September 14, 2009 9:26pm CST
Sometimes, whenever we are over strained and very tired and nobody around to help us, we feel very lonely and neglected and abandoned during which time we feel some sort of dejection in life and lose interest in all the things. Did you ever come across such situation?
15 Sep 09
Dejection comes due to several reasons and in several forms. Of the several reasons it all boils down to one thing: Life not going as per how we wanted it to. Like, we want something to happen in one way, but it doesn't. Now, out of say 10 of our wishes even if sone 2 or 3 happen almost nearest to how we want it to happen, we perhaps wouldn't feel dejected.That means most healthy people will be able to live with the fact that life cannot go the way we want. But what happens in reality sometimes is out of say 10 wishes not even ONE happens how want it to happen. So, some people fight off dejection/depression by adopting a pessimistic attitude to life. In fact this kind of pessimism is a good but an unattractive solution to life's problems. Another way of fighting dejection is to adopt the posture of an incorrigible optimist. Now, this is what I do. Not that such an attitude has particularly made things happen. But it leaves you healthy with some attitude to life, in the sense you are alive to receive the rewards of Providence if only it chooses to reward you for having weathered Life's worst tests. The astrological equivalent of such situation is what is called as "sADhe-sAtI"[called ezharai nATTu shani in Tamil]. These are all ways of teaching how to weather such situations. A yet anothetr way of fighting dejection is to take the way of the Bhagavad Gita one of the most wonderful books that summarizes the whole of Vedanta.Here the Lord takes Arjuna through high intellectualism to total expectation-less surrender to Him. There are several ways outlined, not one of them including the last of "sarva-dharmAn parityjya..." is any easy solution however. The one attitude that helps you survive is to keep going despite the odds. One thing is certain from thousands of exmples that we see happening everyday.Those who stick on long enough are those who achieve whatever they set to. This e who give up are lost to history. They are born and they die nobody knows them.
16 Sep 09
Yes. I too love to read your response and i think you are spiritual and philosophical otherwise nobody can have this much knowledge about philosophy and spirituality. Hats off to your knowledge and your mother who gave birth to such a wonderful person with immense knowledge.
16 Sep 09
Many a times I felt this way. Only we will be struggling at home or outside working all the time and the other family members enjoying their time. Then I read somewhere, take pleasure in doing work, enjoy the work, try to show expertise in that work,then you will not feel dejected. Take pleasure in doing things for others, that will do extra good to them. Just giving food is different from giving it with love and affection. This love will add extra nutrition to that. They will certainly understand your efforts one day and shower extra love on you, be grateful to you. This is happening to me now. My daughters have whole lot of gratitude towards me and they never leave any stone unturned to keep me happy, to look after my requirements. If I say this doll is good, immediately, whether I want or not, one doll will come home. The other day I said I want to buy a handbag, both daughters gave me five bags. One day my elder daughter delayed some item for a day. My younger daughter is shouting on the phone, 'look, nothing is more important or urgent than mother'. Efforts never go waste.
15 Sep 09
Ya i have once.. I have all my college life at a far of place from my home town and now I have finished my education and I have got a job but i have a free time of 6 months before I join my job so I came to my home town.. Its been a long time since I have been in my hometown.. I have no friends here and I feel very lonely I don't know where to go and at the same time my galfriend left me and went with another person.A double blow.... Anyway I felt very dejected but time is the medicine for all sorts of pain and loneliness and I kindof got used to it and now passing my time reading books and internet and now theres only 20 days left before joining my job and I am looking forward to join in it....