how do you treat this situation?

@leoliu39 (540)
China
September 23, 2009 10:09pm CST
My daughter is 10 years old and now is at primary school. about from the last year, she begain stolen our money now and then. we have criticized her several times, but .....whether you meet this situation?and how do you treat this ?someone give me some advice and thank you very much!
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5 responses
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
This is a very hard situation. I think it is best to address it directly to your daughter through a very close conversation. You have to tell her the cons of doing such thing. Anyway, she's still young, she has enough time for change.=) Goodluck!
@leoliu39 (540)
• China
24 Sep 09
thanks for your kindness!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Ouch, that is a very sticky situation. She is of an age that she should know better than to steal money from anyone and yet she does it. Does she have problems at school as well? Has she been grounded for stealing money. Is there a program around where you live that can show children that are headed down the wrong path what it is like to be in jail. Those are the only suggestions that I can think of because it seems like she is on a path to criminal behavior. Best of luck to you and to her.
@leoliu39 (540)
• China
24 Sep 09
she doesn't steal money at school or other place outside home. just take money from parent. so we are upset by that. thanks for your replying!
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
25 Sep 09
Children always have incentive to do something they think interesting.buying something by themselves is interesting to them .so they wish they could have some money.you can give some poket money to her.tech her how to make good use of them. don't use the word "steal".Many people have done similar thing when they are childish.so ,be patient to your daughter.
@laglen (19782)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I would suggest locking up your valuables and letting you know you do not trust her. Let her know that it is not acceptable behavior. Ground her for a period of time and take away privileges, I would also make her pay back this money with labor around the house. I think almost every kid goes through a stealing phase. I wouldn't worry too much unless it becomes a habit. My thinking is to make the consequences so bad, they dont do it again.
• United States
24 Sep 09
Is there somethign in particular she is stealing the money for? As that could be part of the problem. But i guess my suggestion would be that she need a lesson on how her stealing money from you afects the family. Maybe if she understand just how hard you work to earn the money that you have, and how you have many financial responsibilities to take care of in order to keep a roof over all of your heads, and food in your bellies and clothes on your back. Does she get an allowance at all? I know it might seem silly to start giving her money, when she has been stealing it, but i think if you set up a program with her where she could earn money for completing tasks around the house, she might soon realize that money is not just something that is free for the taking, that people have to work for it.