Diary: friend or enemy?

Philippines
September 24, 2009 1:12am CST
I used to write diaries and journals. I wrote my secrets, emotions, opinions, feelings. I always thought that writing a diary or journal can lessen your burdens and problems. But my Mama found my diary and she read half of it. She was so mad at that time coz' she discovered that I'm the one who broke her brooch without letting her know. She values it a lot coz' it's from her mother. After that, I never write a diary again. But I guess that's my fault too. Maybe if I told my Mama about it, maybe she wouldn't be mad at all. And maybe I'm still writing my diary.
2 people like this
18 responses
@l33tgirl (289)
• New Zealand
24 Sep 09
I think diaries are a friend. A wonderful way to store memories and feelings you might forget. However if you're writing things you don't want others to see, be careful and keep them well hidden. Also online diaries can be dangerous if you are not careful and give out your real details. People from your life will be able to find it.
1 person likes this
@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
26 Sep 09
Hi friends, I am really a writer. I enjoy it. However, my mother told me when I was very young, "if you don't want people to know, don't write it down". That is why I won't keep a diary or a journal even though I would love to and it would sooth my soul. Cheers, Cheryl
@Ruby722 (798)
• China
25 Sep 09
Hello there I write diary too and i think it's a good habit cause you know everyday you recond the details of life.when you are old you take this and read .You will find interesting and so many wonderful memories.so i think you should continue write your diary just tell your mother it's your secret .Don't read it and keep it in a secret place people can't find it
1 person likes this
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
i believe a diary is both a friend and an enemy. if you keep it very carefully, it is your friend. but if someone sees and reads it, that's the time it becomes your enemy. a diary is like a best friend. you tell him/her all your secrets but by the time you have a fight with your best friend, he/she becomes your worse enemy.
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
Diaries are definitely your friend. I think it's a given that nobody's supposed to read it if they want to respect your privacy. Better find a good hiding place next time. :) Also, better to own up to any wrongdoing right away, so situations like that one can be avoided.
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Diary's are best kept hidden very well. In places no one would expect it to be and also for it to have a very good lock on it. Also sometimes keeping a diary on the computer may help as well. But I used to keep my diary's as well and I miss keeping them. My mother always found my diary's though. But I always wonder what is up with mothers wanting to always reading their daughters diary. Especially when they haven't done anything in particular to make the mother want to read their diary. I always loved writing when I was younger and I still do and I loved keeping diarys and journals. But when my mother took my diary and kept it. That was more hurtful then anything, because my mother knew I liked writing and she also knew that I loved to keep journals. She was the one that always bought me a diary also, so I think it was more of like a set up to see what I would write in it. I have known of some people who kept two diaries. One of them was the real one and another one was a fake one. I wish I would have done that and see her reaction and what not. Sometimes when you are that age you could take it with you whereever you go and that is something I wish I would have done as well and my mom would have never known the things I was doing and what my feelings were.
1 person likes this
@angadp (203)
• India
24 Sep 09
i have maintained my diary from the age of 14 years.when i read it again it was as if i was 14 year old . It is a very nice feeling. we should write in a diary what we feel. This may be offending to others . And if the one about whom you have written about reads it then he feels hurt. the Diary is personal and one should keep it safely .
1 person likes this
@coolcoder (2022)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I'm currently writing in my seventh diary, and I've had no problems with anyone finding it and reading it. My parents pretty much respect my privacy, which I'm grateful for. My philosophy is this...people can read the diaries that I'm finished with, but the one I'm currently writing in is way off limits.
1 person likes this
@imsilver (1669)
• Canada
24 Sep 09
Ouch. I can't believe your mom read your diary. I'd flip if someone read my private writings and I'd never do that to my kids. A diary is private and I'd never violate that. I'm hoping that my kids will be comfortable coming to me and talking about anything but I've stressed to them that their journals are their own. They don't even bother hiding them.
1 person likes this
@delkar (1716)
• Romania
24 Sep 09
you should try to hide as much as you can your diary , or even to lock your diary . If you can`t hide or lock your diary , you should find an online friend, that don`t know nothing about you and can`t tell any of your friends about you . So this is the perfect idea . A man or a woman that you can talk anything and you are sure that you`re secret it`s safe . And maybe, if you really want, you can ask them advices . Such man or woman , you can find on utanito.com at "talk with alex" section. good luck !
1 person likes this
@maezee (26912)
• United States
24 Sep 09
You make a good point. Diaries..for me, are a way to express myself and my feelings to "someone" who isn't going to judge me; but a diary isn't a replacement friend. In my opinion, you still need a support system of actual people around you - people you feel comfortable talking about your feelings to and whatnot. Also, just because you have a diary, doesn't mean you shouldn't tell the person when you break something of theirs, or that you should keep secrets from your family. It was wrong of your mom to read your diary (as this is invading your privacy), but it's also very very wrong for you to not tell her that she broke her brooch. Honestly between people is still important, and just because you have a diary, doesn't mean that the people around you deserve to be lied to.
1 person likes this
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 09
gaaruto, Let's look at it this way. If it was not because of your diary, your mother would have not find out and it will still torment you today. At least now, everything's out and I'm sure your mother is cool now. You might want to self sensor what you write in your journal next time around. People will definitely bound to find your diary sooner or later. So beware.
1 person likes this
@horsesrule (1962)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I think a diary needs to be hidden very very well because no one should ever read them except for us. Though I must admit that I burned my diaries in the fire place so no one could read them. I was afraid that someone would find them and read them. My family has never respected my privacy and I am an old lady now. I don't write in a diary anymore but I did a lot when I was younger. I wrote for many years.
1 person likes this
• China
30 Sep 09
First, diary is our friend,not enemy. Diary is our secret and personal privacy. But we couldn't expect other people to respect our privacy right.After all, some people's spirit are noble, some are corrupt.
• China
4 Oct 09
I agree with you. Many people like to write summary, mark what have happened in a day, write his thinfink in deep mind. So we regard the diary as our good friend. But if other people peek it, and disclose its content, the diary will be our nemy. We couldn't expect other people to respect our privacy.
• United States
27 Sep 09
I tried writing in a diary several years ago, but everything I wrote seemed so boring that I lost interest and wrote less and less until I eventually stopped writing in it all together.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
hehe...pardon me, my friend. Smile a little in your discussion because some points that really caught me to laugh. Because as i read it. "Your mother found out something about your fault". Don't be disappointed my friend. That is only a part of your life there are many that you can write about you. That is your interest so it is better you make your own personal blog to write in there all your experience in life... Have a nice day!
@saraines (154)
• United States
25 Sep 09
I personally don't like diaries, i know they can be useful for your mental health, because when you write in one is like getting out all those bad thoughts, or just thinking about all the good ones...but it can also be used against you, cause you never know who might find it and what they might do with it...me personally, i rather keep my good and bad thoughts to myself, this way they will always be safe.
@fifileigh (3621)
• United States
25 Sep 09
maybe write your diary on a disk. and a disk is smaller than a book, and therefore, it is easier to hide. maybe carry the disk in ur purse or wallet, and take it wherever u go so no one can touch it or play with it.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
25 Sep 09
gaaruto, I feel that this isolated incident with your mother should not discourage what you like and used to do. In fact, I think you should be thankful that something has resolved between the both of you - a broken brooch of sentimental value to your mother is undeniably damaged by you. However, I feel that you should remember that your mother did not hate you and would already calmed down by now. The other issue being that since your diary is very personal to you, then you should never leave it in the open but under lock and key. I am sure your mother did not read your diary on purpose and that you are partly to be blamed for this accident. I just hope that you will not be discouraged from your favorite diary writing habit. Take care.