How's your self control?

United States
September 21, 2009 11:47am CST
I know for a fact that I am slow to anger, and quick to forgive, and give another chance. Sometimes there are times I have lost it, but they are very rare, and when they do happen, they are completely desereved. Do you become violent or defensive during arguments? Will you become volatile, or do you just do what is necessary to keep yourself safe? Do you have any triggers, that just set you off instantly, or do you stay in control of your mood and attitude?
7 responses
@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
21 Sep 09
Hi,Chao,I am one of the person who didn't have self control.I tried many times to stop smoking and boozing since 15 years.In spite of my wife warnings,Elders advises,still i am continuing them.Sometimes i felt very bad and i myself question me,why i can't control that habits.That's why i have no dare to try for new habits.Have a nice time.
@Archie0 (4669)
21 Sep 09
Meditate. There are a number of sites that explain the various types of meditation and how to practice them. It isn't easy but you can do it most certainly. It just takes time and discipline. You will become more centered, more even-keeled and your self-control will skyrocket. In order to be at peace with others, you must first be at peace with yourself. Meditation is a great way to get there.
@nancypoh (54)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 09
i'm a slow to anger an quick to forgive too..i was tought to be patient, to forvige others, and to love. but not every second that i'll be like that. sometime when i'm in a bad mood, i tend to be mean to others even with my close friends and family..i think i should teach myself to be mature from now on..
• Malaysia
22 Sep 09
I believe that i am a very patient person.However,i lose my patient sometime to certain people.I can explain in another way. My patient to a people is like a balloon,when he is annoying me,the balloon will become bigger and bigger until it burst.Then i will no longer tolerant anything from that particular person. I do lose my patient sometime but just for a few seconds.I just don't like to argue with people.
• United States
22 Sep 09
I also give many chances,but I do have a limit. It takes me a lot to get mad, but once I am...you better watch out! There's only so much a person can take. It's called being human and having emotions. Some people do need to seek help for their anger though. A person can only break the rules so many times. When enough is enough...It's enough!!!
@dozhou (326)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I am a negative guy, and always blame myself. When I think about my career, and feel the uncertainty of my future. I am in a bad mood, and try to escape from others.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
21 Sep 09
Hi ChaoticBeauty, How quick I am to anger depends on how stressed I am at the time. Whenever I have had very violent and uncontrolled outbursts I have always been stressed before hand, or something has gone wrong and I feel out of control. In that sort of state something tiny can set me off (a pen not writing, accidentally hitting my toe on something, that sort of thing!). I hate being like that so try and avoid people as much as possible so I don't explode and hurt someone. If I am in a calm mood I tend to have to have someone insult my intelligence to get to the anger state again. I can cope with pretty much anything else but if someone tells me something I already know I get really angry and defensive because I, incorrectly, see it as an insult and act as such. I know about this now though so I also take measures to remain calm by just continuing the conversations and pointing out I know things already, but without (hopefully) showing the anger too much. If someone is debating with me I get angry really quickly as well. I am not great at communication and so if someone is trying to yell at me, or wind me up, that combines with the general stress and leads to the first scenario. In that state I tend to bite my tongue and try and lose myself in thoughts until I can leave since, again, I don't want to hurt anyone. So yea, I am not greatly in control at times, but I am learning Dranz
• United States
21 Sep 09
i am typically a very calm person. It takes alot to make me very mad. I also tend to forgive easily , sometimes to easily i think. If its a topic or something that i feel strongly about i will stand up to stand my ground on how i feel too. My triggers are if someone has hurt my children then thats an area i do get mad easily and will argue till the end. In just a regular fight i will just walk away till i have had time to think and calm myself and then try to discuss things again.