Is he going to have online affairs or what...???

Malaysia
September 24, 2009 10:35am CST
Hi, all! Lately I heard many issues from my relatives and friends about their relationships. A few weeks ago, a friend of mine was complaining that her husband was cheating on her. When I asked how, she told me that she was sharing the password of her Facebook account with her husband. So, he would always play games or use the applications especially the online Poker using her account. Then one day, she saw her husband's name and added him as a friend. She was happy that finally he has opened his own account, but he did not add her back. She did not mind because she thought he was lazy to check and manage all the stuffs from his own account. However, one night while she was lying on the bed and her husband was playing Poker on her Facebook, she saw him jotting down something on a paper and then looked at her. He thought she was sleeping, but she was actually observing what he was doing. Then, he did it again a few times, looking at her as if he was afraid she was going to wake up. She was so curious, but the next morning she seemed to forget about it until one day she saw a small piece of paper with a woman's name on it. Suddenly, it rang a bell. She quickly went through her husband's friend list on Facebook and... she was so upset when she found the name and saw the profile photo of this woman. She wanted to confront her husband immediately, but she was still thinking how to do it. She checked all the 'friends' on his husband's account and they are all women, mostly from other countries! She was hurt when she realized that her husband was using her account to find some women and added them. Now, she is still confused because they have a happy marriage life, but why her husband is doing this... Is he going to have online affairs or what...??? I have advised her to confront and talk to her husband about this, but she said she does not know where to start. If anyone has encountered this kind of situations before, please help how you dealt with it. Thanks on behalf!
2 responses
• United States
24 Sep 09
Hi corrycrystal she should definately confront her husband, its very suspicious behavior and she has a right to know. Cheating is wrong whether its on-line or not and chances are he is leaving them explicit messages.
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• Malaysia
25 Sep 09
Hi, Amanda! Most men would only view the pictures, but I have not thought about him leaving private messages to those women. If he does, he is indeed cheating on his wife and she should face him now rather than it is too late to argue and getting hurt more.
• United States
28 Sep 09
i agree if he is looking at picture and leaving message's then you know he is meeting them maybe you need to check your bank account and your credit cards to see if he is paying for anything and if he is doing all of that then the thought of cheating is there and once a cheater always a cheater i hope she want to stop it now before he brings somthing home to her and then she would have to say something is she afraid of him?
• Malaysia
29 Sep 09
I don't think he is meeting anyone of them in persons because most of them are from other countries, but who knows what he's thinking of doing, right?! She is not afraid of him, I guess she is only scared that it will hurt their relationship.
• United States
24 Sep 09
Hello Corry Crystal! I been in this situation before! When my BF and I first started dating he opened up a myspace page and would look and add only girls... Girls from other states that were pretty and that we both don't even know! So... I decided to snoop. I found out that he was just, like every man, commenting on their sexy pictures or just looking at them as if it was an X-rated site.... I confronted him right away! Without hesitation! He than apologized and deleted his account. We now share accounts like facebook and myspace... Just tell her to talk to her husband... Like everyman, or person out there, we are curious people! Hopefully that is the case! She should not hold this back if it is bothering her so much!
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• Malaysia
25 Sep 09
Hi, Prikayjo! Thanks for responding. I have always thought that this is the case. Men are very typical and predictable. You are right from the start in confronting your BF. I hope she will do just that to have a peace of mind.