Cell phone: Do you think it spoiled the privacy of us?

@Sreekala (18769)
India
September 22, 2009 5:55am CST
Hi dear friends, It is annoying to hear the private talk/chit chat of somebody in public and we can’t help us to close our ears or leave the place because we may be sitting in a bus or in a bus stop or in a public place. Sometimes I felt why this person is talking to me like this and turned to the person then only realizing that person is not at all talking to me (we can’t see the mobile in hand, must be using ear phones and it won’t be visible at the first sight). Do you have any interesting incidents to share on this account?
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@UK_Shree (3604)
22 Sep 09
It can get very annoying when people talk really loudly on their mobiles in public places and I am never really interested in the private lives of people that I don't know. I remember one time I was on the train and this girl that got on made a phone call and she started talking to someone about an argument that she'd had. I was cringing because of how loudly she was talking and what she was saying.
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@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
23 Sep 09
I know exactly what you mean, there are certain conversations that we just don't need to hear when others shout in to their phone.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi Shree, First of all thanks for adding me in your list. Yes I get irritated many times especially in bus there different people are talking simultaneously through the mobile and can you guess the scenario. Have a nice day.
@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
22 Sep 09
Hi Sreekala, I know how it feels, it has happened to me, a lady walking on the sidewalk behind me, starting to talk. I thought she talked to me, actually turned around, but as in your case, she was using a small cellphone with earplugs. I think on the whole that cellphones, and through them other people, have taken over our lifes. Not mine, mind you, I use my cellphone very selectively, when I leave my house I usually don't even take it with me. But I've heard people in restrooms of restaurants (in restrooms!) having a conversation with who knows who. Absolutely ridiculous. I don't WANT to be availabe at every moment of my waking life.
@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
23 Sep 09
I would agree with you on what you say, I for one do not want to be on call 24/7. My phone only is with me when I need it to be with me or switched on for that matter lol.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi pillusch, Yes I agree they are letting down their privacy in public places (not our privacy) but we are getting annoyed. Once I stared a person who laughed loudly and I thought, what happened to this person turned mad or what, because I could not see any mobile in hand... but later I realized the person is speaking to somebody through mobile. I agree the mobile is really useful when we are traveling but we have to use it wisely and purposely. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Have a nice day.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
We don't need to be annoy in that particular case, my friend. Because we don't know if he/she really called up by someone. We cannot avoid that sometimes there is someone called us, when we are in a bus, a public place or in a mall. So I don't see anything annoyed in that part. Have a nice day!
@Sreekala (18769)
• India
25 Sep 09
Hi aerous, I am not getting annoyed by normal talks on mobile and I think we can’t avoid the talks in public place sometimes. But the problem is somebody forgets about the place where she/he is standing and just concentrates on the phone only and talks continuous in a loud voice. Sometimes I felt that the voice may reach directly without the help of phone, that much loud voice has some people. I have seen some people are very careful and speak in very low volume. So both kinds of people are in our society. I think you might not be in a bad situation so far. Thanks for joining. Have a nice day.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Don't blame those people for actions using their cell phone, my friend. Because not all of us know the good etiquette of using properly our cell phone. Some are ignorant of the guidelines, some are seems to be he/she only have cell phone in the world. Those are reaction that I observe outside...Leave that way, on them my friend. That is there right on how to use there cell phone. The important things is that they will not harm you...I am observe those things you see but I don't have much reaction on that matter. Have a great day!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
26 Sep 09
I never blame them or never interrupt their talks and I don’t have the right to do so. They are free to do whatever they want with their cell phone. Let them enjoy. Thank you for coming again.
@vicky30 (4779)
• India
16 Dec 09
Yes i think it spoils the privacy of us, but there is one advantage with the cellphone we can go and talk in any free room that we want or we can go and talk in a quiet place.Once i was in the bus and a girl was loudly giving her mobile number to someone else.If there are bad boys in the bus they will take advantage of the number and disturb her.But thanks to cell tracking bad people will be caught easily.
@Sreekala (18769)
• India
30 Dec 09
Hi Vicky, Yes, I agree, there are advantages and disadvantages with mobile phone. We can carry the same with us wherever we go and people can easily contact us with the help of the cell. But some people just forget the manners in public place and it may cause some disturbance to others or themselves. Suppose we are traveling in a bus and we can't enjoy the loud voice of talking through cell phone by many people. If somebody take any chance to misbehave through mobile phone, they people can be tracked easily, it is also an advantage. Thanks for joining. Happy and Prosperous New Year 2010.
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@vicky30 (4779)
• India
31 Dec 09
Thanks for the wonderful discussion.Wishing you too a Happy and Prosperous New Year.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
31 Dec 09
Thank you very much for the wishes Vicky, now the New year is near, have fun and enjoy.
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 09
Hi Sree, I did come across such annoying situation once before. It’s really embarrassing as well when knowing that the person was talking on his phone at the moment I was about to answer him Since after the undesirable incident, I always make sure that whether a person somewhere around me is talking on the phone before making any response. Yeah, this is the best way to avoid having the uneasy feeling in public area. We went to a cinema in the Christmas Eve last year during our vacation in my son’s place. My son asked both my husband and I either to switch off the cell phone or set it to silence or vibrative mode before the light out. He added people around would glare at us if the device made any calling tone in the cinema. It’s the same as well if talking on the phone while watching movie. The unwelcome noise will disturb the watching of theatergoing definitely I really envy the people there, having such high civil consciousness. Unlike may audiences in place. They are still never aware of if talking on the phone loudly would disturb or distract others attention. It’s a selfish act to talk aloud in cinema as well as in other public places, for this surely will disturb others’ privacy and peace for sure. Hoping that we are always aware of ourselves not to speak aloud on the phone so that we won't disturb the people around. Take care and happy posting
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
2 Oct 09
Hi dear, I had across similar come lots of situations and hence I started this discussion. Yes in cinema hall it will be really disturbing when others enjoying the movie, but it true people keep on talking there also. I am happy to know that your son is wise enough to give nice suggestions to his parents. Thank you very much for joining and sharing your thoughts. Take care and Have a nice day.
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 09
Hi Saree, thanks for taking the trouble to send me another post here about the misplaced words. Yeah, I can read your expression without any difficulty. I really appreciate your sweet and kind regard It’s not our fault Saree. Sometimes the keyboard, the mouse as well as the computer glitch would give us a big “surprise”, yeah, the unexpected typo! I think my son would feel embarrassed as well if someone glares at his parenst unfriendly in the cinema! We are willing to learn something good from the young. Since then I always turn off my cell phone before the moving putting on. Thanks for awarding the BR. I’m really
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
11 Nov 09
You deserved it. Take care dear.
@balasri (26577)
• India
22 Sep 09
I can recall countless incidents of being able to hear the amount of debt a person has,the name of the girl the unfaithful husband meets,and the meeting place too,the threats ,the beggings for mercy and all the other things which were so personal and discreet before these people start shouting mindlessly on this little device on public places. I always wonder what makes these people think that everyone around them vanish or become deaf as they begin to holler on their cell phones.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
22 Sep 09
Hi Bala, I am supporting your way of thinking and of course I am also thinking the same way. It means the people never realize about the surroundings when they become emotional or when concentrating the talks. Sigh..
@balasri (26577)
• India
22 Sep 09
And another solid proof of act that we are emotional people.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
22 Sep 09
Oh Yes, yes yes!! I am just fade up with this gadget just because people do not maintain the etiquette. I think, there is a minimum decorum which we need to follow. The fact that I cannot make others considerate and civic annoys me greatly. More so, when people lie outright by telling the person on the other side that he is in down south when he is north! How more gross it can get! I know, I am little critical here but sometimes I feel jittery. I myself, talk very little on phone now when in public place. Sreekala, there is more to come. A time would come when we would be traced of your where abouts by private companies for their benefits as in surveys, consensus. We would sell our privacy even without knowing!!
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Sep 09
I am fine dear, little busy but good. How are you Sree? I want to share a story. Only recently as I was coming down to our floor in the lift in my workplace, a doctor, well known doctor, was speaking on top of his voice on mobile telling the caller that he has crossed so and so street. To let you know, the so and so street is quite far from our hospital!! Now, how come these people expect respect from others!!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
29 Sep 09
Hi Mimpi, I am also fine dear. I understand what you are saying. Do you know what I am thinking, I would have given the topic, 'Cell phone: Do you know it is selling your privacy'.
@dpk262006 (52840)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 09
Hi Sree, I completely agree with you that it looks awkward to hear private talk of others on their cell phones. People mindlessly talk about their very private matters at public places and that too at high volume. They forget that they are standing/sitting on a public place and others are getting disturbed. Sometimes, when I am traveling in Metro train, I get to hear conversation about big business dealings and sometimes it is two lovers who are talking to each other on cell phone. If I happen to attend any private call at a public place, I restrict my conversation to the barest minimum and tell the other fellow that when I would reach my home/office, I would revert to him/her. We should be careful while talking on cell phone in public. Very Good Post!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
25 Sep 09
Hi deepak, But when they will realize this?
@Sreekala (18769)
• India
25 Sep 09
Happy Navarathra and a great weekend deepak, enjoy and have fun.
@arthi_88 (1518)
• India
23 Sep 09
once when I was commuting through a public bus a lady sitting beside me started to speak so loudly in her cell phone that I had to remind her talk a lower volume..Gosh she gave me bad looks then and started mumbling "this generation children what do they think themselves to be"..omg all I did was to ask her politely to keep the volume down! People often don't remember or just doesn't bother about keeping their cell phones silenced when we are in a workshop and then suddenly there is a odd hindi cinema song's ringtone in between a speech of power systems..Its disgusts me like hell.Technology is for everybody but I think their should be some code of conduct introduced with every new technology introduced..
@arthi_88 (1518)
• India
23 Sep 09
I don't have any idea why the words are getting underlined and linked to those pages!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi arthi, First of all I want to pacify you, the underline in words is a common problem today with everybody and if we put the cursor on the word then the underlines disappears in seconds and nobody know exactly what is going on. Coming to the topic, I know nobody can tolerate if we interrupt their talks. I know you said it politely; there is nothing wrong in it. But the public are thinking that they have the rights to talk or they have freedom to talk and never seem to bother about others. It is really annoying when people talk so loudly. May be they are thinking that the people around them got vanished in air.
@maezee (25407)
• United States
24 Sep 09
In my opinion, no, not necessarily. People can easily have private discussions on their phone - in situations where they are alone. A lot of people choose to make their phone calls all of the worlds' business, unforutnately, though. For example - I have about 5 customers a night at work (I work as a cashier at a dry cleaners) that come in blabbing on their phone..about seemingly personal stuff! Sometimes I wonder why they didn't finish their conversation in the car or at least put the person they're talking to on hold until others aren't out of earshot. But whatever. I think it depends on the person. I know that when I'm talking about something more personal on my cell, I tend to talk more quietly and I try to keep it.. so that only I can hear what I'm saying; and so that everyone around me doesn't know my business. Maybe this is crazy of me, though!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
25 Sep 09
Hi maezee, I agree it depends on people, some are very careful with their talk in public places and some are least bothered. I am not bothered with normal call and talks by other people but when it crosses the limit it is natural to be annoyed. You seems to be very careful with your talks on mobile and don’t want to let your private talks to public. I really appreciate your attitude. Thanks for joining. Have a nice day.
@mzz663 (2776)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I have a friend that keeps his phone with him at all times because of work. It gets annoying because if we are having lunch somewhere, he answers his phone and it's not bad enough that I'm sitting there while he's on the phone, but he thinks he needs to SHOUT while he's on it and everyone in a restaurant can hear him. I let him know that he should leave it in the truck when he goes somewhere and let the voicemail get it, but he says he needs to take the call. I've suggested he take his phone out side if he must answer it but he doesn't. I'm sure if it's annoying for me, it's annoying for everyone else around him/us.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
25 Sep 09
Hi mzz, May be he don't want to miss his calls. Let him enjoy with his phone, if he is not listening then what else I can say. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I really have not experienced a privacy issue with a cell phone. I mainly usae mine for sending text messages to my husband and my daughter when they are away from home. I hardly ever use it to talk with.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
25 Sep 09
Hi stephcjh, How are you? I think you are lucky not disturbed by others talk. I got only 2-3 replies like yours, all others said about the disturbance. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.
@dragon54u (31293)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Cell phones are not taking away our privacy, we are giving our privacy away. So much of the population is now addicted to being available every minute of the day to everyone that we are losing our perspective. I don't appreciate hearing someone's private conversation. I do not talk on my cell phone in public, it's none of anyone's business what I say and I have no right to intrude on their space with my private conversations. We have lost all sense of self-respect in regards to our private, personal business. We have also lost a sense of respect for other people.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
24 Sep 09
Hi dragon54u, Very well said, dear. It is true we are giving away our privacy. I also don't like to talk in a public place. In fact I am using my cell phone only for emergency. I am traveling in public transport every day to my office and then back to home. So I am getting more chances to listen all those nonsense. Hence I start this discussion. Thanks for joining. Have a nice day.
• India
23 Sep 09
cell phone has both merit and demerit functionality. when we are in business, its too much advantage. but when we are in home of personnel work. its making disturbane at un time. when we enjoy in home, wrong call may betray the enjoyement in home. so it has both advantage and disadvantage.
@Sreekala (18769)
• India
24 Sep 09
Hi Krishna, Yes I agree it has some advantages and disadvantages too. I think it depends on the person who talks he/she should aware about the situation and ready to do accordingly then there is no public nuisance. Nobody can control others especially on these matters (talking on phone is not an offence) but everybody should think themselves about the talks and privacy and use the cell phone wisely. Thanks for joining and sharing your thoughts. Have a nice day.
@scheng1 (24957)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
Hi Sreekala, I find it annoying to have the mobile phone rings at the wrong time. Sometimes people expect you to pick up the mobile phone, regardless of where you are. I hate it when it starts to ring non-stop when I'm having a shower. I hate it when it starts to ring when I'm about to board the bus, and cannot pick up the call. I dont bother with others chatting on their mobile phones in a bus or train. I just continue to read my book. After all, so many people use mobile in the bus.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi scheng1, I agree all people are using mobile phone in bus or train and I am not against it all. But the problem arises when they forget about the manners when in public place. It is not good to talk loudly and I don’t want to listen somebody’s personal chats, fights, love etc. Thanks for joining and sharing your views. Have a nice day.
@mayka123 (9549)
• India
23 Sep 09
I remember the first time when I saw someone talking on the phone using the ear phone. I did not even know at that time what ear phones were because they had just come in the market. It was around midnight that I was walking home with my little kids and there was hardly anyone on the road and there was no transport available. There was this man walking alone in front of us and seemed to be talking loudly to himself. I was a bit scared because I thought he was drunk and was reluctant to walk fast and go ahead of him. But then since he was too slow I picked up the courage and with the kids went ahead. It was only then we saw that he had a mobile in hand with some wires going into his ears!!!!!!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi dear, This discussion turned funny with so much of humorous incidents shared by other friends. I had a good laugh today. I think the ear phones gives so much confusion because at first sight we can’t see it and mostly people are keeping the mobile in pocket or in bags. Now I am little bit educated (day to day experiences taught me something) and stopped to jump into conclusions.
@salonga (27961)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
Ha!ha!ha! You really made me laugh because it reminded me of something. I was walking along the parl together with my hubby then suddenly we saw a fine looking lady talking alone. My hubby and I looked at each other and we thought the fine looking woman was crazy and could not believe that such a fine looking lady could be insane! Of course just like in your story the woman was using earphone. It was really not good to look at her talking alone. Even if she is talking with someone on the phone, still I think she still looked crazy. Imagine talking and talking as if she lost her head already. And you are right, it is so disturbing to sit with people who don't know how to use cellphone properly. They will talk at the top of their voice without minding whether they are disturbing their seatmate. You know whenever I encounter such kind of seatmate, I always make him or her feel that I am disturbed and that he or she should soften her voice.
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi salonga, Thank you very much for the compliments and I also really enjoyed the incidents shared by other responders. The cell phone is having some advantages but people are misusing the same and destroys the peace of others (they already lost the peace).
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
23 Sep 09
I came to the realisation that privacy has gone out of the window the other day when my cell phone rang while I was in the toilet! It is unnerving when you hear someone talking and you are not quite sure if it is to you or the phone. My sister in law was shopping at the grocery store when this guy came up behind her and said, “What about dinner tonight?’ To this my sister in law retorted. “No way, I don’t even know you, why should I have dinner with you?” There was silence so she turned around to see that the guy had been on the phone the whole time and was not talking to her at all!
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi Paula, This discussion gives funny moments to me thanks to all of you. I am still smiling after reading your response and just imagine the scenario. I had the same experience like your sister-in-law. I was standing in the bus near to the door for getting down and people are behind me standing very closely (There must be rush to get down) and suddenly one guy started to ask something (very sweet questions, I guess must be to his girlfriend) and it was just like asking to my ear, I could not hear any phone rings and was totally clueless and get down and turned back for a fight but the guy didn’t notice me and walk away happily by talking.
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@mikeowl (200)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 09
Not most of the times happening to me, but my friend felt even worse when she was in the toilet and felt so emberassed. she was in the toilet and suddenly there was someone started a conversation with her. she said, "Hi, how are you doing today?" My friend feel so ackward that a stranger would start a conversation with her but unwantedly, she replied back, "Hi, I am doing just fine". Then the other person next door to her said "I miss you very much, could you come over later?" then my friend replied, "Errmmm, I am sorry, I already had a boyfriend, I don,t think I would like to come over". Then the other person said "Please hold on a second, there are some stupid people replying to my talk with you dear." Then only my friend realised it was a phone call that the person is talking to. She was so emberrassed
@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi mikeowl, That was an interesting episode. Thank you very much for sharing it. (I really laughed). Your friend will be careful in future. Have a nice day.
@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
23 Sep 09
Hi Sreekala, All cell phones are evil It seems when one is on a cell phone their voice goes in to shout mode. I hate when I have to travel on a bus or whatever and have some loud mouth talk about stuff I shouldn't have to listen to. I know some people that are slaves to their phone and I am of the opinion that mobile phones do really impede some peoples lives. The way I see it a phone is there for my convenience and not for others to disturb me every 5 minutes. But in saying that they are agreat invention indeed
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@Sreekala (18769)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi thezone, I agree with you, it is a great invention and it creates problem only when people start to misuse it. I also have seen some people who are addicted with mobiles and always keep on talking. I wonder they didn’t have problem to talk continuously that also not using an ear plugs. May be they didn’t realize the real problem of mobiles phone when using it for long conversations. It is safe to use the ear plugs. I think there are many problems than the advantages. However, if we use the mobile wisely then it will have advantages only. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Have a nice day.
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