Does my butt look big in these pants?

@malamar (784)
Canada
September 18, 2009 4:00pm CST
We have all heard the old routine -does my butt look big in these pants. How often does the hubby/boyfriend respond "No honey, your BUTT makes your butt look big in those pants." I have to assume, at least some of the time, he lies and just says "no, dear." My question to you is, when is it okay to lie? We lie to our kids re: Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, and so on. Yet we teach them that it is wrong to lie. Hmmm? We have half lies and little white lies which are acceptable so that we don't hurt someone's feelings or insult them in any way. How to we teach our children the difference? When do you think a lie is acceptable, or do you? And, how to you model the difference for your kids? Just wondering...
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3 responses
• Bulgaria
18 Sep 09
Its not really the lie and it`s size that makes its good or bad , its the purpose u tell it with :) ... and its the principles that u go against or after when you tell it. For some people the truth is the right thing , no matter what it is , like for me , and i rather always hear it , but in the same time i try to always say it myself , tho thats not always possible... and yet , in the end , the situation calls for a decision to make , and it is to lie or no. THEN it is up to the individual to decide is that lie worth saying , or is the truth. However , i wish ppl considered what theyre going against , and thats the trust and faith and hope of the other one to hear the truth... because a lot of ppl like me want IT , and not some lie meant to make us feel better. I dont have kids , but when i do , ill just improvise and try to teach them not is lying good or bad , but how to determine if they should lie or no in certain situations , and to tell good from bad lies , and ofcourse show them whats the right thing to pick according to the situation
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@malamar (784)
• Canada
18 Sep 09
How do you explain that to a little kid though. I agree with you, don't get me wrong, we all do lie on occasion whether we admit or not. Heck, some of us even lie to ourselves!
• Bulgaria
19 Sep 09
Yea :D A lot of ppl lie to themselves :D But to a kid... hmm well you could try hard xD Kids arent stupid , theyre in fact very smart and will get it rather quickly :). You could start by saying that lie is a very complicated thing which can be good and bad , say what good and bad is , then say that it all depends on the person`s motives of lieing and the person you lie to`s opinion about lies :)
• Canada
19 Sep 09
lol
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 09
malamar hi well a little white lie is not really so much a lie as a stretching of the truth. why hurt your best'friend over a silly thing like does her butt look too big in these pants because they may look too big to me but not to someone else,its just objective so tell her no you look fine and let 'it go. explain to your kids that you do not have to blurt out mean things even if there is some truth,if it is going 'to hurt someone's feelings.JUst hedge around and say oh you look fine to me, and let it go at that. Kids can tell better' than adults if something hurts a fellow classmate or not.
@malamar (784)
• Canada
9 Oct 09
Hi Hatley, I would never hurt someone's feeling about her clothing choices, I was just using that as an example of when I thought it was okay to tell a little lie, or, as you put it, stretching the truth. You have yourself a good day, and take care.
@mattivdw (46)
• Antarctica
18 Sep 09
well i want to response on the big looking butt :) its funny when your pants are too tight that women always think that their butt has become bigger and that men always thinks the pants has shrunk :) Of course you teach your children that lying is bad and nevr do it. But lying isn't that bad all of the time. Scientists say you lie 40 times a day. All small lies. In my case, this can be true. I lie. I'm a liar. Its fun to lie sometimes. But when the subject is serious, I'm serious too. I don't deceive, I lie. Lying isn't evil by my opinion. Its overrated by many. You may lie but don't over do it. Be honest to your loved ones. And if you really want to lie because you don't want to get caught,than I advice you to don't just lie but Don't tell the truth. take care
@malamar (784)
• Canada
18 Sep 09
But, if you don't lie, and you don't tell the truth, what on earth do you say? And just so you know, my butt DOES NOT look big in these pants - lol