Who Would You Save?

Philippines
September 13, 2009 10:17am CST
If you are in a sinking boat... with all of the people who are dear to you...(your mom, dad, son, daughter, husband, wife. brother, sister... bestfriends, boyfriend...) and circumstances only allow you to save "ONE" person..just one! whom would you save? (I know there are people who hold special places in our hearts, and we all love them in different degrees.... have you ever thought about making that tough choice of whom to save first when everyone needs you at the same time? your decision would tell who is the most important person in this world is for you...) just ONE... it is a tough choice...but who knows it will happen one day...
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 09
patofgold well this is really hard and tragic too I would try to save all of them because you never know until you try that you might be the one who does make it possible to save them all.other wise I would save which ever one was the very youngest sohe or she could carry on the family name but I would die trying to save all of them.
• United States
13 Sep 09
I admire your answer! I hadn't thought about the youngest...but yes, for that would be the one person who had had the shortest amount of time thus far to experience life. Like you, though, I'd try to save them all...or I'd rather drown, too!
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Hi there hat... it is hard indeed... and i hope it would never happen to any of us... i guess it just makes us think of the special people in our lives and know who to be there for when all of them needs you at the same time... I have only one child and that makes things easier..if i do have a husband (which i don't) i would just hope he will try to save himself... I love my mom sooo sooo much with every beat of my heart...and how I wish i could give up my life to save one more.... but no one would be taking care of my son if I do that.... tough choices....
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@wmaths (536)
• Italy
13 Sep 09
i think i will give my life to save one person more. perhaps my parents. my girlfriend was not very fair with me, so i don't think i would save her...
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi wmaths..that's a very nice gesture...you must love your parents that much,,, I do love my mo..with every beat of my heart..as well as my sisters... but i have a son who needs me...i onyl have him and he only has me..we onyl have each other... so i would definitely save him... and how I love to give up my own life to save one more... but i have to think of myson again and who would be taking care of him it is indeed a tough choice...
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
13 Sep 09
oh pat, If i have two arms and i could do my best i would save both my children. otherwise i would die trying. i couldnt let one drown only to save the other. i love them both so much.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
sissygrl... oh i'm sorry i had to put you in a dillemma.... I guess i was just trying to make everybody think of the people that matters most to them..and what you would ever do if all those people you care for needs you at the same time... it's a tough choice i know... you have two kids... i only have one....so that answers it... I am glad I don't have a husband to think about..but if i do..i would just hope he'll save himslef....
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
14 Sep 09
haha i do have a husband.. but i'm hoping he could save himself. Or maybe he can save one child and i can save the other!! yay!
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
lolz... i hope your husband don't read this...he would know you won't save him if that happens... hope he doesn't do mylot.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I don't think I could make that choice, not unless the situation was actually happening. I have enough of a problem whenever I go to an animal shelter or S.P.C.A. I want to save ALL the animals; take them all home with me! LOL We can plan and prepare for things like this but, when it actually happens, it's our instinct that takes over, not our rational brain. At least, in most cases this is true. I'd like to think that, if I could not save everyone, I would want to go down with the rest of them instead of saving just one. I don't think I could live with myself if I had to make a choice like that. But, I don't know how I would react if that situation were to happen, not really.
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
i know how you feel..you can't live with the thought of surviving and being able to save just one...and think about the rest whom you've lost.. it's gonna be miserable..... i think of it too....and i hope it's not gonna happen to me..or to any of us.
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@rbn321 (14)
14 Sep 09
I agree ment.There will be a nightmare when losing all near & dear.So I'll try my best to save all of them as far as possible.If I can't I'll also go down with them.Hope this problem won't come in reality to none.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
God forbid it will have to happen to any of us!
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• United States
15 Sep 09
Now that is a hard one to make because I am very close to my whole family. I would save my kids first of all then my parents. I wouldn't care if it took my life to save my kids and parent I would do it anyway. I don't think anyone could just chose one person to save.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
i know it is hard to save just one person straw... I love my son more than naything i nt he world...and i love my mom so much more as well.. but if i really have to save just one...it would have to be my son...... he needs me and he deserves to live his life... I have to be selfish to say i would not give up my own life to save one more..I would try to survive as well..so I can be there for my son and take care of him- he truly needs me..i'm a single mom and i'm all he's got.
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• United States
15 Sep 09
I do understand where you are coming from. Because you are a single mom I wouldn't give up my life either. This is a good question you brought up for everyone to answer. But also a very hard one when we love our family so much. But you are right the kids do come first to be saved. I have 3 kids and they have a wonderful step dad. So to save all 3 of my girls I would have to give up my life.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
I know straw..it's a touhg life with a lot of tough choices... either we have to be stroong or let everything around us falter...... I'd rather stay strong for my son.......
@forptc (290)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yep, that's right wolfie34, it's another psych test but in truth it just might happen as you said, there's no telling. This is one really difficult question to answer. Though in some way, I've made up my mind a long time ago when asked this question or faced with this situation. I might say I'll save my lady love. I just couldn't figure out why but it's definitely what I'd do. But given the chance to save two at the cost of my life (sorry for borrowing the idea of wmaths, hope you don't mind), I'd also save my younger sister. Even though me and my girlfriend haven't been in good terms lately, I would still opt to save her. I'd rather die early and ahead of her so I could watch over her without limits and wherever she goes so as to protect her from harm. It's not really trying to prolong her agony on earth but I know well she could help so much more people while she's still alive and it's also for her to have the best things this world and life has to offer. She deserves the best and nothing less. The same goes with my younger sister. I'd give my life for them.
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@forptc (290)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Thanks for putting up this discussion. You remind people of who matters to them and who they value most specially in this fast-paced world where we tend to forget living and simply start surviving. I do love her so much but I do hope that she also figures that out. Though love me or not, as long as I hold on to what I feel for her, that's more than enough.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
...a very selfless love...that's very rare... wow... i hope she figures out how lucky she is and she should not pass out on greta opportunities like this...it is seldom to be loved that much... the world is full of lies and deception.... to be loved truly is one thing that is hard to find... everything always has conditions attached to it.
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@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
15 Sep 09
Hi pato, I would plunge into the water save both my son and daughter, that way I can save two lives....... though my parents also I would like to save, my kids are too small and I would be very scared to think they are in danger, so that would be my first choice and since I cannot save my husband I would rather give away my life too.....
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
hi there kkanaka... i only have 1 child..and i would definitely save him... i do not have a husband..bbut if i do..i will just hope he tries to save his own life... he cannot come before my son.... and i am sorry i can't give up my life to save him...and have to make sure i stay alive as well.. coz I have to have someone take care of my son
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@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
16 Sep 09
Oh I said that because I know he will give away his life to save mine in the same situation so I would also do the same lol......
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@jen14ed (868)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi patofgold. This is terrible you know. Well if this is happen First at all i will give life jacket my mom and my dad and i will give life jacket my girls friends all of them is save now because of life jacket no need to choice to one no need to choice to my mom or my dad or my girls friends and then i will save my self now all now is safe no worried to choice only one?..
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
hii jen... seems like you really cannot give up any of those you love... if you only get to choose to save one life... i understand how you feel..you might not even want to survive if those you care for are not with you right?
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@jen14ed (868)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
hi yes but if i need to choice one i choice my mom!
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@patms1 (522)
• United States
14 Sep 09
If you think about this question does not make sense. Your first instinct would be to grab the nearest person to you. If you stop to think and not act everybody will drown. This question make more sense if the question is if you had to save Hitler or a Van Goa painting which one would you chose? The reason behind this is is a human life worth more then a painting no matter how wonderful the painting is? Shouldn't he have a chance to repent? My answer would be the painting.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
you see pat.. i wanted my fellow mylotter to think about those who are dear to them.. and there could be more than one person who holds a special place in our heart... we do love them all...in different degrees though.. if all would need you at the same time... who would you be there for,.. that's the whole point.
@patms1 (522)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Sorry if my answer seemed abrupt.
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@grey26 (254)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
When the b0at sink, if the ch0ices are my m0ther or my gIrlfriend, i pREfER to rescue my mOther,
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• Philippines
21 Sep 09
hi grey... i hope your girlfriend don't do mylot...else she would read this LOLZ!
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@hagirl (1296)
• United States
15 Sep 09
That is like putting someone on the spot, because you are right I love everyone of them in their own special way. Whoever I did not save I would end up dying of guilt. I have a very unselfish family and I believe everyone would agree with my choice to save my sister Becky. I believe my other family members would even be telling me to take her instead of them. My sister and I are close, but the only reason I would choose her is because she has a 5 yr.old daughter who has down syndrome. If it was not for my sister my niece would not have much of a life. The child is very intelligent for her age. She is also advanced for children with downs syndrome children in her age group. She speaks more fluently than most. It was so funny because my sister and her husband are looking for a house. She stated she would like one with a garage so later on she could build an apartment over it for her daughter. I started laughing and asked what are you going to do that for? Reagan is a very independent child and will not need that kind of help when older. She will be okay. I told Becky when she got old Reagan would be the one to take care of her to pay her back for all her good care as a child. She is a amazing child.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Hi there hagirl... i am so moved by your story... I wish your sister knows how lucky she is to have you as her sister... first off... yeah, iknow situations like i mentioned barely happen,i guess i just want all to think about the people they care for... and what to do and who to be there for when all of them needs you at the same time.. I understand how your sister does need help...and support from the rest of the family...I have dealt with kids with down syndrome since I am a nurse myself, though i do not have much pediatric ursing experience as i am more exposed into the adult medical ward... She does sound like a smart kid indeed... and so cute, she has been making a lot of plans ahead.... I feel for her...and you my dear......she is indeed an amazing child........ You sound like you have a great family and you are lucky...keep your closeness.... that is something not all people have...... I undertsand how guilty you might feel for beng able to survive and leave the rest behind...you may not be able to live with it.......
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@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
13 Sep 09
Hi, This is a hypothesis and in such perilous situation if I am to save only one out of so many of my near and dear I would save my wife. There is nothing to get astonished for we need the generation to keep rolling and I would again be able to have children and the family would be saved from getting extinct.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hello kraj... i see you love your wife a lot... decision would be a little more tough if you have kids right... I am glad I don't have a husband to worry about... but in case i do.. i don' t think I can put him above my son... My son would always come first before anything
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@jb78000 (15173)
13 Sep 09
that's impossible. i think i'd have to be practical and save the one who was the worst swimmer. or the youngest.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
I am a mother so I would definitely be saving my son, whether he could swim or not.... our decisions would vary as to our status and the kind of relationship we have with the rest of our family....
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
13 Sep 09
This sounds like one of the pyschological tests my friend and it takes a lot of thought and a different mindset, however this question would be easy for me to answer because it would be my mum without question. I am an only child, don't have a partner and my father weighs a tonne and I ain't close to him at all so my mum would be priority especially over my friends. And I can swim whereas my mum can't swim.
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi there my friend!!! first off, i can't swim..and I don't wanna think they would be saving me instead of me saving them... I love my mom with every beat of my heart... I love my sisters too... but i have a son..I am a single mom (so no husbands to worry about--if i do have, i would just hope he would try to save himself, coz he could never come before my son)... definitely i would save my son... I would want to say i would give up my life to save another one (which would be my mom)... but that would leave no one to care of my son as mymom is old... it's gonna be tough surviving thinking of the loved ones we lost...would be miserable.... and I hope it would never happens to any of us here.
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@poker213 (27)
• China
16 Sep 09
This is a boring question, there is no right answer.
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• Philippines
16 Sep 09
you find it boring? why did you bother to drop by a line? to earn a few cents??? ha!
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
YOU CALL A DISCUSSION THAT HAS MORE THAN 80 RESPONSES BORING??? guess what??? I CHECKED YOUR PROFILE AND YOU POSTED SOME DISCUSSIONS... A DISCUSSION POSTED 5 MONTHS AGO ONLY HAD 3 REPONSES A DICUSSION POSTED 4 MONTHS AGO ONLY HAD ONE RESPONSE now how's BORING????? YOU GO RESPOND TO OTHER PEOPLE'S DICSUSSIONS WHO WOULD APPRECIATE YOUR ATTITUDE... I DON'T APPRESICATE YOURS... and im sure a lot of other won't too.............
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Ta DA ! I'd save my dog :) or maybe my son/ but that would be a toss up LOL Just wonder who'd save me?????
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
lolz quita!!! probably no one..if your dog can't swim and your son as well... maybe it's time to get e swimming lesson.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Funny thing is I am the one who cannot swim well LOL My dog and my son both would have to save ME and not the other way around ! Still, funny you brought that subject up as I have been thinking about who or what is the most important to me in this stage my life. My dog ALWAYS loves me-----ah, son does too, he can swim really well !!! It's just a choice that would have to be made at the very moment !! Thanks for responding and have a good nite. quita88
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@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I would save the one closest to me. Then ask that one to grab the one closest to them till everyone formed a chain. Then everyone would be saved.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
hi there jdy! yeah that is a very practical choice... no matter if we plan well for it.. it's not exactly what's gonna happen there right?
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
15 Sep 09
The whole thing is a what if story so why not what if the best ending for all.
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@Djbrat (333)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Wow, that is a very good question. I'm not sure how to answer. I can't even think about saving just one person. I would feel guilty because there are so many loved ones so close to my heart, I couldn't live with myself. So if one of the choices would be for ME to take the place of saving one person, I would do it in a heartbeat. Then all my loved ones are saved!!!!
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
I know Dj..it's a very tough choice coz we love them all... it would be tough to survive and live with the thought of not being with your loved ones anymore... it's something to make us realize about how much we care for these people who holds a special place in our hearts... but god forbid will it ever happen to any of us in real life.
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Yes, I know what you mean. It's one of those things in life that we never want to think about and nobody should have to. This discussion is great. It does make you sit down and really think about how much love your heart can hold. It can bring tears to your eyes. Thanks so so soooooo much for this... :o)
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
So many choices, my friend. I encounter this when I was in college bu there is only two choices. That is parents and wife if you are man, husband if you are woman. I think I save my wife (if happen that I have wife)...ask me. Why? I will tell next time if you ask me why? Have a nice day!
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
aerous dear... why your wife??? over you parents and family? what if you have kids?
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Didn't you have a contract with your parents others that you pinpoints here, aside your partners? My wife, my friend. Because there is a contract between you and your partner. Think about it...This is a smart answer my friend. Because any other in those people, was no tie that bind you. This question is being ask when I was a student. This is ask by our professor in Advance Engineering, and the answer is reliable not being oppose... How about you?
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
14 Sep 09
My father is no more alive. So if I had an option of only one person that would be my mother. All other relationships are replaceable but one cannot get one's parents again. This would not be a tough choice for me at all.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi mayka..seems you do not have a family and kids of your own yet..coz if you do... you could never turn your back on your kids.
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
14 Sep 09
I have two kids of my own and also a grand child. But I think my mother is too old to help herself so I would give more importance to my mother.
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