Taking food while watching TV

India
September 14, 2009 9:32pm CST
Recently I went to my neibour's house to offer some Festival sweets and shocked to see their children taking their food sitting in the sofa with their plates on their lap and watching the TV spilling the food particles all around and their mother not bothered about it. If your children does the same thing, what will you do?
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@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Hi vathsala, actually I don't think there's anything shocking about that. I am a mom and of course I want my daughter to learn and do things properly. But not to the point where I'll be so strict on just about anything. Kids aren't like us grown ups who usually get irritated with mess and spills and all. Kids most of the time don't really care about that. I mean, I'll of course make her eat where she should be like in the dinning area, but it wouldn't hurt me to let her enjoy her meal infront of the tv once in a while. By the way, my daughter haven't started eating yet, but that's how I plan to raise her. By somehow teaching her things but not being too strict on everything. =)
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• India
23 Sep 09
How old is your daughter? I won't be strict with my children but I expect them to be disciplined. I simply tell them that, we should take our meals in such a way that, it should not be spilt otherwise it will go and complain the God that we did not liked it and that is why without eating it we spilt it. Then, the God punishes us. My children believed this story and started eating their food without spilling even a tiny piece of food. Nobody can show the place where they have taken their food. But still I think there is a place where we should take our food and as far as possible I will try to follow. Sometimes I ignore.
• India
24 Sep 09
I think you are having only one daughter who is 5 months old. I am also sure that she will be the most beautiful angel in your family. I like small children and wanted to play with them always enjoying their small mouth with a beautiful laugh, their crawling, soft body and head and innocent look and play with small small hands and shaking soft and tiny legs. Will you post her photo to me?
@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
Hi vathsala actually my daughter is just going 5 months old.lol I haven't really experienced food scattered on the floor. But I understand your point on being more appreciative on the blessings that we get such as having food to eat. Actually I didn't mean to say that it's okay for them to waste some food, hehe. I was kinda thinking more of how children would feel about being so stiff. I guess it's just really hard to be parents having to balance everything. Well, I'm pretty sure I still have a long way on being an expert on this. =)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
I absolutely don't tolerate that because I was raised that when it's time for eating, be it breakfast, lunch or dinner, you take it do it on the dining not in front of the television.
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@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
We don't usually eat on our dining table if we feels hungry we eat alone in the living room while watching TV. I know that it is not a good habit but I'm used that arrangement. I'm still single and I think children always messy they need guidance while their eating but they need to learn how to eat all by themselves. Teach them to clean up after so they know there responsibilities. Sometimes you need to give them freedom and don't be too strict to them.
• India
17 Sep 09
You are absolutely right. It not only looks odd but it is a sort of indisciplined act also
• India
23 Sep 09
Yes. Children should be taught how to eat. Some children are very disciplined where as some are just brats the example is our neighbour's children. They are such a brats that all the people passes bad comments on them. But regarding taking food they are very clean and calm and disciplined.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
15 Sep 09
My husband and I often eat on the couch because we don't actually have a dinner table. We don't have TV now, but when we did, we did not eat dinner with the TV on. Once in a great while, we'll eat during a movie if we're doing pizza or something informal like that. But usually, dinner gets our undivided attention. For one thing, eating in front of the TV can lead to not really being aware of what you're eating or how much. We believe in eating mindfully and taking the time to enjoy our food. For another thing, dinner is a good time to connect, especially for families with kids. I think that dinner time is an important way to teach kids about setting priorities, and family comes before TV. When I was a kid, dinner was always at the table. There was no TV allowed. We didn't even answer the phone if it rang during dinner.
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• India
23 Sep 09
You are maintaining a good descipline. What you think is correct. Family first and TV next.
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
15 Sep 09
i eat food out in the living room all the time. i'm not a kid though so i don't make a big mess like they usually do.. but if i did it would bother my mom a lot. she is a clean freak and can't stand the house being dirty. she doesn't like my nieces to sit out there and eat but they usually do anyway. i like watching the t.v while i'm eating but i can see it from my dinner table too kind of but its more comfortable in the living room lol but i know its better to eat in the kitchen table but a lot of people don't know a days in less theres a reason too.
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• India
23 Sep 09
Now a days people like to watch TV when they are free and they are not ready to miss their favourite programme. So they will take their food as well as they will enjoy their programme too.
@maezee (41997)
• United States
15 Sep 09
As a mother I would probably make my kids sit in the dining room at an actual table and with the TV off so we can all eat together; and all talk about our day and have a little "family time". I would not want my kids to sit in front of the TV and eat and make a mess, that's for sure. But to each's own.
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• India
23 Sep 09
You are a perfect mom. What you are doing is correct. Even i tell my children, if they want to watch TV, before their programme starts, they should finish their meals or after the programme, they can take their food. But taking the food together with the family is healthy. Then they will join us in dinner and make our family time a heaven.
• United States
15 Sep 09
I don't have children, but if the parents eat in front of the TV themselves at times, naturally the kids would want to eat there as well. Or maybe it was a special occasion? I would hope its not a commonday occurance as it can form bad habits, not just making a mess... but due to classical conditioning or something similar watching television might trigger the I'm hungry response when one really isn't hungry. This then leads to obesity... not because a person ativly eats to much really, but because of the transmitters in the brain messing with the signals due to the triggers...
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• India
23 Sep 09
I totally agree with you. While watching TV, without our knowledge we eat more, thus leading to obesity. If the programme is much interesting, to watch it peacefully just we gulp down whatever is served without chewing properly thus leading to indigestion. May be that is the reason, during my childhood days, our grandmother objects anybody talking during the meals time. We should all sit together and take our food in the dining hall and nowhere else. May be that is the reason, if anybody takes their food anywhere else like sitting on the couch, bed, chair, keeping their plate on their lap etc, i can't tolerate but exit from that place.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
16 Sep 09
Though we have dining table, we hardly use it. We feel comfortable to sit in chair, watching TV we eat. My daughter will take it to her room and eats there by either watching TV or studying for exams. Now-a-days time is mechanical. No extra time to spare for anyone for that matter. So people couple things together and do them. Nothing wrong. But it should not be spilt over. Ants will come and again it is a nuisance for us only. So we should be careful not to spill.
• India
23 Sep 09
Watching the TV while taking our food depends upon one's choice. Since this is purely a personal thing, nobody can object anybody.
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
well, when i was growing up, we were not allowed to eat anywhere but the dining table... that means, we can't stay at the living room or in our bedrooms to watch TV. it was just the proper thing to do.. as they say, a family that is having meals together will have a stronger bond that those who have not.. So I think when I have kids that's the same rules that I would impose on them.
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
a lot of family nowadays only sees each other during dinner, that is why it is the most important meal for the day for families.
• India
23 Sep 09
yes. You are 100% correct. i fully agree with you.
• India
17 Sep 09
Now a days we are so busy that we don't have time for the family togetherness. It is only during the dinner time where our family meets each other. Because in the morning if one is available, the other will be in his office and the third one will be in college. In the noon only my hubby comes for lunch. So in the night i want all of them to join for the dinner and share lighter moments and exchange our views on various things. You are right. This togetherness will defenitely have a stronger bond between the parents and the children
• United States
23 Sep 09
i strongly feel that meals should be shared around a table. it is a great way to have conversations and to know what is going on in everyones lives. if you want to stay involved in your childrens lives then you have dinner with them! though we sometimes have movie night and then we eat around the tv. but this is a treat and does not happen often. as far as messes go.. they happen! of course they happen... just laugh it off and clean it up :)
• India
23 Sep 09
People now a days are so busy that they have no time to see face to face or exchange a few pleasantaries with their family members. Meals time is the only time where all sit together, have fun, exchange their views and understand each other. Why spoil that healthy atmosphere, by sitting in from of the TV? This is what I tell my children