Men: What would you do if your wife wanted to be a surrogate?

@breepeace (3027)
Canada
September 25, 2009 11:52am CST
I was watching an old episode of Friends the other day, and it's the one where Phoebe's brother and his fiancée want her to carry their baby (or babies, as it turns out) for them. It got me wondering.. what would Phoebe's significant other say if she had one in the episode? I know there are some women out there who volunteer as surrogates, and in fact, there was a very funny movie called "Baby Mama" recently released, but I had to wonder how the husbands (or alternately, the girlfriends/wives, since I know some surrogates are lesbians) felt. So if your wife or girlfriend decided to become a surrogate mother for another couple, how would you feel?
4 responses
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
It's a big NO for me. Being a surrogate mother is maybe financially rewarding (in some countries) but I'm worried about the emotional thing. If a father like me can't stand to be away from from my kids for a few weeks how much more for a mother who nurtured and labored for that baby for 9 months only to give it away?
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• China
26 Sep 09
i agree with you,i think it's really difficult to give it away.i cannot accept the truth that people have done. it's unfair to baby,when he grows up,he find his mother is not his birth mother, what a grim reality!
@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Why would I want my wife to carry another mans baby? I find it beyond wrong. I would tell her not to do it. I wouldn't want to look at her pregnant with another man's baby. I know she is not in love with the father but its about principle. Plus there is the whole stretch marks thing and it would interfere with other areas of the marriage.
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• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
Well, she would have to talk to me first. Then if I should agree, she must ensure all the contractual obligations are put into writing. We do not want civil suits to be leveled against us. She should also get the other party to procure life insurance for her including hospitalization benefits. As for the whole birthing process, the other party must financed the entire operations. As for me, I will washed my hands off this as it seems more a commercial contract between two parties.All liabilities for this transaction will be my wife's alone and I will not be a party to any legal suits.That must be understood. This surrogate was never in the first place a contract between me and my wife as partners in a surrogate project.
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Well, i'm not a male, but I'd like to give my thoughts. I think if i were just carrying a baby for someone else that my husband would be fine with it. As long as it wasn't a high risk pregnancy that could risk my life. There was a point where my friend had said she didn't know if she could have kids because of an abortion she had in college. I mentioned carrying a baby for her to my husband and he seemed to be okay with it. Now if the baby was half mine, like if they had to use my egg, then I'm not sure he would be okay with it. Just as I'm not sure how I would feel about him donating sperm to someone and them raising a baby that was half my husbands.
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