It takes one to forget one.

@LdeL0318 (6435)
Philippines
September 17, 2009 11:58pm CST
Do you agree with the idea of having to forget someone you love by means of finding someone else? I know of some people who used to do that and really became happy afterwards. Have you already done that also? Was it just okay to do that or is it unfair because of the fact that you still love the other person and yet you are using someone new to overcome it?
3 responses
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
it is case to case basis...if you still in-love and willing to let go of that love, not because you only want to forget, but you really want to move on, to take the risk again of loving and being hurt, it is not unfair for your new one caused at the end you will end up loving him/her...but if you only ment to forget, then i think that is unfair? why? caused you will not forget her/him caused for once your heart beat for him/her...don't go with someone if you only mean to do the thing that is impossible to do in real life, forgetting is just a word but no one [ i think] can do that... let go and move on...
@LdeL0318 (6435)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
Well, you've got a point there. It really depends on the situation as well as the intentions. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
as always said, experience is the best teacher...you got to love yourself if you don't want to involve others in forgetting your past...take some time on our own, do things you want to do, enjoy life, for sure it will help you to feel better and to have time with yourself...good luck! :D
@LdeL0318 (6435)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
Yes, I guess that's right. We should not always depend on others. We should first learn to stand on our own.
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
nope, I'm totally disagree.. finding somebody to fill the void left by another is temporary by nature..so sooner or later you'll find out that it was a big mistake..in some cases its not easy to fix things around..therefore you're left with regrets, or selfish enough to hurt others feeling. personally, i believe time is needed for us to move on from previous relationship before finding somebody new.
@LdeL0318 (6435)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
I also got your point there syaryel. If the only reason why you chose to have a new person in your life is to overcome the pains of yesterday, then I guess, that would be unfair.
• Sweden
18 Sep 09
A few years back I had a huge crush on this guy I was hanging out with. We were flirting and I felt that it would lead to something good, and so I was really devastated when it turned out that he went back to his old girlfriend. But, I decided that this time I wouldn't pine for some guy who wasn't interested in me anyway, and I started hanging out with someone who had shown alot of interest lately. The attention I got from this guy really made me feel good, and after some time I noticed that I wasn't thinking about that first guy anymore. And what do you know....I actually fell in love :)
@LdeL0318 (6435)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
So it did work out for you? That's nice. I guess having someone to love you will sometimes lead to forgetting someone you used to love. You seems happy now. Stay in love! =)