I took in my friend as she was homeless.

@onlydia (2808)
United States
September 12, 2009 2:22am CST
Ok I said that I just couldn't do it again. And that I felt bad about not doing it. And it was making me almost sick I couldn't leave her out side in her broke down van. She is going to be 60 years old and she can bairly walk. She has no money until the middle of the month. So yes I took her in as I'm her only friend and she is a nice Lady. She would help me if I needed it and if I asked her. I didn't let her ask me this time I called her. So she is on my couch and my other friend that was homeless is in my craft room. So I'm back to no room. My son has his room and I still have mine. So we are Ok. She is on the couch as she can't walk up my stairs. So would you take in a friend that was homeless or make them sleep in there car?
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@dragon54u (31651)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I would never make someone sleep in their car, I have been in that situation and wouldn't wish it on anyone! Good for you, taking in your friends. You don't have any spare room now but if you are ever in the same situation someone will make room for you.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Yes I know about sleeping in my car as well, and you know I never got help. So I know how it is and I didn't want that for her or for my other friend that I took in. He still needs work on how to be responsible. But working on that. Doing better. You have a great day my friend. Your friend onlydia
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@ackerdog (41)
• United States
12 Sep 09
you can help if they will accept help,just as long as they're not pigs that do not appreciate all that laid before them,so ya depending on the situation probably yes,even at my expense,as long as they would help keep house clean.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
even a pig needs a home. I tell mine the kitchen and bathroom can't be a mess. You have a wonderful day and weekend your friend onlydia
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Yup....I would probably do the same! I don't think I could leave someone outside trying to fein for themselves with winter coming....and with no money.....good for you darling! You have a very big and good heart!
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Thank you and good for you as well. I think we all know people that have lost a lot in the past two years. So you have a wonderful weekend and talk to you later. Your friend onlydia
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• United States
12 Sep 09
I personally think you have done one of the nicest things anyone could ever do to help someone out. I commend you on your actions and I feel it will come back to you threefold. It's just plain wonderful, and I read your answers to some of the discussions and she sounds like a very lovely lady, just someone with big problems. I'm sure she is so very happy just to feel safe, secure, and warm. If she can't walk how does she support herself? You mentioned you have a craft room? Could she possibly make crafts and sell them? For some strange reason I think you were suppose to take her in, and you did. Maybe you'll find out the reason soon enough, or maybe later on, but you will figure it out eventually. It was meant to be. Big Hugs to you...xxx
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Thank you very much I try to be nice. And sometimes it comes off as they think I'm mean but I'm not. She is having a blast living here. Up all night after work watching movies. We have been having a blast. No she can't do crafts. My craft room I lost to my other homeless friend. So now half is in my room the rest is in my computor room of sorts it is right off the living room. So it is open and we hang out and talk and she sleeps on the couch as she can't make it up the steps I handed her the cane and said use this to get up and down. She is hard headed as she thinks the pain will go away. It is her hip and knee. You have a wonderful day.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Awww Thank you onlydia for BR! How is it going with the lady?
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• United States
18 Sep 09
I'm so happy to hear all is well! Bless your little heart!
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@sid556 (30999)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Me? I have taken in people that I barely know at all. Got burned a few times on that deal and am now much more selective. A friend? I think it would be impossible to say no to a friend in such a situation. The problem with where I am currently living is that it would be a risk because I am in low income housing and I could lose my apartment if I were to let people that are not on the lease live here. I could take in a friend for a couple of weeks but it would have to be under the understanding that they are seriously looking for another place. Also, I am barely getting by as it is. I need to think of my daughter. I could not afford to support anyone else at this time as it would take away from her & that would not be right.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
I think most of us that have taken in people have been burned. I have a few times and most of that was by family. So there is only three family members that I would only take in and the rest no. So yes your right on that. You have a great day.
• United States
13 Sep 09
Been there, did that. Had 1 really good experience & one really bad one. One was a friend plus 2 dogs- that was great & the other was an inlaw- That was a HUGE mistake- he stole from me- So friend- YES! Family, not so much...
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Oh my yes. Why is it that family are the worst to stay with you? As if you owe them. You are a good person and hope your day is wonderful. Your friend onlydia
@prinzcy (5042)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 09
That's a nice thing to do. She's sixty so I guess it's okay for you to take care of her. Especially she only sleep in her van and she is sick. I may not be as nice as you. I can help a friend but not a couple of friends. But that won't be for long. I don't know, maybe I am selfish but I have my own responsibility. God, I am selfish! How did she end up staying in her van?
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
18 Sep 09
she got laid off and was trying to pay the rent and the rest of the bills and got behind and he kicked her out. No your not selfish I believe you would help a friend not all can help more then one at a time. You have a good day.
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• Malawi
12 Sep 09
Yeah but on condition that it won't be a permanent stay. Maybe a maximum of six months
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
12 Sep 09
It mite be 6 months maybe less. But she is trying to get all her money right and get her van fixed as it broke down in my drive way. In three weeks this is what has happened to her. Lost her one van broke for good. Lost her home. Then was in a car accident then her van broke down again in my drive way. she is a very nice person. So I will help her again. And yes she will be in her own place soon as that is what she wants.
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@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
12 Sep 09
That is kind of you. I did not have to take home any homeless friend. All of them have homes or are living in a rented flat.
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@KrauseHome (36220)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Personally for me, it would really depend on who they were, and the situation involved as well. If they were homeless thru no fault of their own, and I knew they were someone I could have around and Trust them, then I would say go for it, but how do you really know what is best for sure? I hear so many Horror stories sometimes I guess I would have to Pray about it first, unless it is short term temporary and then decide from there. Wishing you the Best.