Is it all in how they're raised?

@Jennlk84 (4219)
United States
September 16, 2009 11:30am CST
I am a certified teacher. So I've been in many different situations in classrooms before and have worked with tons of children. Currently I'm nannying. So I've recently met some new children that I will be taking care of over the next year. It amazes me how different each of these children are. And I've seen the same thing in the classroom. Now a lot of traits I truly believe come from how the child is raised. As a parent - do you think the way a child acts is all in how they're raised and treated at home?
6 responses
@tobosoi (12)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i agree with you that the child attitude is first come from the family...if the child teach by there parents in a good attitude the child will follow,if the child have a problem in school the parents should follow up and ask the child...some sort of guidance.so that we raise our child in a good attitude and manners..
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@babykeka80 (2003)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Oh how I love the nurture vs nature debate. Being in the criminal justice field its a constant battle. Is it the parents or are they born that way. I am in between. Parenting plays a huge role in a persons development but how about free will. Don't kids grow to eventually make deciscions of their own? I believe a large portion is parenting but there are other factors as well
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@malamar (784)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
I don't know that it is all in how they were raised, but I know it does play a major role in it, especially in the early years. The only role models most of these young children have are parents and sometimes other close relatives, grandparents, etc. There have been many studies done on this subject, and for the most part, they all point toward the home environment. For example, if the parents communicate by screaming and yelling, while the very young child might withdraw at first, eventually he/she will recognize this style as an acceptable communication style. Likewise, when a child is ignored or neglected, they will often react with negative behaviors, in the belief that any attention (even bad) is better than no attention at all. The real test comes when the child gets older, preteen and teen years particularly. If he/she has not been raised with boundaries, consequences and ethics, it becomes very difficult for them to adapt to the social norms society expects from them. Not all parents are bad parents, of course. But many of them are not aware of the importance of the formative years.
@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I think that it could be that way. I know when it comes to manners is how they are taught within the family. I know my son was married to this woman that wasn't big on manners at all. His two sons quickly stopped using their matters. He has now divorced and living with a lady. She is very high on manners and the boys are back to the way they should be with their manners and good hygene too. Great discussion...
• United States
16 Sep 09
For the most part I would say yes. I can say that my son will act one way at home where he knows his limits. In school he will be on the shyer side, and even he will make comments about how some other kids in class will act. And then there is how he will react when he is at my parents (his grandparents house)... since they let him get away with more --of course I never got away with anything but a grandchild is totally different!! but yes, I agree it is all in how they are raised!!
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@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
17 Sep 09
They are too young for one understand them. Although they might have few traits of their parents. You can judge them once they reach their teens. Thats when they show their true nature, good or bad.
@Jennlk84 (4219)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I'm not "judging" children. I'm simply talking about their behaviors. And behavior traits begin the moment they're born!