Mother inlaws wants my baby

You do what you're comfortable with. I got my granddaughter overnight when she was a week old, but everyone feels differently. My daughter was comfortable with me keeping the baby, you may not feel that way. On the other hand, don't make the grandmother feel alienated. Maybe spend a day with her and let her take care of the baby while you're there. That way you can see how she handles the baby and feel more at ease when you do let baby spend the night. I take from your name your daughter's name is Leah. My second daughter is named Leah too!

It's YOUR baby. My take on this may annoy others but she has absolutely NO rights whatsover to YOUR baby. It is up to you and your husband or boyfriend or partner to decide together who (if anybody) you want around your child or children, for what length of time, and if you even want anybody with your children without you there. If you're a single mom, then it is entirely up to you and only you. I believe EVERYBODY should pay attention to this and understand. Someone else's child is NOT yours and unless they are your child, you NEVER have any entitlement or right to even ask. It is a privelage and the only way to get that privelage is to do what the parent wants, which may include staying away until that parent is READY to share their child with you. I do not see what is so hard to understand about this. Anybody who is EVER grabby with my daughter gets the instant heave-ho. If I deem you are a good friend and trustworthy, by all means, but if I am suspicious of you for any reason, nope. I also don't care if you're related to me, a good friend, a casual friend, an acquaintance, or a stranger. Whatever you are, if you do not respect my decisions, then you don't get any privelages.

Aww I understand and agree with you its way to early your daughter needs to be at home with you not with your mother in Law, you have to explain that. and tell her she is welcome to come see her as much as she wants to but she may not leave. Also isn't it recommended by the doctor for the baby to stay in the house for 6 weeks before leaving. Your Mother should know that

I think that it is too soon for her to take your baby.... Why don't you tell her to come and spend the night with you and yall can talk about tips on how to take care of the baby. Make it a girls day in with the baby or something. I dont' know if you get along with her but I think you should do that. Maybe you will get to know her even better!!! Who knows. I hoped I helped. BYE maria

I am in agreement, it is too soon for to let your baby sleep over at the grandparents. Ask your mother in law to spend a weekend with you, to bond with the baby and give help or advice if asked for. Maybe during a chat you could find out what age her son was before she let anyone have him overnight. Tell her you are a new mum and you need to get into a routine and get to know your baby and bond with it before you will feel confident enough to be without the baby overnight. I was not ready to leave any of my boys with anyone overnight until I had become a confident mother. As a first time gran of course she wants to see the baby as much as possible but grandparents can be overpowering and make you dread their visits. Explain to her that as soon as you feel the time is right then she will get overnight visits occasionally but at the moment you feel the baby is too young to be away from home overnight without you. Good luck and congratulations on the baby.

hi leachmom, congrats from my side. convery my regards to sweat grand child. i understand your feelings madam. but nowday every mother in law behave like apart from some few. so try to explain the problem found on her. then every thing will be solve.

I think it is too early. I waited til my son was 2 months old and it was only for a couple of hours not a whole night. you need to just sit down and talk with her in a peaceful tone and explain that this is the way you want to raise your child. i still knock heads with my step dad on the way I want to raise my son but thank god for my mom to keep the peace and get him calmed down. I think my son was close to 2 years til he had a choose to stay at oma and papa's for the night by himself. that was a hard day for me and my husband b/c they live a couple hours away from us. good luck in what you decide to do.

Hey it too early i too agree with you...Babies of this age do feel insecure if they stay away from mum for whole night.Its better you invite her in day for some time to see your baby.I can understand her feeling as a grandparent but its not something good thing to do with little baby.

I have one on the way, and there's no way I'll let the baby sleep over anywhere without me that early. Maybe if I was sleeping over as well, in the same room, I would when the baby's about 5 or 6 months, but not weeks. If she wants to see the baby, she can visit, or I'm sure you can visit her, but I wouldn't give her the baby for the night. It's way too early.

yup talk with ur mother in law and invite her on ur place and ask her to stay here for 1 or 2 nights so that she can spend time with ur baby

well i must tell you one thing that if somebody loves us then also we feel bad and if don't than also we feel bad.don't refuse her b'coz this is due to her love for your child she is saying this. you can call her for stay for some day at your residence and let your child and your mother-in -law stay together.in this way you can also attend to your child properly as child need you feed also. just think you will be in the same situation when u will be a grand parent. u will also love ur grand children in the same way. I must suggest you one thing always assume yourself in the same situation and than react on a perticular situation.

I think 3-week baby need mother milk at night~It's a such a good excuese,no should be reason

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Yeah its really too early. You should tell your mother in law what you think. Its going to be a long relationship with her so better be honest from the start. I think she would understand. She can spend some nights with you tho..

I think that day visits are fine. However you baby is far too young to stay at your mother in laws overnight. Maybe when your daughter reaches three years old. I have a three month old baby and want to keep her in my own home at night. Good luck.

I would just let you Mother N Law know how you feel....I would say something like I know your excited the baby is here and we are all happy and healthy....But I feel as her Mom that is too young for me to want to be seperated from my baby for a night....We are still bonding as child and mother...Your welcome to spend a day or night with us....Something like that I hope I've helped a little!

it's too young to seprate from you,i am a mother too,i cant stand anyone who wants to take kid from me,its better for kids to stay together with parents,i think you and your mother inlaws need to have a conversation about it,you should let her know its not suitable to take the baby away from mom,all of you love the baby ,so i'm sure you will get the same views,good luck!

Well leahsmom, I can understand your pain. I had my first child eighteen years ago. My late husband and i lived in a different state from both of our families. When my son was only two weeks old, my mother-in-law came for a visit. We were in the grocery store with my newborn son. My mother-in-law referred to my son as our baby. During her visit, she took over nearly all the duties of a mother. I know she was probably only trying to help. I would have preferred that she ask before pushing me out of the way to do things her way. Anyone else share these problems with in-laws?

It sounds like there might be some tension between the two of you. I would just explain to her that you just do not want to leave your baby that soon. Tell her she can come visit the babyand when the baby gets older you talk about spending the night.

Don't be too hard on her leahsmom, it is an exciting event for her too! I remember that when my first grandchild was born, I was also eager for some "alone" time with the baby. That doesn't mean I didn't have to wait until he was older, because I did. Be grateful that your MIL is excited to get to know her first grandchild. There will be plenty of time for "sleep-overs" once your baby is older. In the meantime, extend an open-door, open-heart policy for her in your own home. You may be thankful sometime in the future to have a loving grandmama to leave your child with.