What do you do when your kids annoy you?

@laydee (12818)
Philippines
September 25, 2009 4:55am CST
There are times when I enjoy my time with my nephew. But when he's not really int he mood, he tends to be annoying and a cry baby. I can handle him because we are not together all of the time (unlike his parents). So, I'm wondering. For those who have kids, or are taking care of kids. What do you do when your kids annoy you? You can't just push a delete button or a silent button to shut him/her up. What keeps you going?
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Sep 09
I know that feeling and let me tell you its normal. First off I am a mother of a 14 yr old and a 21 yr old and let me tell you the 21 year old is the worst. She just moved back home a few months ago and its like she watches my every move with my younger to make sure she's not missing out. When I really get annoyed its on! I let them know mom's not happy. If Im not happy, NO One's happy. I have to say this though its different when they arent your kids. I watch other people and their bad as* kids and say to myself Are you serious? I work in customer service at a beauty supply store and I will tell you that parents are blind... THey let their kids do whatever it is they want and think the world will clean up after them. SORRY! Not me. If I see them doing something I will say be careful or no no. If that doesnt work, I go to the parent and tell them that we cant have that behavior in this type of store. If you are babysitting someones kids, family or not, you should be firm and consistent. I dont mean hitting or yelling. I mean let them know right from the start that you're not a pushover. If you dont they will walk all over you. The worst thing anyone can do when a child annoys them is discipline. That is a difficult thing to do. I know. Your nephew is a lucky one. My sisters never had time for my kids. If he does aggrivate you, I would tell him and try to make him aware. I find if they are younger sometimes its best to treat them the same as they are behaving towards you. Usually younger age children have a hard time understanding the whole cause and effect thing. I am surprised I dont have grey hair from raising my children. Overall I was blessed. I never had any major issues with my older daughter. My younger daughter is very sensitive so she doesnt do anything that really annoys me. YET! lol
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26 Sep 09
My kids often start bothering me when they are bored or they start quarreling because they just want to be petty amongst themselves. Fortunately, they listen and stop when I tell them to keep it down. As regards to their boredom, I suggest some other activities like playing outside, arranging their rooms, painting or helping me weed in the garden. If this does not work, I have to sit down with them and play a boardgame (monopoly or scrabble). I also arbitrate their quarrels but it becomes tedious when no one would admit who started it first. Elevate the matter to the next level - my husband. He is the higher authority in the household. My kids are afraid of him because he has a loud, booming voice. And silence means to him silence. They are quiet immediately.
@thea09 (18281)
• Greece
26 Sep 09
Hi laydee, I'm fortunate in that my ten year old is rarely annoying and we can live together just fine as he's generally in a good enough mood to be delightful company. However this morning he is in a temper which I am refusing to rise to. Bad temper on his part is aggravated by his being tired and making unreasonable requests which I refuse. I did the latter so he's now banging round in a strop which I refuse to rise to as two of us in a bad temper will make for the most unpleasant day. The request he made which might have received a little consideration as the day wore on and my coffee takes effect will now be refused totally as I always tell him there are no rewards for bad behaviour such as he is currently indulging in. Excuse me while I go and unplug the tv he is watching cartoons on at obscene volume despite my warnings to turn it down.
@zuhause8 (18)
• United States
26 Sep 09
There are times when I've just had enough and they get sent to their room or have to sit down for a "quiet time", but usually I try to take a few deep breaths to calm myself and figure out why it is they are being annoying. I'm a nanny and work with Autistic children so usually there is a logical reason for the behavior. Its a matter of calming myself down and refocusing the frustration into what I call "detective mode". Once the source of their frustration or attention seeking is addressed the annoying behavior stops. Typical children are the same way. Theres always a reason for the behavior. Figuring out why they are behaving that way is ALWAYS the hardest part.
@much2say (24345)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Hee hee! It can be frustrating when you are being annoyed by a kid . . . but first thing is you have to keep your cool!! If you get flustered, the kid will pick up on that and will get flustered too. So then it becomes annoying for both of you and you go nowhere. I try to find a distraction for my little one . . . like finding another activity to do. Most of the time it works, but not always! But at least staying productive keeps from getting on each others nerves (particularly if it's another older child). Sometimes it's good to find something that you both can do independently to take a break from each other - even if its just for a few minutes .. . like the kid can go draw - and you can get on myLot - ha ha. In any case, I try not to get annoyed (oh but I do) . . . but I like to think I am understanding and try to be clever in solving the problem instead of causing more battles!
@coolcat123 (4390)
• India
25 Sep 09
I run away and go to another place like the neighbours or friends house.But when I am in my work and they annoy me then I have to choice other than to scold them or even beat them when necessary.Becoz after then atleast for some while the house is in silence.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
i have tried being with a little kid. though i still dont have a baby of my own but i just know how to handle the children who has been somewhat close to me. like my nephews and nieces. it always take alot of patience and care for children are so moody and fickle minded as well. so we really need to be more understanding and thoughtful of whatever they may do or may have accomplished. jhelai