do you have any bad experiences with your partner? how did you get over?

@berith (27)
Philippines
September 16, 2009 11:42am CST
It was 4 years ago when i met my first boyfriend... our relationship lasts for more or less 2 years but it ended up with grief and despair... one day i wake up only to find out that he already left me..left me hanging in the air..i don't know what's his reason why he left.. i tried to call him but his not answering his phone..i tried to visit him but again nothing happened... until one saturday his mom called..he told me that my boyfriend (his son) is breaking up with me... from that day on... everything turned into hell, i want to die... i don't understate why he had to do it to me.. for those who experience the same thing, i know that you know what i feel.. after 6 months, he appeared again in our church, i was shocked i never expected that i will see him again... and so once more the scar was opened and guess what... he had a new girlfriend.. which is also one of our church mate... actually one of my frien.. i don't know how will i forgive him, by human nature i cannot forgive him and i will not..but because i love the Lord... I choose to forgive both of them for the sake of Christianity.. right now, i'm living my life separated from the concept of the world about relationships..after him, i never had a boyfriend again. there are some who tried to court me,but i never felt the spark..that certain spark.. and so i'm not sure if the feeling is really over how i wish that someday when i wake up i can stand out and shout to all the people in the world that i'm already free... free from the hurts and griefs of the past... how about you??? what's your story? how did you get over?
3 responses
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
hi berith! well, its good to know that you have already forgiven them for what they have done to you...and its good that you are already free now from those hurting feelings...just don't lose hope for that someone who will give spark on your heart again & who is more deserving of your love will come without you knowing and who knows, he's just around! since you have that great faith in the Lord...i suggest you to pray for that someone...pray to Him to give you the right person for you...just like what i have done... i do have bad experience with my partner...okay, e are already almost 3 or 4 years bf/gf that time when he was assigned to another place far from me...and so we have a long distance relationship and something happens...there's this one girl telling me that she was pregnant and my bf is the one responsible for it...huh! its the most hurting part in our relationship...the fact that he cheats on me...i thought that was the end of everything, i thought when my partner cheats on me, i can't forgive him...but its not! huh! coz i think love is greater than hate and i find forgiveness in my heart...although it takes me years before i forget that nightmare in our relationship... but now, we are both happy living together coz my bf and i ended up in marriage! hehe... and the girl who tried to ruin our relationship...well the last thing i know is that her baby is not my bf's and she got married just a month after my bf refuse to accept her pregnancy! huh! the experience i got here is really something bad...but i am just thankful that it ended up good for me and my partner...and yes, love and forgiveness has got something to do with it...and of course God's guidance!
@berith (27)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
I agree... there are times that the nightmares in my past keep on hunting me... i don't how to escape that feeling but i find comfort beside the almighty God. God is really great..I'm happy for what happened to you..indeed everything has a purpose for sure your relationship is much stringer by this time...am i right? well.. i also believe that in due time God will give the man that I deserve...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
yes it is...more stronger than before. i thought it will be difficult due to some trust issue but just good that everything turns to be good! well, yes...there's a time for everything and i wish you to find that right man for you...and like what i have said, ask for God's guidance...for He knows what's best for us!
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
i feel the same way too... my first love left me hanging also but we were both young at that time. we were in second year high school when we had a relationship. everything was doing great until summertime came, he no longer communicates with me and like you, his mom was the one who texted telling me that i should stay away from his son because we're too young. i got insulted 'cause it seems like i'm the one who was deeply in love with his son and all that. after summer, classes started, i found out from his friend that he has a new girlfriend and they been together ever since our summer vacation begun. the girl that his friend is referring is the same girl who have been chasing after him. it's just so sad that i was his first girlfriend but he didn't strive hard to make our relationship consistent. :(
@berith (27)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
well...sometimes we really can't avoid circumstances like that... but you know what..maybe those guys do not deserve our time and effort...why are you going to stick with someone who do not love you at all... besides lasting relationships need genuine love, it's a good thing that we are under going these experiences...it helps a lot... specially in molding our character...
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
hi there,my story goes,i feel inlove with my first bf for me that time he is the one already.we been for 3 years.he is kind,thoughtful all the things i like in men.but suddenly he go to work abroad.for a few month he call and sent me letter and even we he sent emails too.but 2 months after i feel something is wrong.because he is not replying my emails back.that time i assume he just so very busy at work.but my cousin who is also working in that same country saw him dating another woman.at first i do not believe it.but my cousin took pictures them they were hugging very passionately.so to confirm this i called him overseas and he answer my call for the third time of dialling.i was yelling at him i am so mad why his not replying my email and not even calling on my phone.he said i am amy you will hating me to saying this to you .i have an affair i love this girl.i didnt finish the call i turn off then i cried for 2 weeks i been crying remembering why he left me that way.the recovering periods takes me about 1 year before i accept the fact i already move on on that situation.my parent and friends helps to move on,they are my strength and of course GOD ALMIGHTY done a lot to me.i am now a better person.
@berith (27)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
yes... these experiences are really teaching us to be a better person... sometimes we really need to suffer to be strong enough in facing the reality... but sometimes i wonder why is it that there are people who do not care about what will other feel if they will do a certain action... like in our experiences, i'm not sure if these men have their conscience...