Do you tell your loved ones you are proud of them?

@kitty42 (3912)
United States
September 13, 2009 2:47pm CST
These simple words can make a world of difference in someone's life, not just family,friends as well, always nice to know that someone notices your efforts, makes you want to do more, who doesn't like to be appreciated, I tell my brother all the time how proud of him I am, he is always happy to hear this. I tell people I know who works full time, going to school full time how proud I am, I know this is not easy, they are always so happy to hear that,they also know I mean this from the bottom of my heart. How about co-workers I will say good job, or nice work, some look at me not knowing what to say, but I guarantee you they will remember those words. How about you, do you tell your loved ones/friends you are proud of them? What about co-workers, that you know work hard, do you let them know you notice their hard work? although not your place still good to hear no matter who it comes from. What about the person taking care of your loved one, do you tell them how much you appreciate them?
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@shibham (17025)
• India
14 Sep 09
no kitty. i cant say those words as some love pairs share with each other. say, u are my heart, i shall die without u or cant live. you are the most beautiful lady in the world and so on. actually i think that it seems as flattering. and i hate it. i have no need say her that i am proud to stay with her rather i want to prove it by works and attitudes. unfortunately or fortunately i have no beloved.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello my friend I understand what you mean, but this is not something that you can only say to your loved one, what about your students I am sure you have students that put fourth valuable efforts, you can say to them good job, or great work, I noticed you were really focused today keep it up, little things my friend, not just about the ones that are near and dear this should be for people in general, in your field you have a great opportunity to make someones day, you see what I mean my friend? Thank you for sharing, smoochess
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Sep 09
yaah. i have understood your speech. u have raised the discussion in relevant to lovers not to others. so in case of students i often say that i am proud for them bcoz some students of mine are now established in a good job but i think i have no need to say it face to face. thanks kitty. smoochess too. lol
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Hello my friend Understandable, as long as you let them know my friend that is what matters, after all teachers/professors are a huge influence on their students, keep up the good work my friend, I bet you are really good at what you do Thank you.
@LdeL0318 (6467)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
It's very important that we always tell our loved ones how much we are proud of them. Simple words such as "I am proud of you" or "You did a good job" will definitely motivate them to always do better with what they are doing.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello Lde0318 Exactly, something so simple will make a world of difference, some people find it hard to do these things, I also find people like to compete with others therefore find it hard to acknowledge someone when they are possibly doing better than you are, sad I give credit where credit is due, that is motto Thank you for sharing.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
14 Sep 09
i will not say i do this i ll say i did this n she used to tell me the same. but the things gt change. so what i thnk if the person even dont speak those things wht matters is if the persn you really love u no matter hw many times he or she says that she proud. what is importent the genuine feelings
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello Not everyone does this, I find these things come natural to me, when it comes to things of this nature its more about appreciation then it is love, you can show appreciation to anyone, not just your loved ones, I find that people like to know someone notices their efforts it makes you feel good, you tend to do more, I work really hard and rarely get notice from my co-workers my patients ofcourse tell me how good I am, but co-workers not much, so due to the fact I know what it is like to work hard I will let someone know when they are doing a good job, this has so much to do with the individual, some people will not do this because they feel this will take something from them, which is not true, it actually makes me feel better when I share these words with others. Thank you
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@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Sep 09
Hi kitty! I rarely say those words to my loved ones but when I say it I mean it. To my niece and nephews I would even give them a price or a gift for doing a great job, it's my way of motivating them excel more in their school activities. However, to my friends and colleagues oftentimes I will always acknowledge and tell them how happy I am for what they did. Good Day!
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello seanbryan And this is the point my friend, I wont say I actually sit around saying these things everyday, no, but when I see/hear someone talking about something they have done and you can tell how passionate they feel about it, its then I will say wow I am so proud of you, or even something smaller it all depends, not everyone deserve to hear these words, you have some people that do nothing to contribute to anything, but if by chance they do something meaningful I will be the one to let them know I noticed and appreciate their efforts. this is who I am, always been really free with my compliments, some people have said to me, don't tell her that, she don't deserve it, how sad is this. Thank you my friend.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Sep 09
hi kitty42, i am person that is so generous when it comes to giving postivie strokes, affirmation and recognition to my husband, kids, other family members and co-workers. i always affirmed my kids performance in school and when they finish a task at home. i let them know how proud i am for having them as my kids, for having him as my husband and for my colleagues and co-workers for a job well done. it's really a good feeling to appreciate others. it motivates them to strive hard and give their best in everything they do.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello my friend And you are the epitome of how these simple words can make such a difference in someones life, thank you for responding to this my friend, your boys/Husband should consider themselves really lucky to have you, I hope hubby tells you he is proud of you sometimes, we like to hear it as well I will continue to make people feel good for their efforts no matter how big or small, doing this makes me proud of me, knowing that this is more instinct for me as oppose to and actual effort, I love to make people feel good, cause I know how it good it makes me feel when someone appreciates me, I try to tell my daughter this but she does not get it, i tell her just because I am your mom does not mean you should not show me appreciation, she feels whatever I do I do it because I have to, no darling I do it because want to, she is grown so I can run out on here butt anytime I choose lol, one of these days she will understand just how lucky she is. Thank you my friend.
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I tell people I am proud of them often. It is important to let people know when they have done something special. It is also good to tell people when they have made an impact in your life. There are so many people who have touched my life.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello royal52gens Same here, there is one person that touched my life and I would love to see her but we lost touch it makes me really said, I know I thanked her but now that I am older I want to thank her properly you know, guess I will share everything she taught me with others in hopes that someway, somehow, the universe will find a way to let her know I did not forget. Thank you so much for sharing.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Hi Kitty...I do this with many people, but only when it can be sincere, and I always say why: such as I am proud of you for making an A in science...I know how hard you worked to get it. And the same goes for others...I would often tell co-workers what I admired about a job they did. You're right. Even if it embarrasses us slightly, we all love to be acknowledged for our efforts! Karen
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Hello my friend Exactly this is so true, if only people did this more often, I know I am really good at alot of things do but no one tells me, I think they may assume I already know this, but that is not true, how would you really know unless someone tell you something as small as this carries so much weight, I have no problem making someone feel good about something they have done, especially our young people they need all the positive influence they can get, when I do this people look at me like ( saying to themselves why? ) I see this and its really sad you know, if I have to explain why I just said something positive to someone then the issue is with you my friend, and I refuse to justify my actions. Thank you my friend.
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
13 Sep 09
I am a stay at home mom, and i dont interact with that many people lol. I tell my kids that i am proud of them and that they do an AWESOME JOB when they do something well or something they'd not done before.. (they are 3 and 18 months) And when my husband does something good and its totally unexpected, i tell him that i'm impressed. i dont say i'm proud.. i feel.. weird saying it to him.. Do you think i'm impressed is just as good ?
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Hello Ofcourse saying you are impressed is just as good, I think what you are doing is great, people don't do this, they feel this may be taking something from them, I love to be appreciated but I rarely get that,does not stop me from making others feel good, I will do this for as long as I can speak,I tell my daughter I am proud of her all the time, always thank my grandson for any little thing he does saying good job to him is something he looks for lol he makes sure we see everything so we can tell him this, saying this in whatever way you feel comfortable my friend, makes a person feel so good those words will play in their head for the whole day, nothing like being appreciated, keep up the good work my friend,I am proud of you. Thank you so much for sharing this with me/us.
• India
14 Sep 09
Hi kitty! Very good discussion started by you. It is very good habit to say this. I want to imbibe this in me but I am an ordinary person and there is lots of thing to imbibe in me. I am not a complete man and to be complete, have to make lots of efforts. There are lots of things to learn. I appreciate when tasty food cooked by my wife. I appreciate my daughter when something good or very good done by him. At that time i can see happiness on her face. Whenever I come thought that type of new thoughts, I found it new change is required in my character. But whichever I read new, always try to implement it in my life. Have a nice day!! Kitty!! Cheers Ranvir
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello my friend You know what my friend I know it is in you, this is what drew me to you, you don't know what it is called and all that is my friend is " common courtesy" and you have it pouring through your words and your responses to others, you keep doing what you are doing my friend, you are more than "ordinary" from where I sit, I can read it through your words my friend, there is nothing ordinary about you, you are very sweet and grateful to others, you appreciate when people comment to your discussions, you make them feel welcome and grateful they took the time, oh no my friend, you are special and I like it, I am so glad we are friends, I know I will learn so much from you Keep up the good work my friend, I am so proud of you, I mean this from the bottom of my heart.
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• India
15 Sep 09
Hi sweet kitty! I don't get how some person can be so sweet, am i dreaming. I don't know much about me because in normal society this etiquette is not common to appreciate everybody when something good is done by him/her. You response tells me that appreciation is very much required in life to understand what you are doing is right. So, you can make efforts to keep it continue. Due to lack of appreciation, i change myself too much and left many good quality of you. So kitty your type of people should be more in person's life to make him better. Have a nice day!!
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Hello my friend Thank you so much, I feel the same way about you, I love your energy my friend, keep up the good work, remember you drew me to you, your post made me want to get to know "you" better, this says alot about the person we are, when I first started here I did not know what I was doing, I started discussions that had not responses lol I had to learn how things work, so I feel alot better about how mylot works although I am still learning I have the main idea, you are doing really great my friend, and I will continue to support your thoughts and enjoy every second. Thank you so much for being my friend.
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@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Hello kitty42 I think you have the most sweestest ideals that I have ever heard of. Whenever you start a discussion I am always eager to read. I know that I will learn something from them. Yes that has happen again. Im so guilty to tell hubby how proud I am of him. Really I should be doing this on a regular basis. I going to tell him this tonight and he probably won't know how to react..And my sister, she has got so many health problems but she doesn't give up. She needs those words from me right now. I want to thank you again for reminding me on what I should be doing..Have a wonderful day....Cyber Hug coming your way...
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Hello my friend you always make me feel good with your wonderful responses thank you so much my friend, I know you are proud of your hubby because you talk about him all the time, make sure you add that when you tell him, tell him you tell others but you should tell him, this way he will feel really good to know that you talk about him too all of us, no worries my friend, sometime we have so much on our minds these little things seem to get lost in the process, so glad my post makes you think only tells me I am doing something right, I am proud of you my friend, you are wonderful smoochess to you and your family. Thank you so much, you are one of the best my friend
• United States
13 Sep 09
Ahhh..That is so sweet..and a big thank you. You have a wonderful evening...SMILE
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello my friend Thank you again my friend did you talk to hubby lol how did he react?
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hi kitty, As much as possible I try to be generous in giving kind and encouraging words, I know it's a good motivation that drives people to do more. But of course I only do it when the situation calls for it - I say to my co-workers they've done a good job; I tell my kids how proud I am when they do well in school, or help put away their toys, or share something with others. I verbalize my appreciation of my husband's effort in making us his top priority always. It wouldn't hurt to make other people feel good, in fact doing so makes me feel good too.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello This is so true my friend I agree and love that you shared this, I tell my grand son I am proud of him for every little thing he does (as long as its a good thing) he expects this, he always say grandma did you see that lol, so in his case I will say it even if the time does not call for it, what can it hurt lol honestly he is the best thing in the world to me, and I will be his private cheer leader for as long as he wants Thank you so much for sharing
@cherrc (666)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
yes, i always do! it's one way of appreciating their efftort or for letting u know of the outcome, be it ur family, friends or colleagues. am always proud of them no matter how simple or difficult the task would be. ΓΌ
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello cherrc Exactly, does not have to be this huge wow kind of thing, little things matter, these simple words will go a long way, me and my oldest sister never got along growing up, in fact I could not stand her, but she is doing really good and I am proud of her, I told her this one day and she cried, she said do you mean that, are you really, I said ofcourse I am, she gave me such a big hug,I felt really good for sharing my thoughts with her, instead of keeping them to myself, although for whatever reason she did not like me growing up, my words meant alot to her and that said alot to me. Thank you.
@yecal10 (145)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I do tell that to my son. You are right. They are such powerful words.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello Yes they are my friend, we don't have to use the word "proud" all the time, we can say I appreciate you, or that, anything just so they know you see, that means so much to people, I tell me daughter all the time I am proud she seems to take it with a grain of salt, but I know in my heart she remembers my words and this makes her feel good although she will not admit it, I think my family thinks I am weird and they don't know how to relate to me, which is sad,I try to explain to them this is who I am there is no method to my madness, its sad when you think of it, my daughter has known me all of her life, and my mom knew me for all of mine, I don't understand but hey what can I do. I know they love me they just don't know how to relate.I am lucky I have a really good family and they helped to shape me into the woman I am today so sad they don't get this. Thank you my friend.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi kitty. i agree to that, people tend to do more and better if we appreciate their good works and achievements. i always tell my kids i am proud of them. i have this brother who still find his way to continue his studies despite having a regular job, and is now taking the bar exams now, i am really proud of him. i also feel the same way with some friends here at mylot, if they do good works. neil
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello my friend That is wonderful, I bet your brother loves it when you acknowledge his hard work, this is great, in all reality do we have to do these things no,but it only says what kind of people we are, I learned this myself, these feelings came natural to me, and you can believe people can tell if you are sincere, I does my heart so good to see people work hard, or help someone else when they do not have too, I even thank people if someone that should have thanked them didn't, there are so many rude people in this world, what about holding the door and 4 people will walk through without saying BOO, how do you walk through a door being held by someone and not say thank you,grrrr All I can say is I am glad to be the person that I am, I will not change will only get better,although being so sweet can cause us pain at times but thats o.k a little pain is fine as long as I was able to make someone feel good about him/herself. Thank you so much for sharing this my friend, keep it up, I am proud of you as well.
@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 09
hi kitty yes I tell my son quite often and Ihave told my cousin whom I found on the net and have never met that i am very proud of her as she has had a lot of problems with her and my relatives whom I have never met yet either. I have also told so many staff persons here that I am proud of them for being so kind, and the caregivers in our dining room too,.so many here just assume they Are our slaves and forget any manners at all, no thank yous, that is sort of sad, just because we may be here doesnt mean we cannot be courteous and thank people who have helped us in some way.just a few words and you can make others feel good about themselves so why not?
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hello my wonderful friend You are such a pleasure, I am sure one of these days it will rub off on someone they will eventually learn a little common courtesy, so sad, how come I never come across any like you, I always end up with difficult people to care for, me and my brother was talking about this the other day, we always end up with people that have no appreciation for us, we came up with this, maybe because we are such good people god put these difficult people in our path so we can some how show them the right way. (sounds good right) still hard to stomach lol When I use to work in this nursing home we had a difficult patient, she use to ring her bell constantly in the beginning it was fine seeing there was only a handful of patients at the time, but once the floor filled up we told her we can't keep running to your room, the other patients need our help as well, yeah o.k that meant nothing to her, even if we were in her room doing something for her roomate she will wait good till you get to the nurses station and ring her bell again, this went on for to long in my opinion, so I was working the day shift, thinking she would sleep since she don't sleep at night, NOT, she rang her bell just as much, one day she wanted to use the bathroom, she gave me such a hard time although she was holding on to the bars, she leaned back and almost took my back with her, I pulled up her cloths and sat her in the wheel chair, couple of days later her daughter approached and asked me what happened, I told her everything from a to z, long story short she stopped ringing that bell, my co-workers thought I would get in trouble for the things I said I was not disrespectful I told her the truth, she knows her mom, so nothing I said surprised her,my supervisor said good job I am glad someone told her what the problem was, she use to use that bell like it was a toy, oh no, but anyway she became the best patient on the floor, You are such a pleasure to exchange thoughts with my friend, hope all this does not hurt your eyes, I can't see in here if I don't have on my glasses, let me know if this is too much for you, I will not be so long winded lol when I am responding to you it is so easy for me to just go on/on/on lol Thank you so much my friend.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
15 Sep 09
Hi Kitty, I tell friends that I am proud of them. The people I know online have been through things in the past that I do admire them for, and so after they told me their pasts I told them I was proud that they had faced those things and come out of the other end. I always felt they needed to be told since they never seemed to believe it themselves. I am not sure if I have ever told my brother I am proud of him. When he does get a job and starts his family I will tell him because it will be true, not at the moment though. Same for my sisters, when they graduate and have lives of their own I will be proud of them too. Dad...not sure about him, and mum definitely not unless she moves forward. She is in a rut at the moment so it is hard to be proud of her . And as for co-workers, I work in my own space and on a voluntary basis so I haven't had cause to say it there either lol! All the best, Dranz PS: In our message conversations have mine gone missing? I replied to both at the times you sent your replies, but when I look now neither have a response from me so did they go missing? And how do I stop them doing that? I never do anything different than the ones that stick, but they still seem to vanish ! Oh well!!
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Hello my wonderful friend How are you my friend? I got one response but was waiting for the other that never came I understand not everyone should be told this, but little sister no way, but my oldest and my brother I tell them, especially my brother, I am really proud of him that is my buddy he is such a good man I am proud to call myself his sister, my oldest sister we never got along coming up but I still tell her when I did she cried coming from me that meant alot to her which meant alot to me, I love making people feel good young old don't matter always nice to know that someone notices your efforts, things like this is really important to me, my grandson loves for me to praise him, no matter what or how small he needs to know I saw him and tell him how great it was lol he loves to dance so he dances my eyes out lol grandma did you see me, grandma look what can we do, anything to make them feel good, although he is a great dancer lol Good to see you my friend, I will respond to the response, forget about the last one. smoochess
15 Sep 09
Hey Kitty, I am annoyed that mine seem to go missing ~ Sighs ~ I was going to send a message asking if it went to you, but I thought it might have come across odd so I hunted this down and replied here instead lol! Annoying system, I shall take to saving responses so if they haven't appeared in a day I will quickly make sure I resend them ~ Nods ~ It's a plan lol! Your grandson sounds adorable with all the dancing, really adorable. I think if my sisters were here I would encourage them, though they sound sort of strong girls, so I would probably be cheering them in wrestling or something un-girly lol! All the best Dranz
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Hello my friend How are you? I miss you been a while, I know you don't like this but I can't help it lol My connection has been really bad, yesterday was the best day in a while and then it went so I had to stop, also my post vanish I responded to someone yesterday I knew it would happen to me, I tried to help and then it rubbed off on me, my post will go away but I can go back until I see them again, not this time going back does not work, what the heck could this be, really weird, so I stopped responding made no sense, all that typing for nothing You are so funny, your nieces are tough huh lol too cute. Hope to catch up with you soon, will pm you after this, I really do miss my friend, shhhhhh smoochesss
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
yes,i always say thank you to my parents who brought me up to be responsible and both dependent and in dependent on my acts.i dearly love my parents very much they are the wonderful things that happen in my life.second is my sister and brother they are great sibling,i love their jokes and we always bond to each other.third is my bf he is very loving person my whole world around on him.i am very thankful that i found my best friend and my lover.i am very proud to have them in my life.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
5 Oct 09
Hello my friend I know what you mean, my family means the world to me, I tell them I am proud of them as well, we all need to hear this, although my family never say this to me, but its o.k I am proud of myself, no one needs to tell me, well it will be nice to hear but I tell myself all the time, I say I am so proud ot be the woman I am Thank you for sharing my friend.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
yes our family is the most treasure that we have..have a lovely day my friend.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Gosh kitty, we're so much alike! lol I agree, telling someone that you're very proud of them is a nice thing to say. I've said it a number of times to the people that really deserve it to help boost their self esteem and moral. There are a few people that don't have a clue to how some little words make such an impact on another person's life but it sure does!
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Hello my friend I love making someone feel good about themself it does my heart proud, not to mention it takes nothing from me, some people feel they may lose something if they compliment someone else Thank you my friend.