my sister

United States
September 10, 2009 6:43pm CST
I have a sister who happens to be 4 years older than me.We grew up together and she eventually moved 1100 miles away. Over the summer my kids and i went down to visit for a month because my nephew graduated. My oldest ended up staying for another month until the end of July, when they both flew in. Anyways she was here for a week visiting, i think she had a lot of disappointments while she was here. Although she never said much about it,I think she was expecting more than she received. Well i hadn't talked to her since she left, so today i text-ed her to ask why she wasn't talking to me. She replied she was mad at me for several reasons, told me to figure them out. I didn't even know she was mad at me, just thought we spent too much time together and we needed a break. She proceeds to tell me all the things that i have done to piss her off while she was here plus other times in our lives. She tells me i don't love myself so that is the reason i don't love my kids. She tells me my family is not important and that i would rather take a nap then do anything with my kids. There's more to this if anyone is interested. I just want to know what i should do cause i already don't talk to my parents, so if anyone might have some advice for me, please respond.
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@Audrina (47)
• United States
13 Sep 09
My sister is older than me and she is always cheating on whoever she dates. This time was suppose to be different. She got engaged and I thought she really meant it. Well she just recently got a new job and met some other guy there. Out of nowhere she just ends the engagement and tries to tell my family that it's because he has changed. Who does she think she's fooling? Now it's like every night she is going out with this guy she met at work and her ex is calling us up saying that my sister is a good person and that she didn't break up with him for any reason such as that. HAHAHA
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• United States
15 Sep 09
sometimes they are not always the ones to have the best judgement....when she was up here she didnt like her husband and when she went back, he was perfect, i thought she met someone on the plane haha....
@Hatley (164395)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 09
femaleinohio hi thats really hard to take for you,how unkind'she was a and she sounds like she might for some reason be jealous of' you,that would make her spout off like that. I would take all she said with a grain or two of salt and wait awhile. then try ' talking to her again and remind her you are sisters and you 'want her to respect you.you will not put up with her garbage.
• United States
15 Sep 09
same thing my therapist said...thanks :)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I completly agree that she is probably most likely jelouse this is very common among sisters
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Hi femaleinohio, sorry to hear about this drama that's going on with your sister. I have several sister too so I understand how things can be. I think you probably need to try to pull your sister aside and try to talk to her. Perhaps after you've given her some time to cool off. Once this happens you probably need to tell her that since she moved away, it has sort of put some distance in between the two of you and you therefore aren't able to relate with her in the manner in which you'd like. ( Personally speaking this really has happened between me and a couple of my sisters.) So after you give her a chance to air out some of her feelings. Then tell her that you still love her and that you will try to do better in the future. Ya know friend, sometimes we have to bite the bullet in order to keep the peace between our family members. I find that I have to do this quite often with younger ones. Usually not so much with older ones. Well anyways, hope this helps and good luck, Happy mylot!
• United States
15 Sep 09
thanks citychick.....we r still not talking and i are right about the drama, thats all it is. i will not kiss her behind in order to speak to her, c there lies the problem i always wanted to please her so whatever she said i usually said ok too.she doesnt like when i state my own opinion.
@Jennlk84 (4219)
• United States
10 Sep 09
wow - I'm sorry your sister is acting this way! Did she give you specifics? Like real reasons why she was feeling upset? I mean just telling you to "figure it out" is really immature. I really hope the two of you can get things figured out and are getting along again soon.
• United States
15 Sep 09
as of today we are still not talking so -whatever- she doesnt like when i tell her when shes wrong lol
@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Wow, that's pretty harsh. Does she have reason to be mad because of these things she mentioned? Do you treat your family badly?? If so, I can understand her being a bit mad, but if not then I guess you two need a long talk. My sister has three kids and doesn't have custody of any of them for one reason or another. (My mother has custody of one, the father of another girl has custody of her, and the family of the third niece has custody...) However, I love my sister and she does try. She is almost 4 years older than me just like you and your sister. I think for anyone to help more you may need to give some more detailed information. It sounds like there is a lot more to it than just what's been written here to start.
@satan88 (586)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
10 Sep 09
i don't think she should be judging you unless she herself has a perfect family. As your sister, she should be more supportive of you no matter what she thinks.
• United States
15 Sep 09
thank-you satan for ur response. ur right she has n right to judge anyone and she only supports me when its good for her.
• United States
6 Oct 09
I dont know the whole story but from what your saying your sisteer sounds like an older sister. lol I'm older than my sister by 4 years too. and we can get angry at each other reason but I think thats because were both still young. I think that you really need to make things right with her becauuse thats terrible that you don't talk to your parents. I don't know enough to tell you what to do, but definitly don't let things get out of control. good luck with your sister.