ok for being a guy i dont understand other dudes at time
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
September 21, 2009 8:02am CST
ok growing up my dad never told my mom she need to ask him if she can watch tv, or go out with friends. my wife never have to ask me if she can watch tv, get on the computer or go out.
to me its like its nice if my wife tell me i am going out with this person. just like i do with her as well.
my brother wife say he's not allow to go out to a club with me, she even told me my wife wont allow me too. when she asked my wife, my wife was like what time will they be back.
to me in a relationship no one should control no one. they dont own them, to me it's an control issues. i told my daughter well growing up dont never allow any men control you, your feelings, your thoughts or anything.
i know in some other country men can hit thier spouces, and they control them too. for real to me it's abuse in so many ways.
do you agree with me this is uncall for ? no one should control anyone its abuse ?
2 responses
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I agree with you all the way on this! The way I feel about it is that we are adults and partners..not children to be told what is allowed. I have never been one to try and control nor do I want to be. I think it is a wonderful courtesy to let your partner know where you will be and what tine you expect to be in but no one should have to ask permission to live their life.
@irisisflower (79)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Hello syankee,
I agree with you in that no one person has the authority or control over the other. A person is born to be free and live life to its fullest without the fear of being hit or worse by her or his spouse. I think that it shoud be a give and take. Be respectful and treat your spouse as you would want to be treated, with love, respect and dignity. These people that play the "owner" or the ones that victimize their spouse, have mental issues. The victims in those situations have the power, they are just not yet aware of it. That is not to say that they enjoy it, but that the fear is probably so great that they have no other thought than to obey. The bully will only have the power that the victim gives him or her. I commend you for raising your daughter to be her own person and not fall victim to any man. A real man does not raise his hand to his wife except to carress her. Thank you for bringing up this discussion. Have a great day.
