Who is more interested in gossip-men are women?

@kalav56 (11464)
India
September 21, 2009 7:33am CST
This discussion is just for fun and please do not think of it as some gender bias or so. I felt that the prevalent notion is that women are more interested in gossip than men. I do not subscribe to this theory, of course. I agree that women talk more than men and they would concentrate a bit more on trivia but this is not necessarily gossip. For that matter, men also talk of different things in their own company. What are your thoughts on this? Let us have some fun in this discussion.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 09
Hi Kala! Long back I started somewhat similar discussion – are girls more talkative. I received many responses and there was no uniformity in those responses. Therefore, based on those responses and my own experience, I feel it is difficult to say that women are more interested in gossiping. I think when some people gather in a group, irrespective of their genders, they just want to vent out and discuss their experience and or wish to criticize others, whom they cannot do face to face……….LOL! Now a day, life has become so busy that one finds little time to converse with each other. Therefore, as soon as any opportunity arises, one does not let it go and keep talking till the hilt. I’ve observed that when my better half is with her sister/mother/sister-in-law, she enjoys talking to them. I think many of us feel more comfortable and convenient talking and venting out to same gender person. Have a great day!
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Absolutely right Deepak! Only thing is that we women are capable of talking more and so we keep finding different topics and they also seem to gush forth like an eternal spring. Men would also love to share some titbits of information with their friends or people of the same gender[as you have rightly pointed out] and women have a multitude of topics while it is likely to be less with men. I can well understand how your wife would make the best of the opportunity when she meets her siste/mom/sil because I tend to do the same thing. I used to chat with my sister for hours together and I miss all that now. And it is also true that we would feel like giving a vent to our feelings with people of the same gender.I feel that it would be a woman's perspective and that women would understand women better . Thanks for the excellent elaborate response.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Now you are bringing another dimension to the topic--that women talk like this and share their suffering.THis may be true in olden days when women were put to a lot of stress at home with large families to take care of and hours of slogging in the kitchen.Now, which women really suffers?I do agree that they do have a lot of household work when compared to men but this does not mean suffering .Talking just gives them happiness and irrespective of suffeirng or not they would have millions of topics becaue they can think about all trivial things at the same time.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 09
Hi Kala! Yes, I entirely buy your arguments that it may be a woman’s perspective that another woman would understand her better rather than a man, therefore, she keeps on talking to another woman for hours together. And it is also true that women have more topics to talk about and discuss. When women talk, each one of them would like to outdo the other in her experiences and may be each one will try to establish that she is ‘suffering’ more than the other with her family. It is really sad to know that you miss company of your sister. Hopefully, you can talk to her through phone, if she is away.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
21 Sep 09
I have no doubts at all.Women are more interested in gossip. I am wondering why they behave so. I have seen many highly educated and good women are having a passion for this.lol. May be that is because a woman's world is comparatively smaller.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 09
Why Vijayanths? They do have many issues to talk about.As someone had pointed out, they have the household responsibility of feeding the family/to provide meals for them.So, they can talk about any number of things.THis need not necessarily be gossip. And what happened to you all these days?Your discussions were very meaningful and why have you suddenly disappeared?
• India
21 Sep 09
Kala, I said comparatively. May be after 50 years both will be equal in this aspect too. I was busy with my business and also I was not in perfect health those days. I had to attend to a few personal matters as well. I hope to spend more time here in the coming days, let us see.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
22 Sep 09
For years and years I always thought women were the worst gossips. Am finding many men love to gossip as well. I know of 3 men especially who make gossiping their sole idea of life. As a female, I've never been into this sort of thing. I don't want anyone to point at finger at me saying I was the person who started "dirt" about another person. I'd prefer to sit back and let gossip get around to me over and over again by others. Then I play dumb and pretend as though I know nothing. It keeps me safe..lol
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
23 Sep 09
I too never like to get involved in this and .I too thought that women would be gossips but what you have said about men shows is quite heartening.THere are people in both genders disproving any hard and fast rule.Thanks for sharing..
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Sep 09
Hi dear, I think this bad habit is registered with women’s name. If any men become talkative then nobody is giving much attention to that because ladies are there to blame. I agree a girl child is more talkative than a boy because girls are always a step forward in learning languages. But in case of gossip men are equally interested. Don’t think that men are innocent.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
1 Oct 09
Hi Shree! Desktop crashed and I could not respond to you earlier. So, in your opinion, men are also not that innocent-eh?We women talk, talk all the time and so we ahve got this name of being gossipmongers.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Sep 09
I hear my husband while he is on the phone with one of his friends and talk about gossip! They usually talk for over an hour every time and the majority of the conversation is about other people they know! Whenever I come home after having lunch with my friend hubby will usually corner me and say’ “ Come on, what’s news? Tell me the gossip!” He is worse than any woman I know! Personally I don’t like gossip even though I am guilty of getting caught up in it occasionally!
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Very gratifying to note that men also do this.As for my part I do know some men [very old] who love to hear gossip and talk about people.THere are women who don't feel inclined too.I am also like thta but when I meet my sister I do indulge in clebrity gossip or some exchange of news thogh this has reduced with age and infrequent meetings.THanks Paula for the great response and the good laugh.
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@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
23 Sep 09
Ha! its a been a debate since years and I guess everybody knows the answer..Its women who gossip more and I think its our achievement..I am a girl and trust me all the women in my family (its a joint one) can gossip for hours about every damn thing on earth..Its true that men also gossip but they can hardly continue to talk nonsensical things for long. This is based on my personal observations..The two most popular topics for gossip Women: "Hey the dress that lady had been wearing was good...new trend hah?" Men: " They should have selected Sourav for this match..this selectors doesn't have any knowledge of cricket." Have a nice day!
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
23 Sep 09
That was a great response Arthi and you have just pinned down the topics.We women have an extraordinary capacity for talking about a number of things and I can well perceive how it would be if it were a joint family[you mean uncles/aunts/ grandparents etc..,?It would eb great fun if cousins get together.I still remember with warmth how it was when cousins and aunts came home to visit my grandparents.THanks for the participation.
• United States
21 Sep 09
Men and women gossip, but they do it in different ways. I think that women do it more than men, but men when they gossip they usually do it over drinks or in completely casual settings.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Definitely.That is what I felt.THey too have topics to talk and discuss ;because women talk more they find greater number of topics.That is all.Thanks for sharing.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 09
I wouldn't start off in praise of men as they are no saint when in the company of their own species. Men are not petty. Women are. Men are able to sieve out more important issues from the trivial and to do this without any difficulty. Women are not so selective and tend to make the most trivial issue a big one. Men when out on social drinking tend to gossip more than women and they enjoy the gossips among themselves while drinking.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 09
Here here Zandi! THis is what I expected --someone coming out with soem spirited argument and adding fun and spice to the discussion.How rght you are when you say that women would talk about unnecessary things and make a trivial issue a big one/? I am happy to note your last sentence too.
21 Sep 09
Women do gossip I agree but also gossip.Not all men and women gossip.When women get together they talk of umpteen things like where to get cheaper things which is truly neccessary for shopping ,about cooking and so many useful tips are dealt upon.At the same time they are unknowi ngly led to gossip.Men also start with a kind of the nature of the present state of affairs and are sometimes led to talk about other families and friends .So we can conclude that both the genders do gosssip though it is the female who are renowned for gossiping.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 09
That was exactly my htought.The bad reputation would still lie with women becase they tend to talk about umpteen things.They ahvea lot to share-like what you poointed out,they take care of household .Providing food becomes their responsibility and so , they think of various dishes.So , there are many things to discuss.It is not right to day that they are gossipmongers.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
22 Sep 09
you'll be surprised at how men (some men, that is) can be more gruesome in details than women are when they gossip. I do have guy friends, and when they are around, they are the bearers of gossip. But I guess it depends. Some women aren't into gossip just as some men are not.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Very true.We do have exceptions in both and while some men are intersted in sharting some details , women may totally be averse to gossip.I am achatterbox but normally I talk about books, films, and general fun.I prefer not to talk about people.Thanks for that clear response.
@Tantrums (945)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I'm a dude so this is not bias as well... Well I think that girls are more interested in gossip than men! Hence the sitcom Gossip Girls!
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
I have no idea about sitcom gossip girls.I am from India and probably you have stated something thta is relevant to your country or is it just a usage? Thanks for the participation.
@ansh0727 (83)
• India
21 Sep 09
I personally think that both are equally good if we rate them ,but only difference that might be notice is that men's topics are familiar to changes whereas women are not seem so.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
When you say "changes' do you mean a variety or the changes in current affairs etc?Thanks for dropping in and sharing your thoughts.
@fglswh (66)
• China
22 Sep 09
In general women are more sensitive than men, but the character of men and women depends on himself(herself). We often see some women are generous, and some men are narrow-minded. so like gossip.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
I agree that there would be people in different catgories but unfortunately , because women tend to talk a lot this word gets associated more woth women.THankls for participating.
• Algeria
21 Sep 09
i don't think but i'm sure that women are the source of gossip and we men can be their novis students, of course they talk a lot and they fight us when we don't talk as much as they do as if the problem was in us but we man can act as if we like gossip cuz if we don't they'll hate us
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Sorry for the tough time you have with girls.So, now you have found an escape route to get away from fights?THanks for the participation.
@balasri (26537)
• India
24 Sep 09
I can talk about me as a man.I have seldom talked about other people as I have a lot of other things in business to talk about.Moreover it is my nature not to gossip because I always think that it is just a waste of time.We just cannot squander the precious time on empty talks. After years of being together no wonder my wife too has become like me which is another inevitable thing that tend to happen in a relationship. And to be true I can say it is only the women who are more interested in gossiping as they have the time and company.Once men deny the women a healthy time pass there is no point in finding fault in the ladies too.And finally I have to say that I know a lot of harmless women gossipers too.
@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Sep 09
I could see the effects of a decent heritage in you always.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
24 Sep 09
Very true.THere are better things to do than waste time talking about others. And it is also true that it is a particular habit of a household.Even in my parents' house, my mother never used to go out, mingle with people or gossip.She used to engage herself in some creative handwork , in her little free time.Of course my fahter could never find time for all this because he was a very busy professional..I also hate this and woudl rather sit with a book than talk about others.It IS a particular habit which is more prevalent in some areas.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Sep 09
i do agree that women do tend t talk more but it necessarily neednt be gossip.i think women tend to worry a bit more,so to releive the stress,they tend to talk it outas it known to releive stress.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 09
spot on riyasam.Women talk a lot to relieve themselves of their emotional stress, inner doubts, and so many other issues.This is not gossip at all.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
I saw once in Discovery channel thta a woman's capacity is 7000 words per day and a man's capacity is 2000 words per day.Anyway, the figure you have quoted also works out to nearly the same gap in percentage.So, you have traced our 'speaking a lot' to our origin .Wonderful response!THanks for sharing.
• Indonesia
25 Sep 09
Is women are more interested in gossip than men? Generally I would say yes. But recently I observe a bit, men talking about gossip too, but the topic would be somewhat different. Games, politic, profession would be favorite thing to talk, of course including rumor about them. Why this soccer player performing so bad this season, but rarely about whether he has a mistress...Why boss always put a low salary to them, but never about where the boss does the haircut. Women tend to talk about small and simple things, why this actor seems to be cold to his wife, not like when they just got married. Why he doesn't wear his back pants anymore. Sometimes it considered to be naive , but I bet police and detective rely on this kind of talks to solve the cases and mystery :)
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
25 Sep 09
Valid point indeed! All these innocuous sharing of information leading to unravelling of mysteries! And I agree with all the titbits thta women tend to share.Thanks for the response.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 Sep 09
This is one way to find out how much we can talk about women ,yes men also talk unnecesary,, U know this topic is for fun,,U SAY SO,, u know what's the best joke,, LOOK 2 ladies sitting there,,VERRY quiet,,HA HA
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 09
Hi kawalnarang Thanks for the participation but I could not understand what you were trying to convey.Can you please elaborate a bot-now who are the two ladies who are sitting there very quiet?
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 09
There is something not right when you see two women sitting and not talking. When two women meet they have much to talk. But when a woman and a man meet there is nothing interesting to talk unless they have something in common.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 09
That was excellent clarification ZANDI and let us wait to hear what kawalnarang has to say.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hi kalav, A gossip is a gossip and it interests both sexes. The kind of gossip women are interested in may be different from what men would love to hear but both will be interested in something juicy and intriguing. Also, women tend to react openly to this kind of info, while men may be able to handle it like it's just another story but deep inside they get excited over it too.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Oh! So there is another aspect to it But I think all thsi arises because of the capacity of women to keep talking a lot. THanks for the great response and participation.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Sep 09
Thanks for the comments adding juice to this discussion and making it more intersting.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hi kalav, Nice topic! @msfrancisco, The "juicy and intriguing" I mentioned can be anything, I'll leave everything to your imagination.
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@malpoa (1216)
• India
22 Sep 09
I think women are more into gossipping. Men are least intrested in this because I have heard them talk about cars, bikes, computers,technology and so on...Gossip is more of a girlie thing as women watch others more and talk about others more than men. even if women gossip to men, the just hear with one ear and let it go through the other !!!
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
23 Sep 09
Ah thta is a valid point malpoa.Women would remember umpteen small details and trivia.Men normally do not do this.Thanks for th e participation.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
23 Sep 09
You ARE NOT alone in this malpoa.I too remember trivia and would forget something when my husband asks a question.about some important issue..Similarly, I normally would remember the saree I wore for a particular wedding and take care to see that I do not repeat it in another gathering.
@malpoa (1216)
• India
23 Sep 09
That explains why people say women are from venus and men from mars ha ha..I remeber what I have worn to which party and who were present there, and I try not to repeat the same outfit in the same group again...My husband says that I have good memory regarding unnecessary things...