If husband loves another woman and changes, can the wife love him as before?

India
September 13, 2009 9:05pm CST
If a husband starts loving another woman and later changes his mind, can the wife be normal with her husband? Can she show the same love and affection on him and move with him with the same moods? Will there not be a hurt in her heart which will show up in her attitude towards him?
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@Subha30 (20)
• India
14 Sep 09
Definitely a hurt will be there in her heart and she can't move on with same attitude with her hubby. Though we can think like past is past, it is difficult to maintain relationship with same intensity with hubby thereafter. I can't imagine my hubby loving another woman. If he changes his mind and comes back, I may live with him again because of my kid and other circumstances. But I can't forget that he was loving another woman and ditched me for a while. Both hubby and wife should show commitment towards each other and shouldn't get carried over by outside sources.
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• India
24 Sep 09
But women are there to entice men and get their things done, whether money or promotion in office. They get good report. Here the wife's married life is in soup. Who will understand this?
• India
24 Sep 09
Thanks for the response. You are right. But extra marital relationships always bring bitter experiences for both of them in the long run, though it gives pleasure in the beginning days. So it is good for both husband and wife to understand this and show commitment towards each other.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
For me i won't be the same.When your loved one hurt you and try to mend the thing they have done it will be very difficult.It's because you can't mend a broken heart.Maybe he will be forgiven but the scar will still be there and the trust is already breached so no matter what he do the memory of the thing he have done will never be erased.Eventually it will show in the way she speak and act towards him.
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• India
24 Sep 09
exactly. It will show in her attitude towards him and you cannot blame her for that.
• United States
14 Sep 09
I have given my husband another chance, i give him a choice when he was catch cheating but now i wish i had not given him a choice. I honestly dont think i love him we are just together just for the sake of physically living together for our children. Now the tables are turned he wants our marriage to be good and im the one that is done with it and cant love him. So no i dont think the hurt ever goes away. The old saying that time heals all wounds....i find the opposite , in the beginning i was ready to forgive and now that many years have past its made things worse.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
I know if the wife love her husband so much there is no problem with them of getting back to each other. The question is if the woman doesn't love her husband inspite he changed and pleased her for what he did. If that happened to me I can still accept him the more I love him.
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• India
14 Sep 09
You are an angel.
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• United States
15 Sep 09
Is it possible Yes, Is it easy Absolutely Not. There would have to be something in her that moved her to forgive him and even then the pain would be evident in her eyes for quite some time. However it is possible and in fact a marriage can come out on the other end stronger....BUT and I stress BUT this does not happen in every situation and for me without God it would never happen.
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• United States
15 Sep 09
Not to me know. That would be hard to have the same feelings as you had before. If you was hurt once by him the hurt is still there. And there isn't a lot of trust anymore. I mean there have been people that have worked problems out even if there other half was with someone else before. But it takes a lot to build that trust back up.
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@williamjisir (22909)
• China
14 Sep 09
Hello Buchi_bulla. I think that it is hard for the wife to love him the way she used to because she is already to some extent mentally hurt by her husband and it is vice versa to the husband if such a thing happens.
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I do not think so at all. she can give it another chance but she will always have doubt of his love for herself. I think it will definitely play a toll on their marriage unless he can somehow remove all doubts in her mind of his love for only her.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 09
of course, will make many changes, if a man begins to love another woman. everything will run normally again if mutual understanding. I experienced this, my life has not returned to normal as before my husband loves another woman. but I always try to make things normal again.
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• India
24 Sep 09
You are an angel I should say. Your husband must be lucky to get you as wife.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Sep 09
if I'm an angel, maybe my husband will not love another woman.
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@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
28 Sep 09
never, not at all. who will do the same as before.no body will accept the person. if i had this kind of situation i never ever see his face in future..
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• India
29 Sep 09
But for children s sake she may have to accept him. However the original pure love is gone for ever.
• India
28 Sep 09
really saying this is very tough for his wife to reclaim it after having an affair because she will not accept that now his husband is back to him leaving her and sometime its echo may come in between that when he was not in need he left me and now when that girl reject he is coming back and sometime she may accept that it was his husband mistake and now he has realised do me should accept it but still she will take time because she has suffered from mental and emotional distress so it will take time to recover from this. so finally saying in my accordance wife should accept him if you feel that he has really came back and i know its tough but still she should do and try to forget that mistake
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• India
29 Sep 09
She may accept him on humanitarian grounds, for children's sake, for society's sake. But the pure love that she had before towards him, will never ever be there again.
@vathsala30 (3726)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi again I don't think she will love him as before. A woman can sacrifice and can share any thing with someone in her life but her husband. whether he is mad, insane, inhuman, arrogant, miser, or handicapped both physically or mentally, she wants him completely for herself and can't imagine him with someone else
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• India
24 Sep 09
Very true vathsala30. Husband is not a toy to share with others. Emotional involvement is there in a married life. I think willingly no one will share husband with others.
• Canada
16 Sep 09
If two people are in a committed relationship, whether they're married or not, and one of them cheats on the other, i don't think the relationship can ever be restored. my husband and I talked about that, and we both completely agree that cheating would end our relationship, were it to ever happen.
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• India
24 Sep 09
You are right danishcanadian, the bubbling and chirping love with small personal jokes and all can never happen between them. They will be practical in their relationship without added charms. May be the husband got cheap pleasure in between but the life is gone for a wife. The wife is the main sufferer without her mistake.