For Those Who Think MyLot Shouldn't Be A Place To Rant, Here Are My Thoughts....

@pyewacket (43962)
United States
September 22, 2009 3:13am CST
Screw you. Yeah, you heard me screw you. This is a rant in itself. I've come across numerous discussions from fellow MyLotters that this isn't a place to have a raging rant, to post things that are aggravating us in our private lives, that disturb us, troubling us or make us lose sleep at night. Well why the frick NOT???? What many folks don't realize, yes, we could probably seek the aid of a therapist to rant and rave, but therapists are so impartial, so NOT understanding, not like friends who may have been in the same exact situation. I WAS in therapy and my therapist was anything than illuminating or really concerned and would give clinical rehearsed responses to whatever was troubling me...I ditch the putz...I've gotten so MUCH more input from my friends here than years and years of expensive therapy from caring, concerned friends of mine and I'm sure many of my friends who rant and rave here feel the same way. Also, for some of us, ranting here is our ONLY resource where even our "real" life friends in our lives can't understand without judgment. Many of us are homebound or semi-homebound and don't really interact with the outside world much, some of us are disabled and can't interact with the outside world at all ......so MyLot may be the ONLY place we CAN rant, rave, scream and just let off steam in what's going on in our lives. So for those of you who think MyLot is not the place to rant and rave, once again.....I say......screw you. All I can say is that one day something may be troubling your mind and you want to let off steam and rant.....where are YOU going to turn to? I have found MyLot to be one of the best therapy places around.......and heck it's free. So what are your thoughts for people who condemn us MyLotters who choose to rant, rave, scream and share one's troubling feelings? Yes or No..????? I definitely think .....YES!!!!!
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@sacmom (14336)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I have to agree with you pye. Mylot is a place to discuss things, whether it is good or bad. If someone doesn't like the discussion they don't have to respond. It's as simple as that. You forgot one thing though. Mylot's not only free, it pays us as well! So rant away pye! And pour your heart out, if you wish to do so. Happy mylotting!
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
22 Sep 09
Good job I read the responses first. "Mylot's not only free, it pays us as well!"
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@sacmom (14336)
• United States
22 Sep 09
What? You actually read the responses first? Shucks, I always break this guideline. Otherwise, I'd never post here! LOL Don't tell admin though. It's a secret!
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• United States
22 Sep 09
ut ohhhhhhhhh...you mean I've been breaking a guideline all these years? I always respond from my inbox and then read the responses afterwards. Shame on me.
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
22 Sep 09
MyLot is where our friends are and we should be able to share things with our friends and pour things out to them when we reach boiling point so I do not see why it should bother others. Maybe those who disapprove of using myLot for this purpose have never had reason to let off steam. One day it will be their turn and then maybe they will understand better. It hasn't happened to me yet but I have no doubt that if and when it does then my rant will be here too, among friends
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Yes I don't know why it should bother others if one decides to do a ranty discussion here, if they don't like it they can always move on to a discussion more suitable to them. Sometimes we really DO need to rant and share our feelings, and what better place than here?
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@mentalward (14716)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I agree 100%, pye! I actually think that myLot admin likes it when we rant. It gives rise to some incredible discussions! That's what they want. Also, I believe those who say that we should not reveal our innermost feelings, even if they are about to cause our heads to explode, have never had to rant or they are able to rant in real-life because they are able to get out and about. I also agree with you about therapists versus myLot members. We can get real-life answers here; answers from people who have gone through the exact same thing or something very similar. One therapist cannot possibly have gone through everything that every one of his or her patients has gone or is going through. How can they understand completely if they have never experienced something? Textbook answers are all well and good but usually have nothing whatsoever to do with real life. That is because we rarely have textbook questions! For those who feel that we should not let loose here just to get it out of our systems, well, they just show how little they really know about their fellow Man. If they don't like it, they had better find another place to hang out because, in my year and a half here, I've seen MANY rants as well as posted a few of my own. They won't stop because they aren't against the rules. Anyone who doesn't like it can go away or just not read them. They don't seem to understand that they can pick and choose the discussions they want to respond to.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I don't know about you but when I've had to rant or share one of the things going on in my life, do you know where I turn to first? Not my real life friends that I can call, but here. So many of us have gone through the same crap and can offer advice to help us...and yes, far better than any therapist--my former one was a real putz...LOL I ditched him over two years ago--best thing I ever did
@mentalward (14716)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I honestly believe that most therapists have more problems than most of their patients. When I had a tubal pregnancy that ruptured, I saw a therapist to deal with my loss. That therapist chain-smoked the entire time. I thought, "there's something really wrong here!" and never went back. There's really something very special here in myLot. We start out as words on a screen but, in a lot of cases, we build stronger bonds than we have in real life. I also would much rather come here to rant, vent, or just ask a question or talk about something special that happened before talking with anyone in real life. I've been able to sort through some serious issues of my own since joining here with the help of other members. Oh, there are exceptions to every rule and myLot is no different. We do run into the occasional trouble-maker/party pooper. But, for the most part, these people here really care about us. I feel very fortunate to have found myLot because it is so much more than just another discussion forum.
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@mentalward (14716)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I did not know that statistic but I can certainly see it! I remembered another time when I was first diagnosed with panic disorder. I had to see a shrink every 2 months for a half-hour in order to keep getting the medication for it. Each time I went, HE did most of the talking... about his own life! I said very little, other than to tell him that, no, I wasn't having any weird side-effects from the medication. The sad part about that is that I was paying HIM so he could work through his own issues.
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@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
22 Sep 09
That’s so insane; of course we can rant and share our innermost thoughts, that is what MyLot is partly about! We are encouraged to make friends here and to get to know each other. The basis of friendship is to be here and support one another, how can we do that if we don’t divulge our personal feelings? Those who don't like it are free to avoid those discussions and go and vegetate somewhere else! I think this is the best place to get things off my chest, cheaper and better than a therapist!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I can't help thinking that some of the friendships we develop here at MyLot are even better than the ones we have in the "real" world don't you? I've gotten a lot of advice and support during the times that frazzled me the most--great therapy!
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@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
23 Sep 09
I must agree. I have always found at least one person who is on my wavelength at any particular time and I certainly can't say that of the people in the 'real world'!
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@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
22 Sep 09
That's so true, Pye.. mylot is a great place to release our stresses, share problems and seek opinions. I find this like a walking diary for me, where I share my views and problems as well..
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
How true that in many ways MyLot is like a diary...since I've been here three years and backtrack at my old discussions it makes me aware of where I was and what I was thinking at the time and in many ways, how I've changed
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@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
25 Sep 09
You couldn't have said it better. I took a look at my older discussions and it made me laugh, smile and wonder..
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@thea09 (18328)
• Greece
22 Sep 09
Hi pyewacket, there's nothing wrong with a good rant on here but always best to start a discussion about the rant rather than drop it in on someone elses as the latter can be really annoying. But a rant in its own right no problem I at all. I must say that if I'm intending to go out and aware I'm in rantish mood I'd rather carry on on here than go out and impose by rantishness on real life people, I'm sure you know what I mean by that, as in people we might see again the next day as opposed to only chat with on here.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Yes I know exactly what you mean when you say you'd rather rant here than to real life people..maybe cause it's easier somehow????
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@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
23 Sep 09
[b]Certainly safer! Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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• United States
22 Sep 09
pyewacket what a great rant! I agree with you on all points. I find myLot to be very therapeutic and that is one of the reasons I keep coming back to myLot for all those years. I also appreciate the fact that I can say what I feel without the danger of getting a punch on the nose and if I do not like a response/comment I can just ignore them which is not always possible in real life.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Couldn't agree more on how therapeutic MyLot is for ranting---I'll actually pour out my feelings here first than go and call up a friend and rant to them
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@elmiko (6640)
• United States
22 Sep 09
good discussion and thoughts. i support you. if people don't like rants than they shouldn't even read it.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Yes if people don't want to read "rants" they should move on.
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
22 Sep 09
woooohooooo you go girl, lol. I'm not laughing at you but with you when you do calm down and feel like laughing. I agree whole heartedly with what you have said. I am one of those homebound, disabled people that has no one else to talk to that understands what I've been through...with the exception of many of the people here!!!! I too have been through therapy and found the same idiology that you did. They are stuck in their little world and only give clinical replies to what you say to them. I have found by being here that I am NOT so alone in the world as I thought I was and that so many others have been through what I have or extremely simular things. I have been on the verge of a breakdown and my friends here have helped me to pull through just by being here for me to talk to. I also know that I have been here for others as well!!!! We get through life, good and bad with the friends we have met and others we have yet to meet. Some of us only come here and have this place to go to...like me...I don't go to my space, or face book. I only come here and a few places that my friends here have started...just for us to have a friendly to talk and relax. So those of you that don't like RANTS...don't read them...you have the choice to not read these and go to something else...JUST AS WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO RANT if we feel the need!!!!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Yes I have found MyLot to be a great refuge or sanctuary where we can share our hopes, dreams, fears, anger, sadness and without being judged as so many of us have gone through the same crapola..we understand each other in such a better way than a clinical therapist that just sits there like a zombie listening to us and without giving any input back.
• United States
23 Sep 09
Yes, I know and all they do is take notes, or doodle and ask a question every now and then. We just talk out our childhood or whatever. One kept insisting that my childhood was my problem. I had already resolved my childhood issues years ago but he insisted that I tell him and I said I did not have to I gave him some of the story but then added but I decided long ago that my life would be better and more positive and so would my childrens. I told him that was enough now. I went back a few times after that and then stopped.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
LOL--hey did we have the same therapist???? Mine did that too, all he wanted me to talk about was my childhood and all the problems I had with my mother...well, there's just so many times one can mention the same thing over and over again...I wanted to move on, not stay stuck with the same crap
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 09
Yes indeed mylot has become an 'asylum' for our fellow mylotters who at times become momentarily lunatic either because they are full of stress or are less exposed to the real world due to reasons of their own. We are lucky to have come to the right place in mylot to find shelter and to have willing ears and get some valuable words of comfort from other mylotters who are always there to share our miseries. Being in mylot is therapeutic which explains why I have stayed put in mylot for so long as I am also sometimes experiencing short circuits.
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
22 Sep 09
Do you earn more for short cicuits... or long ones?
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 09
earning is a secondary matter here as they don't compensate enough even to pay for my internet connection. I just love to mylot as it keep my sanity intact.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
To quote you zandi I just love to mylot as it keep my sanity intact. Oh is that ever true...LOL. I don't know what I would do if I didn't have a place like MyLot to let off steam, share my feelings and rant at times.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Aw ha wondered when ya was going to pick up on this!. And I am sure that other people here feel so much better whenthey can put their feelings in here like you do. and man at the saveings you get posting them hre than going to a shrink that tries to put ya on a puill instead of really listening to what yiou have to say!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
24 Sep 09
It's actually been on the back of my mind for some time to "rant" about this.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
24 Sep 09
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• United States
22 Sep 09
-Has been speaking with DJ too much lately and wants to drop his infamous bombs, but tries to control her new dark jedi powers-. I completely agree with you and everyone else that suppoted you Pye. I have seen one too many friends banned from this site simply because of mean people who had so little to do in their life that they went after people for "venting" on here to friends. Well what else is online social network groups for if not to have friends? If you do not like to read vents, rants, raves, cry sessions, or the lot perhaps you should just avoid the discussions. Those of you who are continuously complaining about another person's vents, what do you suppose you are doing exactly? Are you not ranting? Are you not venting? Are you not whining? If you do not wish to participate or read them, no one is forcing you. I've yet to see anyone forced to read something online that they did not wish to read. There is no magic here making you a zombie. (See Zombie guide by DJ to see just how one becomes a zombie). I created a sanctuary not too long ago for the soul purpose of bringing peace. It was tempting to rave and rant in there, but I chose (not made, not hypnotized into doing so) to keep it peaceful so that people could retreat. I can't rant under the appropriate topics of my choice. If I want to go off about politics, I can do so. So can any one of us. We're all effected by many things in this world and we're all connected even if some choose to believe we are not. So, again seeing as how we must be redundant with those trolls who seem to cling to every word we say-sod off. That's right, SOD OFF. Leave us to our friends, our rants, our feelings, and our lives. You can go back to your miserable life under your bridge and eat cats until some red ape man comes along and tosses you in the river. Namaste-Anora
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
25 Sep 09
How true that when people do discussions about how fed up they are about reading ranty discussions they are in effect ranting themselves. Actually I'm beginning to think a LOT of our discussions here could be considered rants, not just ranting about something going on in our personal lives, but many of the political ones are rants, other news items, religious issues...but I just still don't get it why people tend to focus and condemn our personal rants about what's going on in our lives...if they don't like it they can move on.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I think a rant now and then clears the air, keeps us all from going postal, may even have people respond who have gone through the same thing, may lead to constructive ways out or letter writing, or something. Take care.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I sometimes think ranting is good as a "cleanser" if you know what I mean...getting those feelings out rather than keeping them bottled up.
@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
22 Sep 09
That's a really nice post, and I agree with you totally. myLot is supposed to be a reflection of real live, and real live can be TOUGH. I'm dealing with some very troubling issues right now, and I posted some of it (camouflaged as stories that might be true or not) last Sunday. And you know what - I felt soooo much better. It´s called catharsis (as you yourself most likely know), where you actually listen to yourself, get it out of your system, look at it from the outside and thus take the edge from it. I find it fair to rant, as long as I rant about MY life and MY issues - why on earth shouldn't I? People might learn from my experiences, or they might at least get entertained. I wouldn't do it about other people or other people's issues, and I don't mind if the language gets a little profane (but just a little.....). Instead of putting bi***h I put b*t*h LOL In fact, sites like myLot could really pay an important role as far as mental health is concerned in our societies. So many people everywhere are literally constipated with clocked up emotions and aggressions, and this could be a great place to vent them. But most of us think that we are soooooo civilized, only a few of us dare to look at our shadow.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Yes ranting here is a great catharsis, probably in the same vein as journaling since it's often said a great way to purge oneself of bottled up emotions or whatever problem one is facing is to write them down...whether in a journal or here, and at least by ranting here, we can get feedback from others who may have gone through the same problems
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
22 Sep 09
hi pye, I think as long as its within the guidelines you can do whatever the frick you want!! And there is always going to be those people whom complain, but maybe that's how they let their steam off.. they pick on other people to make themselves feel better.. well let them.. lol that just gives other people something to rant about.. its the diversity of people on the site as well as the similarities which make mylot more interesting!! I do some complaining myself once in a while.. and a few rants here and there.. but nothing too major. I think if people dont like rant discussions, then they should just move on to a new discussion when they realize (which they should be able to do in the first few sentences if not the subject) and forget about it! Rant away my friend.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Yes all one has to do if they don't like ranty discussions is to move on, it's as simple as that!
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Is this coming from a Newbie or a Newbie with a Rank???? well, i guess am not the only who's been shown such a rude blunt. unfortunately there's nothing they can do to stop you from ranting no matter how hard for them to accept, if they don't like that discussion, they should simply bug out and live it alone.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Sep 09
No the ones that complain about ranty discussions aren't necessarily newbies and yes, if they don't like reading rants they should just move on
@BarBaraPrz (17987)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Sep 09
Rave on, pye! If it wasn't for rants, some people like you or BCMike might not have much of anything to post about at all. Rants are always interesting, even if we don't agree with what is being ranted about.
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• United States
22 Sep 09
Rants sure are interesting and I love reading them. My mood at the time dictates how I respond to it if I do.
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@BarBaraPrz (17987)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Sep 09
Same here.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
24 Sep 09
LOL--I didn't realized I ranted so much
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• United States
22 Sep 09
In addition to your "screw you" for all the folks who presume tot ell us what we can and can't discuss here, allow me to add a big fat "Go to hell!" Who do those arrogant morons think they ARE anyway? Did you notice it's mostly done by noobs? I freaking hate know-nothing-know-it-alls! Note to the self righteous jackasses who thik they can tell us what we can and can't post: NOBODY IS FORCING YOU TO READ OR PARTICIPATE IN ANY DISCUSSION! IF YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT YOU SEE FEEL FREE TO MOVE ON TO SOMETHING ELSE AND KINDLY STFU IN TOPICS YOU HAVE NOTHING TO CONTRIBUTE TO. If you refuse to heed my advise, expect plenty more "screw you"s, "go to hell"s and "go f*ck yourself"s to follow your inane superfluous posts. I've got your back, Pye!
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
22 Sep 09
You forgot one on your list Isn't ruckin' fetards one of yours too (well I'm certain it's not Scottish )
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• United States
22 Sep 09
yeah, LOL, "rucking fetards" is one of mine.
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@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
23 Sep 09
[b]Here's another: "mitch & boan." Or bone.... Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Sep 09
I have no issues with a person having a rant on here and it's ultimately my choice whether or not I wish to become involved anyway! How they go about it does have significant bearing though. In the past there have been rants that could be considered far more than just a rant and borderline insulting if you ask me. There's no place here for tirades like those ones, but getting things of our chests in a civilised manner can most certainly be therapeutic and who knows, there may just be that one person that manages to make all the difference with just a few words? Anyone that goes out of their way to condemn someone for having a rant should just ignore the discussion and go off and do something more productive. Again, as long as the rant isn't offensive or insulting in any way, what concern is it of anybodys? Any suggestions on what I should use in particular to screw myself with?
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Yes I've seen rants that not have only been insulting but flaming against perhaps another member here which of course is against the guidelines. When you think of it though a lot of our discussions could fall in the rant category...especially the political or religious ones. Any suggestions on what I should use in particular to screw myself with?
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I don't necessarily consider sharing feelings about things that annoy, disturb, trouble or make you lose sleep over as rants. But I agree with everything you say Pye. Sometimes the people we're closest to, and trust the most, are the ones that live the farthest away. These are the people who weather the storms of emotions, give honest opinions - frequently with insight you never considered before, sometimes release the valve on the pressure cooker going on inside, occasionally turn our anger into laughter...and are still here for you next time, just as you are for them when they are in need. Mylotters are unique, different that what I've found in discussion groups elsewhere. What's different here is no matter what you are feeling, you can release those thoughts...sort of like falling into a mosh pit...and you know you will NOT hit the floor.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
24 Sep 09
To quote you: Sometimes the people we're closest to, and trust the most, are the ones that live the farthest away. How true that is, as I feel the same way. The vast majority of my friends here are quite a distance away, yet feel closer to them than even the friend of mine just down the block but then I'm actually in contact with my on-line friends MORE than I am with her, maybe cause they've gone through more of the same experiences I have than she has