A real man never cry because he is weak A man never cook because is like a womam

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
September 25, 2009 3:12pm CST
Do you think that a man never must a work who a woman make every day? As gooking, cleaning or caring babies? He is not "real "man if he cry when life is unfair? Why peoples say...this only woman make or this only man make? Is shame if a man cry? Is shame if he try to wait his woman with a good dinner? Why a woman can t smoke in the public(of course not in all countries). Why a woman can t be a good manager, only a man can do this? Of course are many countries where all is free for all, but why in other countries people make so many diferences between genders?
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@Hatley (154828)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
icesmile IN the US we are free so we tend not to enslave our men or women in marriages.women can work here too just like men and still be married .A man can cry and not be thought less for it, and a woman can be a good manager, many women have to be good managers as their husbands may be handicapped or very'ill. we are not stupid icesmile, we have brains just like the men in your country. We all like to be free, and we have defended that right for years.You men are so conceited in your ideas about women as women have the same mental capacities as men have and sometimes more.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
25 Sep 09
I like freedom, for me maybe is the best way for all peoples to be as they are, no frontiers,but sometimes i ask myself just if is not maybe a little better to keep some classy ideas too?
@taztheone (1726)
• India
25 Sep 09
I don't think there is any problem if a man cries after all men are humans & not from mars. The real man is the one who has the ability to take care of everything including household works. In fact men have better ability than women in cooking & that's the reason you will find mostly men in hotels & other places as chefs. It is very true that men has superior power than women in almost all the fields be it physical or mental. Hence women cannot perform as much as men in many fields. Man usually don't cry that easily because his mental ability to handle pressure is more but that doesn't mean that men can't cry. In fact most of the men cry, but when they cry,I hope you can imagine the intensity of pressure they handled. In many countries people make so many differences between genders because there is so many difference between the genders & their mentality is not that much to think freely. I prefer a free thinking country so that people can atleast live freely. Happy Lotting
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
25 Sep 09
You right, seems that are some differences between man and woman...
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
dear ice, this is a very good discussion. i say that a man who is the breadwinner in the family is one very responsible person. if he goes home early and bonds with the family like play with the children, would you say he is childish? if instead of watcing tv when he arrives at the office, goes to the kitchen and helps or asks his wife to sit down and wait and taste something he will cook for her, you will call him something else except that of a man? i guess not. for a wife, a husband who knows how to show love through loving physical way like help out the wife in any chores in the house, help out in washing the dishes, etc. is more a man than just a breadwinner. he is the best husband of all times. ann
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• India
27 Sep 09
This idea has certainly become obsolete. In a double income household sharing all work is a necessity. So cooking , baby sitting or generally minding house is something quite a few men do nowadays and I feel there is nothing to be ashamed of in it. Besides showing ones emotions is perfectly normal and crying when one is hurt does not in any way show up a man to be weak. On the other hand a woman has every right to be good or even better than a man in everything she pursues. If she is good there is nothing wrong in admitting the fact, as is becoming increasingly the case in the modern world.
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@kutedarsu (254)
• India
26 Sep 09
A man needs to know when to get emotional. crying isn't a crime or shame but then it should not make a guy appear effeminate. women are supposed to be emotionally weaker than men in many parts of the world. that is why women are not meant to do 'masculine' stuff like smoking or managing people in a top position. and men are looked down upon when they cry which is a 'feminine' thing to do.
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
26 Sep 09
I like the song, 'No woman no cry'. I think that to be true in a sense and not true in a sense. I need my mom and she's a woman. And without her, I would cry. But with her, I won't cry. But with other women, I might cry. Cry inside, at least. That's what I mean. A man can cook and should learn how to cook, just like a woman does. I think nowadays, the world is more open towards the gender change. Like a woman and a man have double standards now, but there should be respect throughout; something like that. Say for instance, a woman is a CEO of a company, but at home, she's a wife and a mom and she respects her husband. She knows her role. Same for a man whom say, has a low education but having a wife with a degree. She needs to respect him, even if she has a higher education. But he cannot use that excuse for her to obey him all the time; he needs to have some kind of flexibility. I think that's the harmony of a family life; in my opinion..In my eyes, I don't really see a difference in gender; just the difference in kindness of the heart. Good discussion here..
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
25 Jan 10
Thanks so much for the Br, my friend.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
25 Jan 10
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
A true gentleman knows when to show his feminine side. Those who makes fun of a man who knows household chores are foolish. Boys cry. They are only human. They make mistakes and trust me women are better decision-makers. We are suit to be more than just their personal nanny. Gone are the days that women are treated unfairly. Women should stand up to live up to what he heart desire despite the norms and belief od her culture.
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
26 Sep 09
It is within some men to be able to cry, and that does 'not' make them weak. We are in a new era where sterotypes are becoming a thing of dismissed. A marvelous man that I knew, was able to cry - cook - can and even do housework on ocassion. He also shopped for the household groceries. He was every bit a man, and a wonderful person. His mom raised 5 girls and 3 boys. the boys learned how to cook, bake, and do the things needed in the event that they did not marry, or were able to take care of a sick or disabled wife. This man and I had great memories working together in our kitchen during our Thanksgiving and Christmas, holiday seasons. This coming November, after 50+ years of working together, I will miss his presence, and the wonderful food he was able to prepare in our kitchen. He was my wonderful husband, and every bit a MAN !
• Canada
29 Sep 09
thse are unfair generalizations. When my husband feels he needs to he cries, because he is human just like everyone else. As for cooking, he does all the cooking. I am not a very good cook, and he is a great cook and loves it, so he does all the cooking. For us there are absolutely no gender differences.
@rhythm20 (67)
• India
26 Sep 09
Men usually never believe that women can also do the work which they do.And this is really common.Even though nowadays women are working in front of the eyes of the men, they still say that no, she can't do what I do.And I think that its not at all a shame if a man cries or something because he is just being emotional when he cries or trying to show his emotions and thats not bad. Actually long before itself they have given men or boys a prejudice that they don't cry and to women and girls that they cry. So, now some of them still believe the same thing. And whereas talking about a women smoking in the public, as I said you nowadays women also do everything that men do. So thats also a common thing but some people find it strange because women and girls have a prejudice that they are not rowdy. So, as certain prejudices have been given to men and women, people make differences between genders.
@vopols (204)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
If we talk about crying its simple natural for all of us th shed tears it doesnt matter if your a man or a woman.Actress and actors cries because that is their way of living if they dont cry they wont receieved a pay.Life is fair but sometimes we mislead ourselves to experience several sufferings thats why we concluded right away that life is not fair.For me there are two types of cry one is external wherein you can identify the person who is crying by means of looking into his or her eyes if he or she sheds tears another is internal meaning you cannot see any signs of tears but inside the effect is very deady it can cause or lead into depression and eventually heart attack or any problems.A man can cook for his woman in fact some women prefer to have a husband who knows how to cook.So life is just fair it is just our mind and practices which could make it unfair.
@hexeduser22 (5856)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
I cry, I love to cook and definitely I'm 100% man. Countries that are having issues between the difference in both of the sexes is still living in the machismo generation. They can't seem to accept the changes. For me, man and woman are equal in all aspect it really depends on how they would try to adapt in the changes in their environment
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I don't think there is anything wrong with being traditional but I do feel as you do about putting the things we are allowed into gender. I think that there are things that one or the other may tend to be a little better at but I don't think that we should be imprisoned by these ideas either. I have been told that my management skills are very good at work. My b/f is also an excellent cook. I've told him often that he should open up a resturant. I think that man and woman have a lot to offer one another and the world to if we are let out of our restrictions. I think it's ok for a man to cry sometimes as long as it's ok for me to do it sometimes to.