What's the best way to move on and make someone love you again?

@resssaaa (445)
Philippines
September 24, 2009 3:26am CST
WELLLLLL. I know people would just say after you and that someone of yours just had become "not in good terms" because of some fights that eventually grew and grew until your feelings are beginning to fade. It is so ironic and so unacceptable if things would turn out that way. Especially when you know both of you still love each other. The only problem is, both of you are in so much pain that there is no space left to forget all those mishaps. I believe we could make someone love us again the way he/she loved you so much before. Maybe all they need is space and time?
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@hexeduser22 (5853)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
Sometimes relationships tend to get very tiring specially when your always have a misunderstanding. A little time and space would suffice but what you really need is understanding and a cool head. Asking oneself what's wrong or why does things always turn out that way. There are times in a relationship that you've both gotten pretty comfortable of each other you sometimes forget or neglect one's feelings and the end result would be a misunderstanding that may lead to fighting. Acceptance and understanding would be my first option than space and time. I believe that space and time could greatly lead to breakups:)
• China
24 Sep 09
It is true that lovers need their own space and time if they want to continue that love.Sometime you just need to show each other's thinking and feeling or keep a distance between each other.Distance create beauty.
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• Philippines
24 Sep 09
Distance brings gap and once a gap exist in a relationship it will likely lead to breakup and heartbreak:)
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
24 Sep 09
sorry, but distance can t create beauty...distance create just problems..we say here.."eyes who you can t see you will forgot"...is my opinion
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
well for me.for the relationship to work out.both couples need to have space.learn to understand each feelings do not try to argue.when he mad at you just try not to intervene if you intervene it makes situation worst.just listen to him and when he is calm you that is the time you talk to him.i believe in this strategy because i been through this relationship.we normally have fights but not to the extend that we leave its other broken apart.i find many ways to make our relationship strong as possible so that love wont fades.cheers!
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
Good for you! I think that was what I lack. Thinking. I just intervene and make the situation worst. Right now, I am trying to control my feelings, leaving life as I could be. And if he comes back, that would be so happy :)
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
yes,i hope for your best and luck..
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yes!That's the thing that he/she needs....TIME.They need to assess the situation and think if the decision they made is the right one.When that person realize his/her mistake they will be the ones who will make the first move to mend what they broke.But be careful coz you might wait a long time before he/she will realize the mistake.All I can say is,"Good Luck!"
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
that's what i'm afraid i cannot do by now :( it hurts me a lot that it has to take time but what if we won't become classmates next semester anymore? or what if he finds someone new? Evenif you could say that maybe someday but what if it won't? It hurts me a lot thinking of it.
@debbie_19 (228)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
25 Sep 09
I've been on that stage before and I know how hard it is. That is when you need to look around... there's must be something good around you that could somehow ease the pain like friends. Friends are always there through tough times. Have fun. Fix yourself. Make yourself busy. Above all else, the best thing you could do is to pray. :)
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
Yes, thank you :) This is probably the worst feeling ever. I don't know how long am I to be able to carry this burden.
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
hello ressaaa, Oh, am sorry, i don't think i have the proper solution right now for your problem only thing i could say is that we can never forget what we have experienced in the past but we can always have a choice to move on despite that we still have feelings on that person, and in time we will find some one better than us.
@velentina (893)
• Mauritius
25 Sep 09
I think if you move back and say sorry it will be better to patch up again. When you love someone the love does not erase when you have a fight or discussion. This love will bring you back to that person if that person is not making the fist move then you do it.....if you take too much time you may be the loser....Forget and forgive..Start life afresh...Goodluck!
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Sep 09
hi friend, inasmuch as you neet time and space to move on... you need to reconcile with yourself first and accept that it's really over. now, if you still find some spots in your heart that you still love the person.....then this will give you all the reasons to forgive him and MOVE ON! IT'S LOVE NOT TIME HEALS WOUNDS!
@kylevinz (22)
25 Sep 09
As we grew older and become mature you will understand briefly what love is.. don't focus yourself too much to the person you are in love with.YES you are both inlove..fights and arguments are natural in any relationships, but didn't you know that this is the most effective way of knowing each other?Pain is a natural feeling.. everybody gets hurt..but,it's not the hurt or the pain..it is how you are going to handle it.Right love will come to you or to everyone of us in a most unexpected ways.Just Continue your journey through life don't forget your past..treasure it even if it caused you so much pain,and just learn from it. :)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
i am in a relationship that we frequently quarrel. i have broken up with him many times already. funny thing, i always end up making it out with him again. :) perhaps breaking up with him is my own way of saying "give me space". i believe that if both of you are able to fix a quarrel, then your relationship will go a long way. but if your quarrel gets bigger and bigger that it seems it would not be fixed, i guess that's the best time to break the relationship and move on.
@leoling (173)
• Singapore
24 Sep 09
When you really love someone, your feeling won't fade away. Some people feel fade away because they had been together for quite long, and they used to the feeling of love to each other. So this feeling of love toward your partner seem to be fading away but it is not. Fights between couple can be good and bad. If you two can cool down and sit down together and discuss the problems and solve it. Every time you solve a problem with your partner, your love bond between each other increase. But if you two don't give each other a chance to solve the problem, this love bond will just break. Every couple need space, the tighter you tight your partner, the faster he/she will fly away when he/she is release from the tight. And time is to let the couple to cool down and have clear mind to talk to each other as well as prevent conflict. Hope this help.:)
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
24 Sep 09
Hi, think that your question is not so right.."to make somebody love you again"...if is real love, never stop, no matter what...if somebody say or show that he or she don t love you any more, mean that never really loves you. Love is eternal; Start to love again is not to good to say; is my opinion
• United States
24 Sep 09
Well I have to disagree. when two people truly love each other there is no such thing as falling out of love. alot of people play with that word and though its so easy to say, its not always the true emotion. Lust is usually the emotion most people mistake for love. when people in relationships begin to fight and bicker and break up over something they will probably forget the next day 9 times out of ten its not true love. When you love someone you do your best to not hurt them, and sometimes problems with arise people who love each other will find ways to use loggic and understanding to come to a common ground. My mother always said if your in a relationship that is full of fighting then they are not for you. and once a person breaks up it will never be the same... most people hold on to the bad instead of the good causing more problems in the future