What is the most important thing in a relationship?

@biman_s (1061)
India
September 21, 2009 2:11am CST
I have asked this question to all my friends and others whom I know and each of them had something different to say. For me Love, Trust, honesty and faithfulnessare very important. It might vary for someone else. What is the most important thing in a relationship for you.
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36 responses
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hello I would have to say trust,without this there is no relationship, no matter how much you love them if you don't have trust the relationship is doomed honesty is a very important as well, I love honesty in any relationship be it love/family/friends always great to know the person you are communicating with is being completely honest with you, faithful well thats a given, I would trust that he better be faithful or I will lovingly kick his but, honestly. Thank you.
@bitoffun (203)
• United States
22 Sep 09
In my relationship with my husband the most important thing we have is communication with each other. Then there is compromise, caring, knowing when to let something go instead of arguing, not bringing up past things. We have been together for 8 years.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hello Well that is wonderful, communication is definately a plus, 8 years is a long time, you seem to have a great understanding I like that, I spent 9 years with someone but we were too young to appreciate the things you mentioned, if only I knew then what I know now Thank you for sharing this.
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 09
Hello Biman, The most important characteristics of a good relationship is LOVE! Love is the utmost important thing in a relationship. After that trust, honesty and respect come close second. Love however is the most important. Nice discussion and happy Mylotting to you!
@biman_s (1061)
• India
21 Sep 09
Yes, you are right. True Love is actually accompanied by everything else at least that's what I feel.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
Hi again, Yeah, only true love will make the relationship last longer or last forever. Love is so complex that it is really difficult to explain it. It is such a strange, wonderful experience that nobody really has codified what it is yet. Love is what makes us on cloud nine, and what also brings us 6 feet deep. love is something that will lift our spirits, and what can tear us apart. love is what we will not understand, but what we need to know. we were born with love and will feel it till our final breaths. But LOVE is so fragile.... Thanks for the best response!
@bnx2212 (713)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
For me basically it's about understanding because nobody is perfect. Everyone could make mistake.
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Good day to you Biman_s, There are a lot of important things in a relationship. Hence, you already name a few. However, the one you have shared is just a trait that might be possess by the person in love or maybe the character that is already built-up inside. Nonetheless, the most important thing in a relationship is God. For God must be the center of every relationship. For with Him, the relationship is bless. No amount of trial that you cannot surpass. And with God's presence in a relationship, every moment is not just a happy moments but a joy that you can feel inside and out. And that is the most important thing that a relationship must have.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
5 Dec 09
All the things you mentioned about are there plus learning to adjust with each other is a sign of a good relationship.Forgiving is also another important thing in the relationship.If this thing is there the couple will stay for a long time.Not doubting the partner is also an important thing in the relationship.It will help us live our lives happily for years.
• United States
29 Sep 09
I agree with that 100%. If you don't have Love, trust, honesty and faithfulness then what's the point of the relationship? Without these the relationship is surely to fail.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
For me, affinity is most important in a relationship. There can be money, love, trust, honesty, faithful, etc. but without affinity, all these will not ensure lasting relationship.
• Canada
23 Sep 09
I think that trust and faithfulness are the two big ones for me. When I was young both my parents cheated on one another. When I got married myself my husband cheated on me. It seems like a vicious circle. I think that respect is a big one too. i don't feel that I get it but I give it all the time. Maybe the next one will be better to me. I hope so.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
23 Sep 09
Well I guess for myself I'd probably have to say trust foremost, then honesty, love, loyalty, faith. I mean there is really a long list you can go through but the most important would be trust, because if you can't trust your partner, then you don't have much of a relationship to grow. I also think that humor is very important too because sometimes you have to laugh at the small stuff, can't be always serious about everything.
@jen14ed (868)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi bima_s i thinks the most important thinks in a relationship is "TRUST" and "COMMUNICATION" and of course "LOVE" and be honest.
• United States
23 Sep 09
Well i have to say to me the most important thing is trust caring loving and you will know when all these things our in place because every time you look at each other or look across the room and read each other mind then you know you have all of these thing wrap together and now you our in love.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
I think I will go to what you said: Love, respect,trust,honesty, faithfulness and fidelity...Because this is all the ingredient of good relationship...
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Telling the truth. I hate to be lied to & want be too many times.A person who will lie to u is not worth having.
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
22 Sep 09
There are plenty of important things in a relationship and I think some important ones are love, honesty, friendship, and much much more. Right now basically everything in my relationship is perfect and I think it's because both partners have great personalities and beliefs and things like that.
@Brithony (12)
• Trinidad And Tobago
22 Sep 09
Trust,honesty,communication,respecting ones opinion
• India
22 Sep 09
For me the most important thing in relationship is respect for each other and then trust and love... thanks..
@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
22 Sep 09
All the mentioned are very important, but of those things that I think are most important, trust is the biggest thing. I think with trust, the others fall into place. the only one that doesn't go hand in hand with trust is love. You can love someone and have the trust ripped away. Honesty and faithfulness both go right along with trust. Those two things build trust. I think if you dont have trust, then you dont have a solid relationship.
• United States
22 Sep 09
hmmm..For me what you put into the relationship is the most important aspect, so the other person is the most important thing.. ENJOY!
@savypat (20246)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Truth is the most important aspect of any relationship. Think about it, without truth all other parts are tainted.
@balasri (26553)
• India
22 Sep 09
Honesty which invokes the trust and love in the other person's heart.