What was that?

@tutul0045 (2630)
India
September 15, 2009 3:45am CST
Hi friends, Yesterday I was traveling by bus to a friend’s house. Now an aged man was sitting next to me. He was around 60-65 yrs old and i didn’t pay much attention to his face or to him. Now after some time he kept his left hand on my leg. I thought as the road wasn’t very good he must have wanted to hold some thing for balance. But he did not take his hand elsewhere from my leg and few minutes later he started rubbing my thighs. I lost my cool and asked him straight away what he is trying to do? He got startled and gave me a puzzled look and immediately ran towards the exit door! He got off in the very next minute the bus stopped and left me very confused, lol. I didn’t understand what he was upto? Was he sick and I scared him? Or he had something sinister in his mind? Friends have any idea? Cheers, Tutul
13 responses
• United States
15 Sep 09
lol... That is weird but yet a little funny! Sorry tutul... Awwww. Maybe he didn't realize where his hand was... Maybe he did?!?! Maybe he thought that you might have liked it, since you didn't say anything to him from the beginning! What ever the case might be, you scared him away and you will never find out, what he was truly up to! Better luck next time!
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hey, I dont really know what u mean by better luck next time? . Well I really dont want to accept that I was molested and he got away..lol. I hope he wasnt sick and wanted help. If that was the case, I would have loved to help him. I respect old people and we all should think twice before making fun of an old man. After all we all are going to reach that age some day. Cheers, Tutul
• United States
16 Sep 09
What I meant by better luck next time is, hopefully next time it will be someone that you like or find attractive! lol.. I wouldn't say you got molested, he just felt comfortable... Or maybe a little to comfortable with you!
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
17 Sep 09
Hi, Yes definately he was feeling comfortable with me . I scared him other wise i dont know what he had stored for me, lol. Well yes i need good luck and hopefully dont meet anyone like that again. Cheers, Tutul
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi Tutul! I am very scared of this type of incidence. In this type of case i cant scold opposite person because of his age. At this type of situation i just change seat.So most of the time due to that scare, I avoid traveling alone. When I 18yaers; used to visit bank for money transaction. At that time one aged person come there regularly; when i stood in a queue, used to stand aside me and started rubbing his on my ***.That man was regular visitor in bank so whenever i visited bank , found him all the time. So that was so scary. Once in bus too i faced same problem like you but at that time I told him to remove his hand from my thigh. Those types of incidence are so disgusting. That is why I scared of gay!! All that people were gay; who has not control on themselves. Have a nice day!! Happy mylotting!!
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi ranvir, As u r a male, I dont understand u being scared of such people. Instead of getting scared u could have told yr parents, or some one like yr elder brother or even a friend. If u guys ignore such things its not going to solve the problem. If u had slapped that guy then and there it could have solved problems of so many other victims. If i find some one touching even not me , an another person I have the courage to ask him to stop, and if still he is not stopping then probably knock him down. We all have some moral responsibilities and we got to fulfill it. Avoiding and scaring away wont do any good. Cheers, Tutul
• India
17 Sep 09
Hi Tutul, I might have specified in my previous discussion that i was so introvert in childhood. Sorry i forgot to specify here. I have lots of respect towards older people and that respect always stop me to behave like you say. I don't what type of person I am which growing defect has made me like this that I am today. Most of the times I think about it why I am like this. Due to my introvert nature I face many problems. Yes i am male but can't oppose just change my path. Have a nice day!!
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
17 Sep 09
Hi ranvir, Well sorry to know that u were shy to share your problems with others. But hopefully u have changed now and can solve your problems on your own. Taking help of some one doesnt make any one small, so please do take proper help from right authroities whenever needed. Like you i have respect for old people too. Not only old people I have respect for every one. But then if iam not respected, there is no meaning of respecting others. When i was starting this discussion I had this feeling that, should I start such a discussion? It may hurt a lot of mylotters as many of them are in that age range. But now after reading so many responses of being molested, I think i have made the right decision. Cheers, Tutul
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@Ruby722 (797)
• China
16 Sep 09
Oh my god! Really?I can't belive this a old man trying to play with you? It's ridiculous.If i were you i wouldn't be cool also.We should respect old person yes!But the man should respect himself.Alas~ Big world can find all kinds of people.we should keep away from them.Don't u think?
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi ruby, Iam confused just like u. I dont want to bad mouth that man as iam not sure what he was upto. If he had some thing sinister iam angry that he got away. If he was sick and wanted some kind of help iam upset that i couldnt help him. Dont know really , it was an unusual evening for me. Cheers, Tutul
@maezee (37046)
• United States
16 Sep 09
People are crazy! This kind of thing is weird and unacceptable. It's also interesting because you're a guy; and usually the ones getting hit on like this are women. This man probably was delusional or perhaps got some weird, mixed message from you or your body language that told him it was OK to grab your leg. Obviously you didn't solicit this, and he was just crazy. I'm glad you said something and embarrassed him, though! People like that deserve to be embarrassed, to tell the truth.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi, Well iam not jumping into conclusions here. I would love to give him the benefit of doubt. MAy be he wanted some thign else. He was old and it is possible he wanted to get hold of something and then may be it was really his stop and he got down from the bus. So there are lots of if's and but's . Anyway just wanted to say I respect old people. I will help some one if he needs help and i will punish some one if he is trying to do some thing rubbish, lol. Cheers, Tutul
@kutedarsu (254)
• India
16 Sep 09
I guess he likes you and wanna do sumtn... LOL
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hmmm.. he wanted to do some thing, like what? Would u like to share?
@cherrc (662)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
either he was a pickpocket or he liked u lol! giving him the benefit of the doubt, he may be an ordinary old man reaching his second childhood. :)
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi, He liked me? Well everyone likes me . The thing is there are differant type of likings.. Cheers, Tutul
@jen14ed (866)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
hi tutul00 i thinks that guy is really like you.. you know what this is really happen to me. in the taxi I'm passenger sheet in the front of taxi when suddenly i noticed that the hand of the driver was on my___ you know what i mean then i ask then stop the car. please then she stop the car and i open the car and i run I'm so scared of that i things taxi driver was type me or like me but i don't like to have affair in guy gay!.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi jen, Thats awful. I dont understand ignoring such incidents. Dont u guys think a lot worse can happen if some one innocent falls prey to such molestors. Just becoz u got away doesnt mean everyone will in the future. It may spoil some ones life. Its our moral duty to report such people. Plz do it next time. Cheers, Tutul
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Hi tutu, I think he was confused as to what he was holding, you know old men, they sometimes don't know what they are doing, Alzheimer's maybe? Or maybe he thought you were his grandson? Seriously, what else do you think was he doing? Trying to hold on to a pole? Come on, you know better than that. Well, you have to be kind to old people.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi dori Well i narrated this incident to my friend whom i was meeting that day. And he is such a prankster pulled my leg entire evening. I really invited trouble by saring this incident to him. Well it was really a funny and unusual evening. Cheers, Tutul
@shav9292 (928)
• India
15 Sep 09
maybe he thought it was his leg!!!!:) the mystery will continue .....lol
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
@abanerji (1026)
• India
15 Sep 09
he could be in a look out for some easy cash or a mobile phone in your pocket... probably he takes advantage of his old age, people don't have doubts about his being a thief....
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi, If that was the case, then i was lucky. But honestly i dont think he was looking to steal some thing. Y would a theif rub yr leg before stealing anything? The only thing which concersn me is he could be sick and wanted some kind of help or some thing. May be he wasnt feeling good and wanted some thing to hold and in the process rubbed my thighs. Hmm..its all assumptions and i will never get to know the truth Cheers, Tutul
@killersss (638)
• India
15 Sep 09
lol :) i think he was gay ;) or may be he wanted to steal something from you or may be he wanted to talk to you but you shouted at him so he got scared and got off the bus lol. but i am 90% sure that he was gay :) lol
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi, Hmm... i dont think he was a theif. Y would a theif let a person know that he wants to steal something by keeping his hand on his thighs? Dont make sense to me. cheers, Tutul
@med889 (5958)
15 Sep 09
You know what I have been in this situation some four times in my life as believe me I really got angry, they were old men too and I think they have vile intentions too. Once I was in the bus and an old man came to sit beside me, I was looking from the window and then I found that his hand was on my thigh and I shocked him too by asking him what he was doing and he was behaving as if he does not know anything and I just changed my place. I think the old man in your case is a gay or is just having some vile intentions.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi med, That’s so awful to hear. As a friend I request you not to take such incidents lightly. U should report such people to the cops. U never know whom they will target next. Avoiding them is not the solution. Think about the innocent victims he may target next time. It reminds me of an incident in which I was involved in my teen age. Me with my other friend was traveling in a very empty train. Now there was a girl reading some thing and also there was a psycho man sitting. That man went to the girl and started to bite her hand. The poor girl started to scream in pain and for help. My friend who himself is quite a character punched that psycho and we both threw him out from the moving train. Whenever I recall that incident, I feel very uncomfortable but somewhere down the line I think we did the right thing. We saved an innocent soul being harassed. So please be strong next time and slap the guy hard, if anyone tries to touch u inappropriately. Cheers, Tutul
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
as u are a male and it was a man who did that to u, i would assume that he was gay. he must have laid eyes on u. oh, really, what else could i think of in a situation like that. he would know that what he did was uncalled for because he ran towards the exit door and immediately got off as soon as the bus stopped. this is not uncommon. there are men who purposely sit beside u in moviehouses and like to take the chance there. always, one has his choice whether to allow him to do that or not. but it is not the ideal and it is not right morally.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
16 Sep 09
Hi, Look iam not sure whether he ran away from me or he really wanted to get down in that stop. The way he looked at me , it was like he was surprised and then wanted to move away from me. May be it was the stop he wanted to get down. So Iam only assuming and cant get into any conclusions.. lol Anyway I told this incident to my friend whom i was supposed to meet and he was rolling in the floor laughing Cheers, Tutul