Just a short update

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
September 24, 2009 3:27pm CST
There's so much going on again that I don't know when I'll ever get back to my own discussions and responding to them but I will. I did finish one of them last night and I did catch up with all of yours although there's more in my inbox now but I'll get back to them eventually but with everything that's going on, I may have to take a break for a while or come on here in spurts. I just have my hands really full right now. My parents had another BIG argument last night. I'm not sure what happened just yet but my brother called me saying he couldn't get them on the phone and told me that dad had called him to talk and vent. No one called me last night (thank God!) or it might have set me over the edge. As it is, I know that mom is really upset just as dad is but they know how to push each others buttons and they do it so it's both of their faults but no one can tell them that because they won't listen. Dad has asked me to get some things together for him so he can take over some of the bills BUT I think he wants me to take them over and help HIM do them. I've got that to deal with and then Lil Tux too. Hubby and I are going out to where he is tomorrow which is 50 miles away to pick up the traps and to put out some flyers in hopes someone will find him and befriend him for us and call us to get him. It's our last hope since he's been taken on the 15th which is also when we set the traps out. He's too smart to get in them. Then Saturday, we're going up to my parents place to clean their house. I have to take care of my things first then I can help them. I'm not going to get behind in my own life to do theirs, I have to be on top of my own things first then I can help them. After talking to dad this morning, I have this feeling that we're going to have to have a sit down and talk this out discussion and let them know exactly why we backed off like we did. I hope it doesn't get ugly but it has to come out because they're not understanding why hubby has said this and that so we have to get it all out in the open. Plus dad needs some information on the bills which is going to take some research on my part.... *sigh* So if I haven't responded to your response to MY discussions, I will. It's just going to take a bit longer than I first thought. Have you ever felt like you could just run away? I do all the time since moving here or since my parents moved down closer to us. I just want some peace. Is that too much to ask?
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I do know what you mean about wanting to run away - I have certainly felt that way more than once. I think you just need to take it one small step at a time, so that you don't get to feeling too overwhelmed by it all...
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Oh trust me Elic, I've learned that I can only handle one thing at a time.... well, more than one thing because I'm a WOMAN!!!! LMBO!! But my household comes first then theirs. I've had to make it this way and I told my dad that their house will have to wait till Saturday because it was too late to even consider it today and tomorrow we're going to Climax, which is where Lil Tux is and we'll be there most of the day handing out flyers. Oh what fun it is to be me!!!!!! NOT!!
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
24 Sep 09
It is sad to say, but I think that you are in for a long haul, just like I am. The peace you are looking for is not in the near future. Take care of yourself first. I hope things go well.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Sep 09
What a long haul it is Thoroughrob. Gee, I don't know whether to laugh or cry. I had to take something to calm my nerves or I'll go batty for sure! Thanks for your warm thoughts, I'll be thinking about you too hun....
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Cats, as always i am soo sorry for all the stress u live with. I worry that it's going to catch up w/you in some bad way. I know they are your parents & u love them & want to help them but they need to grow uo & act their age & look after themselves & quit dumping on u all the time. Hope u aren't offended by what i have said but u know me, i say what i think.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
2 Oct 09
They certainly are if you continue to let them. U can't change them, dear & u just keep yourself upset for nothing. I think they enjoy every minute of it.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
3 Oct 09
My foster brother came down with his oldest daughter and her boyfriend and hubby and I had some can cat food and dry cat food as well as some can dog food to take to my parents to help them out some and some other things as well. I don't want to face my parents right now and you'll know why by the end of the day. It's unreal.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
3 Oct 09
I hope the brother helps out instead of making things worse. U told him a long time ago your parents were needing help & he didn't do doodley squat, maybe he will this time, I sure hope so.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
24 Sep 09
[/b][/i][/u]"Calgon Take Cats Away"[b][i][u] Gee whiz, when it rains it pours, no inbetween for you. I hope and wish it gets better and that you get a break. Don't even worry or be concerned about keeping up with all of mylot business, you have a life, we all do. Take care, Lots and lots of {{HUGZ}}
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Yeah, please DO take me away!! I had to take some medicine to calm my nerves for I'm about to go batty!! Gosh, if some of this doesn't let up, I won't be so sane for much longer and I'm so serious! But I'm taking one thing at a time because that's the best I can do because I'm only ONE person and with hubby, we're two people BUT we both have things of our own to do too!! I told dad I'd be up there on Saturday to clean their house and he's ok with that and mom will be too. Well, she's going to have to because I'm not dropping everything here to clean house when it can wait.... Thanks Polly.... I will get back here some day.... some day!!
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
24 Sep 09
We will be here with open arms when you get back.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Thanks Polly. I really do appreciate that!!
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 09
Sweet I think you need to take time out there It is not fair that you always have to sort it out tell them to grow up it is just not on how things are going and they are not making themselves any better by arguing and getting so stressed all the time Hugs to you
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Hi gabs. It's nothing new. They have fought like this since before I was even born and for them to stop now is like asking a dog to stop barking. I've tried so many times to talk to them and point out where they're wrong but they won't listen so I'm stepping out of it.
• India
25 Sep 09
Handling relations is the most complicated thing, its not easy , its not bearable many a times. I think a man gets weakened by these issues of relations more than the actual pressures of daily activities. So keep your neutral state of mind & handle it delicately. Many a times no matter what you do things are not going to get on right track. Do your best & dont let things take you down. Build yourself strong enough to do the right thing & take care of your responsibilities.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Oh believe me roger, my husband and I have told them both where they were wrong and how they do this or that is only making things worse for themselves but they don't listen so we just bow out and let them battle it out for themselves.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
25 Sep 09
It is not too much to ask for Cats and it is exactly what you need, a bit of peace. I am sorry Lil Tux still has not been found. I think it is a good idea to take care of yourself first before you take care of others; you have to give to yourself first before you give to other people. Your parents sound as difficult as mine or maybe not...Mine are definitely worse! Don’t worry about MyLot you’ll catch up when you catch up, I know nobody here minds. Take care of yourself I hope that one by one things will sort themselves out.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Thanks so much for being so patient with me Paula!! I really do appreciate that!! So far, no one has called about Lil Tux so I haven't a clue to his whereabouts or even if he's still alive. All I can do is hope and pray that I get him back soon. As for my parents, if you've read my latest discussions, I talked to mom tonight and it seems I'm out of the dog house..... at least for now.
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@GardenGerty (105415)
• United States
25 Sep 09
I have had the deep desire to run away before in my life. I know what that feels like. I wish you lots of luck with getting everything ironed out. Grab a lifeline, tie a knot in the end of it and just hold on. Discussions do not HAVE to be answered you know, but you do have to get some of the pressure off.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Believe me GG, I'm hanging on for as long as that rope will hold me but let me tell you, it's getting a wee bit frayed!! So to make the rope tighter and stronger, I've had to back off once again. I did talk to mom tonight and it seems I'm out of the dog house. My question is this, for how long.....
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi oh my gosh catsanddogs you do have your hands so full and with your parents scrapping it must be rather nerve racking too.I do wish you could get Lil Tux back as that might give you a little lift at least. You get on with'your own life first then go to your parents. My parents used to do that button pushing too when I was a preteen, and during the time when they fought I would have what my mom had' always called my sick headaches. now when I grew up I realized ' that they were migraines.oh I would get so sick and the'only thing that seemed to ease them was when I threw up.When I moved out of my parents house I never had another migraine.So it'must have been stress that triggered it. If parents only knew what hell they put their kids through when they push each other's buttons they might just work it out instead.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Oct 09
You, Hatley said it the best!! "If parents only knew what hell they put their kids through when they push each other's buttons they might just work it out instead". If only.... You get the best response for that reason alone! You hit the nail right on it's head!!
• China
25 Sep 09
I do not know!!
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Exactly! Thanks Muscles! Gee, some people think they can just put a few words on here and be done with it. ARG!!