Are these people real friends?
By vinoth007
@vinoth007 (55)
India
September 13, 2009 7:19am CST
I am a blogger and i got a lot of fans through my blog.But in course of time,i made online friends with them.I helped some online friends,and they talked with me in a polite way at that time.But after they get help from me,thay never cared about me and even they don't send me messages atleast for a courtesy .
It is the time i am going to decide whether those people come for me as a friend or jsut a idiot from we can get some help and ditch me.
I am not able to take these things nowdays because many people are doing that nowdays?.It just hate those people nowdays and i want me to change by even not helping everyone.
What is ur say on this .Have u experienced this thing online like me ? ARe these people real friends ? can we trust those people who comes only to me for money and a not for a friendship?
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9 responses
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
dont trust directly whom you meet thru the net my friend, thru online. many people whould just like to be your friend because they need your help. where in fact they only and just really need your time and the ideas you have. hope that it would be fine soon and just be careful friend. life online is really not that easy. and be safe as always. its nice to help out but just make it sure they are not making you as their friend because they needed your help.
thanks friend and smile
jhelai
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
ooopppsss sorry for that my friend. my small yellow thing is smiling my friend,... ill try to chage it later... and glad that you are smiling. and all yah said is so true...
jhelai
@vinoth007 (55)
• India
13 Sep 09
Ya,ur right .people tend to get ideas from us and they don't care about us.Online life is not so easy but it is a virtual fun.thank you i am smiling.
P.s :why are u not smiling?
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@dhugoi (315)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Don't expect to much when you meet them online or you'll be frustrated. Since you'll be far apart it will be unlikely that you'll meet them in person. Even in real life you cannot trust anyone to be your true friend if you just meet them somewhere else. You can only truly trust someone once you get along with them for quite some time. Friendship can only be build thru time not overtime.
@vinoth007 (55)
• India
13 Sep 09
I never expected anything from them.Why i should get frustrated. ..Ya sure,i can't see them in person,all are 1000 of kms apart from me.Lol..overtime was nice.But i have many friends who are true to me online,they care about me a lot about my success.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
The situation is the same as in the offline world, where new found acquaintances can become great friends, or use us to their advantage. There is one big difference though, where it is not possible to see their body language. Most of us do not see, or do not have, web cams.
It is easier to hide behind the Internet wall. That is why many unscrupulous people jump onto the Internet bandwagon.
I use the same policy whether online or offline. I regard those accepted as friends as innocent until proven guilty, Realising that there are all types of people, I do not expect or harbour high hopes. If I am used by them, I would not contact them again.
They are not real friends, but they can be a source of extra info.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
it starts with being acquaintance with them. once you've trusted them, or they trust you, then you become their friends. This is the time you get to know more of each other, and you gauge each other's habits or actions. There will be friends who'll leave you, and a few will be there for you. A handful will remain your good friends. People in MyLot are here for various reasons. Don't have any high expectations or else you'd be disappointed.
Yes, you'll make some friends here but most would just go and you'll probably not hear from them again.
@vinoth007 (55)
• India
13 Sep 09
A handful only remain as good friends.I would be nice if those handful of friends are true friends.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Hello
I have been through this with people in my real life,you have to be careful my friend, people like to take advantage of you when they know you have a kind heart, the less they know about you the better, this way you will not have to worry about anyone telling you their sob stories only to get something from you, we have alot of selfish people in this world,I helped one friend not financially but I did something for him he was unable to do, we are still friends, but this is not something I will do all the time, you have a kind heart just remember the little you share with people the more you will know who is in it for the friendship.
Good luck my friend, thank you for sharing this.
I have been through this with people in my real life,you have to be careful my friend, people like to take advantage of you when they know you have a kind heart, the less they know about you the better, this way you will not have to worry about anyone telling you their sob stories only to get something from you, we have alot of selfish people in this world,I helped one friend not financially but I did something for him he was unable to do, we are still friends, but this is not something I will do all the time, you have a kind heart just remember the little you share with people the more you will know who is in it for the friendship.
Good luck my friend, thank you for sharing this.@vinoth007 (55)
• India
14 Sep 09
ya ..It is good not to expect anything from them and so that we can't hurt by it..they always have my blessings because thay have been friend for some time...it is easy to tell that it is the time to move on.But it is not so easy
@Keola12 (799)
• United States
13 Sep 09
For those people to only contact you when they need help, and never show that they care for you, then they are not what I'd consider to be friends at all. Good friends don't treat their friends like that.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
13 Sep 09
Hi vinoth,
Just ignore it. All the on line friends are your/our virtual friends until we meet in the real life and see each other. Though I have not had that of your experience I know most of these friends are fake and some are even impersonation.
Now what I have started thinking you know - only I am true and real and all the rest are under scrutiny.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
13 Sep 09
hi vinoth
whether it i real life or a virtual life like internet, we all come across people who take undue advantage of our good behaviour and helping nature and when their turn come they ake excusses and go away.
while selecting people as friends you must judge them and try to know if they are trustworty.
fortunately, i have not come across dirty people through internet except for a few but in real life i have experience your situation and have shed a many tears too.
