People who catch your attention most often...

United States
September 16, 2009 10:50pm CST
Some people believe that opposites attract, others that we are most drawn to someone similar to either one or both of our parents, or people who are very much like we ourselves. Which type is most likely to capture your attention most often? Since I am a curious person and a natural born "people watcher," it is really hard for me to pinpoint, but I do believe my attention is most often drawn to those people whose interests and mannerisms are similar to mine. Karen
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@Tantrums (950)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
Hey Karen! Well, someone will always catch my attention if they usually stand out of the crowd. Like he/she is far different from the others.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Tantrums. Yes, you're right...some people, for whatever reason, just do stand out from the rest and our bound to capture our attention. That is a good way that you put it...thank you! Have a nice night. Karen
@hotsummer (10077)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
yeah those that stand out in the crowd can get my attention but it does not always sustain my interest. some people just sustain my interest on them no matter how many years has passed and that really mind-boggling for me. as i can't still figure out exactly what they have that have such a hold on me .
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@hotsummer (10077)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
this will be a hard question cause sometimes i do get attracted to a person with none of the qualities i usually look for. but i guess when a person has some charm no matter what his qualities that you will attracted to it one way or another. but for one, i do get attracted to people who seem to act dignified and have a class. i don't know why. but when they act suddenly like a cheap person i just get turn off somehow. but that does not mean that i don't get attracted to cheap acting people or even just average. i do fall in every kind of people actually. is just that i do get more attracted to people who seem to have such a class in them that i admire so much that i want to look at them for a long time and think more of them. i just like get drawn to them. like they have this certain power on them that makes me want to act like them and be just like them in lot of ways
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello Summer. I think anyone can capture our attention for whatever reason, but the ones we make a connection with, especially a close or long-lasting connection seem to have something special about them that we just plain admire. Grace, for instance, or a particular dignity also draw me. Or a warmth and sincerity. Many things. Thank you for responding. Karen
@hotsummer (10077)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
warm and sincerity are traits that i like most. but i am not good at knowing if a person has those . so even if such a person show interest on me, i may fail to recognize that what i am looking for or wanted to get be with as company always. i may feel something special about the person but if can't know what exactly draws me to the person it is hard just to trust by that feeling. i need to know exactly what it is good about the person.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hmm, I think that time and more association with a person will tell you those things. There sometimes IS no other way to know them. :)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Well, its not so much a type of person so much as this..I am a Leo..My first love (and still good friend when we get in touch) was a Sagitarius. The lady who has put up with me these (almost) 22 years is a Sagitarius. I have had two (male) bosses in the last 10 years who were both Sagitarius...And my dad and his twin were Sagitarius. Interesting huh? ENJOY!
@aprces (1083)
• China
17 Sep 09
What is Sagitarius?The word means what? Why so many Sagitarius?
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• United States
17 Sep 09
Hi Greenfeathers. Yes, very interesting. You've had a lot of sagitarius friends, relatives, and such, so there must be something you connect to or recognize in them :) Thank you for sharing this here, and have a delightful day! Karen
• India
16 Oct 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, Happy Deepavali Today. I think you are very right in your findings. Also our old proverb proves it well. "BIRDS OF SAME FEATHERS FOLK TOGETHER". A smoker/gambler/drinker pick up friendship soon. If one is book reader, on ewill be attracted with another similar character. I am very fond of knitting wool by hand. So one day, while waiting for my Doctor, my hubby pointed out at another lady, who was knitting the wool, and I approached her without any hestitation as known friend. Unlike poles do attract each other. But what you say is cent percent correct. May God bless You and have a great time.
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• United States
17 Oct 09
Thank you for your insights, my friend. I, too, love to knit, so we'd immediately have a common interest :) I've met many friends through doing things I love and going places I enjoy, and there I always find like-minded others with whom to talk and befriend. Life and people are good! Happy Deepavali to you! Karen
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• India
18 Oct 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, So nice of you for showing such a homely feelings in our activities. It is absolutely true that we intend to show interest with all those, where theres is small vent of our likings. Thanks for Deepavali wishes. Today is last day of pulling down curtain of Deepavali for next year. Today, Sisters will apply "kum-kum' on for-head of thier brothers and brothers in turn will promise to take care of thier sisters throughout their life, sister's interest will always be first than brothers. It is known as 'BHAI-DUEJ' May God bless You both and have great time.
@shibham (17025)
• India
17 Sep 09
hi there. good discussion. generally i never watch to and fro on my way but if someone can catch my attention then he/she must be a handsome one with some extra personalities. thanks.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello Shibham, thank you for joining my discussion :) I can understand why someone who stands out in a particular way would capture your attention. As we go about the day, we are otherwise to busy to perhaps notice everyone else :) Thank you again. Karen
• United States
29 Sep 09
Thank you! I very much agree with the things that draw your attention to one or another person. We look for the qualities that lie inside the heart! Karen
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Hello my friend I always seem to attract people that are nothing like me, I have no luck when it comes to things like this, short men seem to think I am perfect for them,only god knows why, I had this one man that use to tell everyone to talk to me for him, one day I was in the store and the guy was like there he is,when I turned around and saw him, I was like tell him I am married lol, anyway I was going to school for my G.E.D and who do you think was sitting in the classroom, yes, unbelievable I closed the door and started to walk away, but then I said this man is not going to stop me from doing what I have to do,turns out he was alright, pretty good with math so the teacher referred everyone to him when they had problems, I think he worked the night shift because his breath use to stink like morning/noon/afternoon breath grrrr could you imagine, I started to carry mints just for him, we studied together and became friends, he really liked me alot but he was not for me, there is much more to this, but the bottom line was yuk.we had the same sign which could have been cool, but he sucked.lol Thank you my friend, oh by the way although he was the best in math, when we took our test we both passed and I scored higher than him,lol
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• United States
29 Sep 09
Good morning Kitty. Ahh, so the student outscored the tutor? LOL. Either you were an exceptional student, or the breathy man was a good teacher. It seems oddly enough we do often attract those people who develop some kind of crush, and we just cannot return those feelings. I always hate to hurt anyone, but when it comes to romance and such, sometimes it's necessary. I imagine you attract a variety of people because you are open and approachable! Those are fine qualities. Karen
@1anurag1 (3585)
• India
18 Sep 09
What i think our mind notice those things easily which are different. If you have to find a black sheep in white you will get it very easily Same in our case. We attracted towards opposite easily. Even for me.I get attracted by opposite very easily and even most of the time.
• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi :) You are right. It is easier to spot someone vastly different from ourselves. And then time tells us those things we might also have in common. Thank you for sharing your opinion, and have a nice evening. Karen
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
18 Sep 09
hi peaceful wmn, What i gather about this discussion is that you are talking about making new friends offline because your old friends you dont need to find out what they like or if they have same interest as you. As far as i am concerned interests matching is way way later after we had become friends. I like to know person first before i can say he is my friend or not. It is the persons personality which attracts me more. Well i should say smile more than anything. If a person has a radiant smile and can be happy most of time, then i would be friends with him even if we dont share same interests.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Agrim. I think I am talking about people in general...online or off. Many kinds of folks may capture our attention, but for whatever reason, we simply seem more drawn to some than others. Some become friends or acquaintances...some we see just in passing, but they leave a lasting impression on us. Yes, friends do seem to have common interests. Thank you for sharing in the discussion. Karen
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
17 Sep 09
What type of people always catch my attention is those people that dresses up really funny and exaggerating. Like some people put on really big and puffy hair + heavy thick make up and ridiculous out look...those people...
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Mermaid. Yes, people who stand out in some way do tend to capture our attention. People with green or pink hair interest me, for whatever reason. I am also particularly drawn to the very young and the very old, always wishing I could protect them, as they seem innocent and vulnerable. Thank you for taking part in the discussion, and have a beautiful night! Karen
@satan88 (587)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
17 Sep 09
attractive people draw my curiousity the most. also people who are different than me because i want to find out why they are different in theses ways. i still don't understand some people's viewpoints but trying to analyze people is sometimes fun.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello to you. Yes, trying to figure out what makes people tick is always an interesting venture. And we can definitely learn many things from those whose viewpoints and lifestyles differ from our own. Thank you adding to the discussion, and have a good night. Karen
@clarkbody (141)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Definitely do. I have seen so many people who are very different, but instead of causing conflict, it has created balance in their lives. For example, one friends are is in a mariage with a woman who is very passion when it coomes to raising children, making financial decisions, etc., but he is all about the facts. However, they also share a lot of common interest which is how they started dating in the first place.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello Clark. You make a good point. Sometimes, opposites do complement one another very well, each bringing something different that ultimately makes for a good "team." But...also vital are those important things in common that keep it working well. Thank you for your response to the discussion. Karen
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
Well yeah, opposite attracts since im in love with the opposite of me... strange isn't it? Hahahaha, but is just life so full of surprises you will never know what will happen next... But it's great some people well have a list so that they can find what will be there attractions, but let's just respect one another. :)
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Martin...lol, well opposite sexes normally attract, but then sometimes, so do those with opposite interests, personalities, beliefs, etc. Sometimes it works; sometimes not so well in the long term. Respect. Now that is crucial in any good relationship. Thank you for responding. Karen
@artistry (4154)
• United States
17 Sep 09
...Hi there, I think you are right in our observation. I tend to look at the women men marry and in a lot of cases, if you look at their mother or sisters, the wife he chose looks a lot like them. Or women will find someone like their dad. So we tend, I think to look for similarities. Opposites do attract, but I think after the novelty wears off, we want and need a comfort level and that comes from shared interests. Myself, I like people who like to talk and have concrete ideas but are flexible in their thinking and are willing to listen and grow as I am. There are things we can learn daily, no matter how old we are. Take care.
• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello Artistry. What astute observations. Granted, opposites do often attract one another, but yes, for the long haul, a certain familiarity or something we "recognize" tends to be more lasting. I certainly appreciate your sharing your insights here...very wise, I might add. Have a lovely night. Karen
@malamar (784)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
I am not really sure which type I am most drawn to. I have such diverse tastes, that I mingle with all different types of people on a regular basis. When initially meeting someone, I guess I am most drawn to those who look me in the eye when they speak, and anyone who has a sense of humour. I also like really witty people who don't take themselves too seriously. What an interesting question, though. I am going to give it some thought over the next while and see if indeed I do have a "type" to call my own. This could be an interesting little social test and I bet it will be fun to try.
• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Malamar. Diverse tastes are good...and make for a more well-rounded life, whether in our activities, thoughts, or the people with whom we associate. Humor IS wonderful, as is a certain cleverness or what I call "chutzpah." If you do find you have a "type of your own" please come back to tell us :) Thank you for sharing your viewpoint, and have a great day tomorrow. Karen
@ANTIQUELADY (36493)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I to am a people watcher. Karen. In fact my kids get on to me when we go out to eat, lol. they'll say eat mom & quit watching the people. A person w/a great personality catches my attention first. one who has alot of fun about them. Alot of people go for good looks & of course if they are easy on the eye that's great but personality comes first w/me. Happy thurs.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
People are always interesting, Jo. Amazing how much the same and yet different we each are. I also believe what comes from the inside stands out as more beautiful than whatever is showing on the outside. Thank you for responding. Have a nice night. Karen.
@horsesrule (1884)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I think I'm most drawn to those with a sense of humor, those who don't take themselves too seriously. At least that's the type I enjoy the most or have the most fun verbally sparring with. I like to people watch too and used to do it at the mall. It's kind of fun except when you see someone being mean to their kids and then it sucks because you can't rescue everyone.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello to you :) Humor is wonderful, and gets us through many difficulties and helps us celebrate life's joys. I still love to "people watch," but like you, some of what I see is disturbing. I hate it when anyone mistreats a child in any way! I do wish we COULD rescue everyone, really. But even the contemplation of it is exhausting...so we "rescue" whomever we can. Thank you for your wisdom. Karen
• Australia
17 Sep 09
I don't know that I can pinpoint either. I am, of course, attracted to people with the same interests and outlook on life, but many of those also have beliefs or attributes opposite to mine. I have a number of good friends, online and offline, with whom I enjoy light banter and serious discussions, but I would disagree with some of them on an issue which I consider to be the main focus of my life - but it doesn't stop us from being friends. I suppose the thing that attracts me INITIALLY would be a smile and a friendly attitude. The thing that determines on ongoing friendship would probably be mutual interests.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Cloud. It is sometimes hard to pinpoint why some draw our attention, yes? Disagreements should never put an end to a true friendship. They are inevitable in life...just part of the whole. And mutual interests do bind. Thank you for sharing your views :) Karen
@thea09 (18279)
• Greece
17 Sep 09
Hi Karen, this made me think what do the people I want to be with have in common with each other to pinpoint why I'm drawn to them, and usually immediately too as first impressions do stick with me. I'd say the way they carry themselves with confidence with intelligence clearly in their eyes, and calm. I have no time for moody types but like consistency. I don't know if that explains it properly.
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello Thea. I think that shared chemistry or energy, while not seen, does somehow draw us toward some and away from others. Yes, many things can be seen in one's countenance. Thank you for offering that. Karen
@dpk262006 (48255)
• Delhi, India
17 Sep 09
Hi Karen! Yes, it is very true that we always keep looking for those persons, irrespective of their gender, who are similar to us in nature. Some of my close friends are similar to me and we think alike and they will ponder over my problems, as I would do. I think when we find such persons in our life, we feel a kind of satisfaction and we feel comfortable in their company, those who are like us. Those who are similar to us, it becomes easier for them to ‘understand’ us. Deepak
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello my friend. You make a good point and describe well how people of similar nature connect to help one another, learn from one another and enjoy life or share problems. I am fortunate to have found that, both online and off. People such as yourself. Thank you for sharing your insights. Karen
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
for me, the one who catches my attention is, the one who has an anime-like hair / a cosplay hairstyle. i myself is an anime fan, if i met someone who is also an anime fan, i would like to be his / her friend so that we can relate with each other. ^_^
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• United States
18 Sep 09
Hi Seymour. The Anime characters are unique and interesting. I think it is pretty common to be drawn to someone who is obviously interested in a thing which also interests us...Anime fans, for instance, as you said. Thank you for sharing your opinion, and have a nice evening. Karen