How will you face it when you know FRIENDSHIP is changing into LOVE

September 24, 2009 7:04am CST
I dnt choose friends by looks, status or intelligence. I fun, love, care them. But this does not mean they take a wrong meaning of our affection and love. We like them as a friend, but never thought of them as a love mate. Inspite of knowing our that I am happily married and blessed with a sweet little baby girl, he still loves me. This has not only spoiled our realtionship/friendship but also my way of thinking for him has changed. I tried making him understand that I dnt love him, but still there is no effect on him.. I Just IGNORE him these days. I dnt know how will I face this Situation ???
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9 responses
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
29 Sep 09
lovelyruth, i think you should tel him that if he want you to talk or be friendly- he should change his thinking. Simple talk and conversation will solve this issue. And then you will feel tension free. Some time a person feel affection when he/she is alone- so ask him to find a life a partner and stop spoiling your mood as wel as the relation. if he still dont understand then last and final solution give him a nice punch on his nose, so that he never say's a single word. lol.
30 Sep 09
Hi thnx for your reply... Could you do me a favor lets kidnap him and we both will hit him.
@tvb2009 (237)
• Singapore
24 Sep 09
It's actually a blessing to be loved by someone. However, if he is too irritating or too extreme about this relationship, that's no longer love i suppose. Because loving someone, doesn't mean he needs to have you by your side. Am i right? As to how you going to face this situation. You should just ignore him. That's nothing much you can do but to avoid him.
24 Sep 09
Thanks buddy
@flzmlady (419)
• China
25 Sep 09
tell him that you can just be a friend for him and no further relations, and if he still sticks onto it, you may leave him for a while and let him cool a moment.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
you are doing the right thing of just ignoring him because it seems that he doesn't understand what you are saying, you don't love him and one thing that you could offer is friendship but if he doesn't believe on you and keeps on nagging you to love him, then just better ignore him.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
25 Sep 09
It is a very common thing to happen. I will happily take it if my friendship turn to a love. It happened to many of my friends and even to me. It is goot that your friend becomes your lover becaue you already know about the person and it takes only a little efffort to actually be in love with the person - I mean start loving the person with full heart.
@Sleong (46)
• New Zealand
25 Sep 09
If he really loves you and care about you, he would still accept your rejection and still love you and care for you.. True love doesnt have to be together, True love is also does not seek to be returned, If he really loves you, he will be there for you even as a friend, and support you, and make sure you are happy, be a shoulder for you to cry on, and always on the look out for you, without being in a relationship with you. Be consistent on your rejection, and dont ignore him.. Be natural with him.. ^^
@tobosoi (12)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
for me,, i love my friends, and sometimes, we may care and love them dearly that we came to the point that we can hardly define the love we felt for them. we got confuse if it is romantic kind of love or just a pure love of a friend... sometimes it just mix up.. you thought you love him or her because you compliment each other but it will end up in a mess if THE ONE will come out in the picture or it may in another way around.. but i also believe that friendship is a best foundation of LOVE... In your case you said you are happily married,, and what he feel about you is not your problem, just continue being nice and friendly to him without putting malice in every act of goodness... just enjoy his friendship... let him know by words and actions that you value more about your family,,like you may invite him in a family dinner,, or a family party,, so he may witness the kind of love you share between you and your husband and your daughter.. in this way, i think,he may soon realize the truth....
24 Sep 09
I can know that you are a great woman by your words,no wonder he still love you...If i were you,i will clear the relationship between us..Igoring is not a good way...Just speak out "you don't love him,we are friends forever"...I think he will forgive you,because he care you.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
if you really have no interest of leveling up your relationship with that guy, then choose to be consistent in rejecting him... make him feel that your only after of his friendship and nothing more, nothing less.