no room for you inside my house

@jb78000 (15173)
September 13, 2009 5:18am CST
this probably won't apply to everyone. have you ever shared a house or flat with someone who you really wanted to move out? i have once - i shared a flat with a man who i originally got on ok with although he was a bit strange and my other flatmates didn't like him. anyway they moved out and a couple of my friends moved in and this man turned utterly psychotic on me, i was scared to be in the flat alone with him. it ended up that he moved out before the landlady could throw him out but it was a disturbing experience.
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@kprofgames (3103)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Oh that sounds bad. I only had one male roommate and that was my brother in college. He drove me nuts. Other than that there was on gal that shared an appartment and I told her, her time was up. I hated coming home from work and the place was full of people I don't know because it was party central. I could understand it, she JUST moved out from her parents place and she was in party mode, but honestly I was a year older and so past that.
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
i've shared with my brother before and we get on well. couldn't share with my sister though, apart from anything else you wouldn't be able to move for shoes. that flatmate sounds like she should have been sharing with people with the same interests (parties and boozing by the sounds of it)
• Canada
13 Sep 09
She should have asked you first, even if you were cool with it, it would be the respectful thing to do to talk it out first, even if your over that stage any person is WAY more likely to deal with it if you were talkd to about it first.
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@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I've never had a roommate. I think it would really be bad if you got a bad one because of the stories I hear just like yours.
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
you heard any particularly scary ones?
@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Mostly it's been about not paying rent, stealing from the other roommates, and not being respectful of the others. I couldn't put up with that I would probably beat them up and be arrested LOL
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
oh yes, forgot, in another sharing arrangement we had a thief. didn't take anything from our rooms but it was not safe to leave food in the fridge. now none of us minded someone taking a bit of something but this guy would guzzle entire blocks of cheese and the like.
@tdemex (3547)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Well having lived through the Hippie days of the 60's it was a natural thing in Detroit to share crash pads with like persons enjoying the same life style! It usually went pretty well! There were a few though that were kind of phony and took the free love thing a little to far! We had to protect the gals against some of the pervs! LOL! tdemex
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
i have a story about pervy hippies too. several years ago i was helping out greenpeace at glastonbury and we had these solar showers, with a communal changing room. (not the brightest idea that one) several of us took turns sitting in this room watching out for all the perverts (some would try and stay there all day) and chucking them out.
@smacksman (6074)
13 Sep 09
Sounds to me that your friends are a good judge of character. Poor you, that must have been a terrible experience for you. Good job you got shot of him.
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
he'd turned on them first. yep it was terrible - i was only 20 at the time.
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
14 Sep 09
Oh, poor you. Yeah, I've had several people I've felt like this with (it stands to reason since I've had over 20 roommates in 8 years -- I move a lot). I'm actually living it right now. I made the HUGE mistake of asking a friend of mine who was moving out of a dorm if she wanted to move in with me and my roommate and it's been a huge regret since she accepted. I actually remember sitting on my balcony the week before she moved in thinking, "I am going to regret this". And sure enough, 4 months later, I do. She's not a TERRIBLE roommate, but she's not great either. Her dishes sit in the sink for days on end and rarely cleans, monopolizes the TV, has constant drama in her life that I have to listen to endlessly, has demanded my cat stay in my bedroom ONLY and just plain out makes me feel uncomfortable in my own home. I guess I'll leave first, though, since I'm already planning to move in the next few months.
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@jb78000 (15173)
14 Sep 09
bit on the thoughtless side then? was she demanding as a friend before she lived with you?
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@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
14 Sep 09
I guess in retrospect, yeah, she always was a little self centred that way. I had several instances in the past where I would get blown off because 'something came up' only to discover that the something that came up was her boyfriend deciding to make time for her. And then the next time he acted thoughtless and cruel to her, she was right back to calling me wanting to hang out all the time. She's been really pushy and domineering in the past, too, so I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around her because she has a short temper and is SCARY when she's mad.
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@jb78000 (15173)
14 Sep 09
she sounds hard work. some people like that improve as they get older. some don't
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@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Sep 09
Hi jb! We used to share our own flat with my hubby's relatives, for some time we were living together as one family but on some instances we don't get to be in good terms like sharing of housework and basic expenditures that ought be burdened by everybody instead of my husband paying for everything. It was a relief when they decided to move out and find their own place. And now we all have the privacy with me and my husband living alone in our own place. Good Day!
@jb78000 (15173)
14 Sep 09
hiya, sounds like they were really taking advantage of you and your husband there.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
14 Sep 09
When I was in college I stayed in a boarding house wherein a room was shared by 4 people. I had one room mate who was a little oversized and since there was very small room for movement, she would almost always bump on something, either my or my other roommates' personal belongings, or hers. My other room mates didn't like her but I felt they were discriminating just because she wasn't our "size", so I was always on her side. One time I was working on a term paper and all my neatly typed reports (using a typewriter - no computers back then) were spread on the table, when she came crushing in with a bottle of soda, and spilled it on all my papers. I was left in shock, as I had to submit it on the following day. I could have pulled all her hair and erased her face right that moment, but tact got the better of me and I just said, can you help me clean this mess? I had to re-do everything and didn't sleep all night to finish the paper. It was terrible. I stopped talking to her for almost two months, but also realized it wasn't her fault if she was fat, maybe just a little clumsy and perhaps has low self-esteem. We kissed ma made up later on. I felt sad when she moved out and found another boarding house on the following semester, while my 2 other room mates rejoiced.
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@jb78000 (15173)
14 Sep 09
that's quite a sad story - obviously it wasn't her fault but i suppose i can see how that could have become annoying. good to hear that you stayed friends though.
@akotalagato (1335)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
when i was working in a place far from home, i had to share a house with another officemate because the rent was so high. we got along just fine in the first few weeks but as time passed by, there are things about her that annoyed me greatly and i think she was also annoyed by some of the things i did too. to make the long story short, there are really some people that you cannot get along with no matter how much you try. we all have different characteristics that other people find annoying. and unless you are both willing to compromise, there is really no way to live with each other. i guess this also applies with married people or people in relationships. but i havent actually experienced living with a psycho before. thank goodness!
@jb78000 (15173)
14 Sep 09
i think there are also people who you can get along with but not live with. i've already described one of them.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Does an ex-husband count? LOL! I haven't had that problem but many, many years ago my brother shared an apartment with a friend of his who turned out to be more of a slob than my brother and, suddenly, my brother had standards! He hated that he had to clean up after his friend and he was also irritated by his friend's habit of falling asleep with the television in his bedroom blaring so loudly that my brother would wake up several times every night by the noise. They didn't live together for very long as I recall.
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
there are some friends who you can't live with. i had one very good one who i stayed with for visits after i moved away from the city. he had a cat that wasn't housetrained and i have to say staying there was not a great experience.
@prinzcy (5057)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
That's scary. It's a good thing he moved out first. If not, you better moved out better he did something. Well, we might be exaggerating but a house suppose to act as our hide out, a place to feel relax and at ease. Not to be afraid something might happen as soon as you close your eyes. I lived with others before return home. But I never had any experience like you. I guess it's a good thing or I'll remember it for the rest of my life.
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
for a couple of months after that my heart would start racing whenever i saw someone who looked like him.
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I have, I had a friend and her husband move in with me because they were looking for a place to live, it was to be for two weeks at the most and two weeks turned into two months! Yikes! I didn't deal with it well because they didn't want to pick up after themselves and I ended up doing work for everyone else until one day I just blew up! I told them I wasn't their maid and they needed to find a place as soon as possible, I couldn't take it anymore! they ended up finding their own place not long after but I couldn't wait to be free of them.
@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
some people can be really thoughtless when they're living with other people - are you still friends with them?
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Yes and No? They moved pretty far away and we were friends when they left. We used to call each other all the time but eventually the calls slowed down and I haven't heard from them in a long time. If they moved back this way again, would I take them back in? Uhmmmm.....lemme think about that for a lil while.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Sep 09
Other than one year in Germany where I had my own room but there were 4 roommates, I've only ever lived with my parents and my husband. The husband's status is iffy right about now...
@jb78000 (15173)
16 Sep 09
ok i won't ask about your husband but did you have any problems when you shared?
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Oh jb...too many times. My first apartment was with my husband & I and another couple and tons of people on the weekends that just spent the nite. I moved out when the woman hit on me. Then there was my 2nd husband and a guy I lived with...not good flatmates at all. Currently it is just me and my daughter and I like it that way. I would let a friend stay for a bit if they were in a bind but I really love having my own place. No more room mates living with me and no more boyfriends living with me.
@jb78000 (15173)
14 Sep 09
oh them hitting on you is awful. i'd let a boyfriend move in but if i ever shared again it would be with a friend who i know i can live with.
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
No, I never experienced having room mates, thankfully. I don't think I will be able to get along with them. I like living with just hubby and myself.
@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
i usually get along with them (well i don't have any now), this one was an aberration. anyway hopefully you get on with your husband.