. In our days, it seems almost impossible to have long and stable relationships.Anyway, thx for your comment.
@ladyhope (377)
• Canada
10 Sep 09
I have never cheated on any of my past boyfriends. I think that if my relationship was at the point that I was thinking about it, I would just break up with my boyfriend. That being said, I know that many people have different reasons for cheating and I don't judge those who do.
• Argentina
11 Sep 09
I've never cheated. If I'm happy with someone why should I cheat? And if I'm not happy, why should I stay with that person? I would leave him, but I'd never cheat.
• Thailand
11 Sep 09
Very well put nafazolina.. I couldn't agree more. I was thinking of making a comment here similar as yours but i guess i wouldn't anymore, would I? LOL..that is going to be redundant. Leave the person if you don't love him/her because you are not just hurting your significant other, you will hurt yourself in the process too. Now, if a person is happy with her partner, why would she cheat? Doesn't make sense. As one of the respondent here said, that it a nice feeling physically but a torture emotionally.
• Romania
11 Sep 09
Good point :) Many say sorry afterwards, but they can't take back what they've done. Funny is that in general you hear something like " well, I didn't wanted to do this, it was just beacuse I'm a man...you know, men are different" etc. I don't suggest that only men are those who cheat, I refer to them as they tend to do it more frequently.
@pippino (31)
• India
11 Sep 09
Strange! The question isn't but the person asking! Pardon me, but why ask such a question? In all probability, not many will be telling the truth and we are not saintly! All it needs is a moments 'weakness' to which almost all are susceptable, that's hat I believe, and it's been happening thousands of years ago! Nothing new. We are to blame. Not the act itself. If we dont keep ourselves happy and our partner happy and if we are not content..........then there's no such thing as 'cheating'!
• Romania
11 Sep 09
Well, how do you call it then? "It's been happening thousands of years ago..." Yeah right, and it is still happening, so my question it's not too exagerated. Yes, we are weak, cause we are human and of course nobody pretends to be a saint in here.However, weakness it's not a plausible reason, as we tend to suggest we are not like animals, we pretend to be rational creatures, right? Instead of cheating, why not ending that situation? Is it because cowardly, maybe? And if there's no thing such as happiness, then this is a great motif for breaking up with that person, not playing the caring angel. Have a nice day!
@Rakshas (223)
• India
11 Sep 09
I n my partner going together from 6 yrs after 3 yrs he got bored of me n didn't gave me attention n was just chilling out with his friends i called him up but just ignored me every time.This was the phase when i felt of ditching him n yes once i have cheated my partner N not feeling good..I regret doing this..But at that point of time i did got attention from my boyfriend so i did it.It wasn't purposely but now cant help it.I feel sorry about it
• Romania
11 Sep 09
At least you have the courage to tell the truth, this is a positive attribute of your personality, I guess. Thx for sharing.
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
11 Sep 09
I have never cheated my partner and never even in my wildest dreams can think of something like this.I have an arranged marriage and it has been 2.5 years of our marriage and we are going great.My in laws and my partner hid some facts from me and from my family regarding their financial status and it shattered me completely when i came to know about the reality but somehow i managed to accept it because i was pregnant at that time and took it as a challenge to improve my condition,mentally and financially and i can say that i am achieving my targets.
• Romania
11 Sep 09
It's great if you are fine, and you had forgive him...Happy marriage and happy lotting as well :)
@prinzcy (5049)
• Malaysia
11 Sep 09
I never do that, even with all my exes. I believe that relationship should be based on trust and loyalty. However, I've been cheated and that really irked me. It's a good thing I dumped him after that. Still, I don't pay him back by cheating on him on return. Two wrong doesn't make one right, even if he's the one that did it first. I don't want to be on the same level as he was.
• Romania
11 Sep 09
Nice attitude, if you had cheated him only for revenge it would have been even worse. You can't choose to resolve a problem in this way. Thx for your comment!
@rmuxagirl (7561)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I could never imagine cheating on my partner. I care about him dearly and wouldn't do anything that would jeapordize what I have with him. I dont see the point in cheating on my partner because if I didnt want to be with him then don't be with him..
11 Sep 09
Life is always about choice. Cheating our partner is (in my opinion) based on a lot of conditions. I know one couple, the girl cheated her boyfriend in order to do revenge. The boy cheated the girl long before she did. Another couple, the boy cheated the girl because the girl didn't fulfill his private desire. The last couple of my example, the boy cheated his girlfriend just simply because he wanted another. There must be a reason behind act. Some of them do cheat their partner just for fun.=)
@adityalk (45)
• India
11 Sep 09
well the answer to that question is a big no i never cheated my patner. i love her very much and can die for her. And we both also have a good understanding between us.
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
not ever! never ever!
• India
11 Sep 09
No, i never did it, and i will never do it though..If in case in future if i would not happy with my partner then i will leave him but i will never cheat him.. If i cheat anybody that means i m cheating myself as next person trust me and i cant play with the trust..