Which side of your personality is the most misunderstood

Personality - People never understand a shade of our personality.
By Bala
@balasri (26577)
India
September 19, 2009 12:02am CST
by the people in general?
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33 responses
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
For me the quite side of i dont usually talk to people unless they do it first they always think im a snob. Hey what's yourS?
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@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Sep 09
In my case I am the one who talk to people first.So that problem don't arise in my case.But people come in various colors and hues.That is natural like the vriety of flowers. Isn't it?
@gnase99 (172)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
same here. we can get along bud hehe
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
19 Sep 09
Hey bala! I'm not really sure! Probably most it! I guess the side of me that can be sensitive! I can be very loud and outspoken at times when necessary so that people can sometimes be confused when I get quiet and shy! I am a very sensitive person and for those that don't really know me they might not believe that! But, for my friends that do know me really well they are aware of how sensitive I truly am! If I watch a sad movie I am the first one to be hysterically crying! I don't care if I'm in a movie theater either and my eye makeup is running all over my face! That's just the way I am! But, if you piss me off or pick on me or someone else all hell will break lose!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
20 Sep 09
I too am a very outspoken and extrovert guy.Well enough of experience with me has made the people around me to understand that I do not mean any harm.Just a loud mouth with a soft heart.
@offlimits (602)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
Well, sometimes they think that my mood swings are a little annoying - at least I could see that. I only get mood swings most probably because I get irritated easily by little things. Some people also think that I'm untidy, which I would say is opposite to what I think I am. And also, when I get quiet they think that I'm already angry, but the truth is, I'm just only in deep thought. For me, it doesn't really matter if those little things about me are misunderstood because I believe people have different opinions and judgments with those around them, and I know I'm no exception to that.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
You are right.As far as you know what you are doing you do not have to care about the others.
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Yes, I agree. I know I could always be in my best self at any rate. Take care!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
@dpk262006 (49171)
• Delhi, India
19 Sep 09
Hi Bala! What about you?. I think as far as I am concerned, sometimes my humorous side gets misunderstood by others. I am fun loving person and like humour, however, sometimes, some people take it otherwise.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Sep 09
I expect people to respect time and their word.This usually paints a picture of an arrogant person in their minds.But eventually they understand that they are dealing with a man of word and conviction without any nonsense.
@dpk262006 (49171)
• Delhi, India
20 Sep 09
To be punctual and to respect time is a great quality and I appreciate your stand on it. I also value time and try to be punctual and feel bad when others do not respect it.
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
19 Sep 09
The child within me Bala. Many think i don't act my age at times. Now i'm entitled to do that am i not ?
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@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Sep 09
Dear Alok Are you talking about me or you.Many think that I am not grown up.But Ido not have to show them the well grown side of me.Do I?
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@derek_a (10904)
20 Sep 09
Yes, as therapist and a Zen practitioner, I strongly believe that we need to allow the child in us to come out at times. Many "adult" people are too serious, and seem to have lost the ability to have fun. - Derek
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
I am not misunderstood. I am not a pretender. What you see is what you get. People get along with me. They can read my moods and I get along with all and sundry.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Sep 09
I can read your mood alright and just like your attitude.
• China
22 Sep 09
Yeah,me too. But I don't think it's a bad thing. Because I'm not a actress. Wearing a mask all day long gonna be killing me.
• United States
22 Sep 09
My diplomatic side. Many people, when they share or complain, simply want someone to commisserate with them. I, on the other hand, am well skilled in seeing an issues from all sides. I attempt to get people to look up or feel better by explaining the other sides of the situation. Most often people take this as disloyalty (for not choosing their side of the argument), being argumentative, being negative, being unsupportive, or playing devil's advocate. I am usually trying to be helpful, but many people are self-centered, especially when upset or angry, and I just tend to make things worse.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
23 Sep 09
I just can understand what you say.As people come running to us complaining about something they need us to to support them blindly which we just cannot do.
• India
22 Sep 09
I mingle with people very easyly may be any type of people which is my openess. that is what causes a problem. example when iam with one type people the oposite type feel some thing wrong and gets misunderstood. because the way of thinking differs on people's perspective.
@balasri (26577)
• India
23 Sep 09
You just cannot satisfy all the people all the time.If we try to please everyone we will have no one pleased at the end of the day.
• United States
21 Sep 09
Probably for me it's my outlook on spirituality and religion. I feel that no one religion has all the answers, so it's perfectly okay and even reasonable to take aspects of multiple religions in order to make sense of the world around you. I feel that picking one religion and blindly accepting everything just because you agree with some things is foolhardy and short-sighted. For example, as for Christianity, I believe in loving others as you love yourself--but I also believe that annihilating entire cultures in the name of your God isn't exactly love. My friends all have an "all-or-nothing" belief, or at least they claim to. They say that if you're going to follow any par of one religion, you should follow ALL of that religion or do not follow it at all. I think that's...well...downright stupid. On the other hand, what they don't seem to realize is that I DON'T HAVE A RELIGION o_O
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
Well I can very well understand your point.I do not find any reason for anyone to find it strange.May be you are bold enough to have a rational stand on religion which most of the people hesitate to take.No wonder that those people do not realize your point of view on religion.
@sjvenden27 (1851)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I would have to say it is my racing thoughts... I am bipolar, which is a chemical imbalance in my brain... and my thoughts do not always come out the same way I think them.. so what I am trying to say can be misunderstood... at the same token, understanding what others have to say sometimes can be difficult.. one message is said, and i receive a totally different message..Then out of the blue everything is just working just fine... both talking and listening... so some people think or assume that I can be this way all of the time... or I am just playing mind games or something.. But once the person takes the time to really get to know me for who I am, and not the picture they are trying to paint.. communication becomes a whole lot smoother.. Just wish people would realize I am me.. This is who I am... stop trying to mold me into something different!
@balasri (26577)
• India
22 Sep 09
That is a beautiful piece of writing.You have succeeded in bringing out the true picture of you.Any one who reads your response doesn't stand a chance of misunderstanding you.
@grey26 (254)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
For being a silent type, they taugHT That i am a pR0BLEMAtic one
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@balasri (26577)
• India
22 Sep 09
If silence too can be conceived as problem what can we do?
• China
21 Sep 09
my silence
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
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• United States
21 Sep 09
the most misunderstood part of my personality is my sense of humor sometimes it can get pretty warped and twisted and many people just dont understand it
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
To hell with those who cannot understand a humor.We are the best the way we are.Aren't we ZU?
@gnase99 (172)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
they think im snob but that's not true at all i maybe hard but i am friendly : )
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
A gentle soft snob?
@sgodar (1)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I am very outgoing and very confident, which alot of times is mistaken for cockiness. I'm not boastful, I don't put other downs, I don't feel like I'm better then the person next to me and I don't act like I do. I'm a people person and get along with most people that I come across. Eh...
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
Well I can understand because I am the most envied person among my circle for my gregarious friendly nature.
@pillusch (1150)
• Mexico
21 Sep 09
That's a really nice topic. I believe all of us can identify with it in some way or another. I am a German living in Mexico, and my insistence on respect goes totally unheard. How did this 'KrautĀ“, punctual, disciplined, keeps his word, tells only a few lies, end up in a latin country - beats me LOL. But the latinos are more into liking and loving each other, while they have a general disregard for respect. Little things. That's why the Virgin Mary is so popular down here - it's all love. Wheras protestantism originated with Luther in Germany, because there the prevailing attitude is that first we have to respect each other, and then maybe can reach a point where we like or love each other. Luther basically expressed the feeling that the Roman-Catholic Church didnĀ“t respect him and his relationship to his creator by getting involved everywhere and meddling in everything. They are steps in a process, and I feel like a square peg in a round hole.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
You have manged to tell your situation very interestingly.Itis a good one and deserves the Best response.
• Canada
20 Sep 09
In all fairness and support to you, I think there are many of us are walking around with the burden of being understood somehow. The truth is that we never truly know what it is like to inhabit another's skin. People tend to not understand the angry and protective parts of myself but that is part of my responsibility, too. All of us need to be seen and appreciated in our entireties in order to feel like we are a part of the human race. Anger is an emotion so many tend to avoid and in some very cowardly ways. That is when i know that my true self in all its facets are grotesquely understood. With the utmost of honesty, I must answer this post and say that I am generally misunderstood. Again, this is a responsibility of my own, but letting everyone define me on their own terms means that I will never be fully understood as a holistic being. We all need to tap into our long lost compassion to facilitate understanding.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
Anger is god in many ways,The purpose of anger is to destroy problems in our lives, not our relationships. When something needs to dramatically change, anger not only lets you know but it gives you the power to do something about it.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
20 Sep 09
My need for freedom. My need for being alone, doing my own thing, etc.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
People seldom respect our privacy.
@tifa17 (7)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
they misunderstood me when im happy even if there is a problem.i dont want to be serious on my problems hehe.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Sep 09
It is a pity that a positive quality is not understood an appreciated.Well anyhow I think that you have th right attitude towards life.
@Hatley (138101)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 09
hi balasri my shyness is often misunderstood as being stuck up'and I am not at all. I am just shy and its hard for me to meet people as I have to really push myself but once I get acquainted I am fine and'can make friends easily.what looks like being stuck up is just me having a hard time stepping out of my comfort zone and making moves to become friends with someone.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
20 Sep 09
It takes different time limits to different people to break the ice.It is quite understandable.