This is the breakup rule:

@resssaaa (445)
Philippines
September 13, 2009 8:46am CST
When you're hurt it's okay to flirt, to date, to hate, to mingle with other people, to drink, to cry, to laugh out loud, and to dance wild. Cause when you're hurt you don't owe anybody any explanation on how you choose to repair what that person broke. Live your life as you wish, until you're whole again. :)
8 responses
@kprofgames (3103)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I do and don't agree. There is nothing wrong with being carefree when healing a broken heart. As long as it isn't just covering it up. Letting off some steams is good and I think it's healthier then keep ing it bottled up. As far as the flirt, dating thing? I don't know. I always found it best to not even go down that road untill I was done being mad. There are different phases in healing. You get hurt, you cry and then you get mad. It's hard to date a person when you are still mad at another. But the dancing and having a good time, that to me is okay. You don't owe anyone anything and you can still have a good time without presenting yourself like you are ready to date another person.
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Yes, you're right. I don't really like flirts at all. The one posted on my discussion was a quote by the way. :)
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I would think it would be adding to your misery . I know for me ,when drinking and flirting always felt cheap. I would not know anymore though ,I would most likely shrivel up and dye without my hubby. He is like my arms and legs a huge part of me.
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
As I have said in my previous responds to others, I really do not like flirting too. :) It makes me feel cheap, I have to agree with you. Althoug drinking, I could do occasionally with friends and all, But not to the point of drinking in random places and get drunk. That is not pretty much of a good image.
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
This is so definitely true!I've been repairing myself for the past 2 years and 5 months.I've been around and met lots of new friends,got a new job and tried the things I have not done when I was still single until I got married and separated. Going out really helped me a lot and so does meeting new people.They made me realize that my life should not revolve around him because he is not the Sun and he should not be my life.LOL!
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
That's good to hear that you'd stop revolving you life to one person. I know how hard it is to forget something reallllllly. lol! I believe there's nothing wrong in meeting new people. That's even the first step in forgetting and moving on. :)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I definitely agree. I just broke up with someone and I've been listening to happy Merengue until I feel better. Dancing and happy music. I think I'm into serial monogamy though because I go from one long term thing to another....
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Aww I'm so sorry to hear the breakup. I hate breakups. I quite feel sad until now. And yes, Listening to happy music really helps! Sad and sentimental music really puts my emotions so high that I tend to be controlled by my own feelings. So It is really wise to think of happy things and all. :)
• China
13 Sep 09
Hi Resssaaa, In my opionion, that do not help and even make things worse. It would be best to work out another way to cure you, though that is quite difficult. Good luck to you and have a nice day!
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Yeah! I;ve come to realize that earlier just now. Perhaps things like what I've said above were not supposed to be done. I think I should not destroy myself just because of a loss.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
22 Aug 10
Drinking is really a addiction and not easy to quit all of sudden. But good thing is there are many rehabilition center for helping to get rid of these habits. Try them and make a great change in your life.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
oh so sorry to hear about this. When i broke up with my ex, i cried and i cried a lot. thank god for freaking friends who never fail to gang up on me. I deem it dangerous to flirt or to date after a break-up as i would just be masking up myself and send wrong signals to someone else. ahyyyyyyyy...
@lhai_11 (42)
• Israel
12 Oct 09
yeah right but be sure to have your own limitations...how can you be whole again if you ruined everything..a broken glass can never be fix again as what they say.im not saying that its wrong to find ways to make you happy but be sure you are not destroying your own self...