My hands are down I give up!!
By Fairygrl
@Fairygrl (348)
United States
September 25, 2009 5:57pm CST
How does depression take over you? Im 21 years old an the last six months of my life is just stressful.. I no longer have a job Im back home with my mom which is really hard. And im at the point in life were everything is going wrong an i give up!! I moved back in with my mom about six months an it really is so hard to be here at times. We fight because she wants to be the mom an ive already been on my own doing what i want! Well now being here theres rules which is understandable but other than rules she wants to treat me like im 16 again. Which at times is also understandable because she only has me an my little sister who is fourteen!! Now dont get me wrong no matter what my mom is there. But im at this point in my life were I dont know how to tell her inside Im going crazy!! I had an issue last night that ended up following me home! Which that ended an I was safe. Thanks to my mom but I have to worry about that now!! Its just one thing after another and I dont know what to do anymore! I dont know what to do with myself! I couldnt even tell you whats going good in my life right now! I could just sit an name all the negatives but that would take all day! How does depression take over you? I actually stayed in bed all day i had the worst headache an still do which is the worst headache of my life. My head feels like it goona explode literaally I have so much on my mind that I honestly dont know where to start. Somethings gotta give. I need some type of help an my mom says well see a councelor an Im scared I dont wanna walk out there like a nut case! Like were to start what do you tell a coucelor an what do you just not mention? I have no outside life, no friends that are actually worth having! I juss fell everything is finally falling on me now!! SO how do you deal with your depression? Anything would be helpful? I dont wanna be like this forever.. Im miserable with myself an Who I am!! So please help me if you can!!
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8 responses
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
26 Sep 09
What is the old saying?? What doesn't kill you just makes you stronger??? Seems like you need to sit down and do some thinking. Don't let this world control you and get you down. Take the fight to them. Jobs Get a list of the fortune 500 companies then apply at all of them. Visit as many as you can in person, be friendly, smart, and confident. Sell yourself. You are capable. If you talk to enough people, you have to find a job and since you are applying at large corporations, the pay should be good. Don't feel your way through life. Think your way through. There is a logical answer to any problem. Talk to enough people and you will find someone else who had the same problem then solved it. They could have your answer. Now, pick yourself up! Dust yourself off!!! GO GET'EM!!! THere is a big beautiful world out there that needs you in it. YOU WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN IT!!! I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!!!
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@hagirl (1295)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Honey First of all you are not a nutcase. Everybody goes through downward turns in their lifes. Just to let you know you are not the only one out there with alot on your shouldes that depresses you. I'm there too. I do take medication for me and see a counselor. The counselor really helps because she gives me that unbias opinion face to face, like mylot gives me the unbias opinion in writing. I am not going to tell you that you are to young to feel this way. I am not going to tell you that your problems could not be so bad. I am going to tell you that there is help out there. You would be really surprised at the people that you know that talk to a therapist. Do me a favour. Get a piece a paper out. Write down the pros and cons in your life. You would be surprised how many of those cons can be taken care of by the pros. Then take the rest of the cons and figure out the best and the easiest way to take care of them. Then take another look. YOu have all these cons marked out and all these pros listed.(more pros added because some cons have turned into pros). Now don't you feel better about yourself. It doesn't solve all your problems, but it will alleviate some of the pressure you are feeling.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
25 Sep 09
It happens to everyone at one time or another. Parents have issues with the fact that kids grow up. Its hard for them to let loose of the reigns. A counselor may help you two comminicate better. I don't think you will be seen as a nut case.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
26 Sep 09
It sounds like you could use some direction, Fairygrl. If you're having a problem finding another job, why not consider going back to school...getting some kind of training? There are a lot of interesting areas that you could get into. Feeling like you're stuck in a rut that you'll never get out of is depressing in itself and moving back home after being independent only adds to those bad feelings. You need positive things to look forward to.
As far as a counselor goes, you don't need to worry about what you're going to talk about...the counselor will direct you...and you won't look or sound like a nutcase. Trust me, my husband is a nutcase from the war in Viet Nam and none of his psychiatrists think he's a nutcase. Sometimes you just need someone impartial to talk to.
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Hi Fairy...
I have been depressed for four whole months some years ago...my reason was different though. It was a guy...
But I was crying non-stop for four months..from the time I wake up til i close my eyes at night... my back hurts everyday just because of crying.. and I was distant to people I work with..my family.....
and I easily get angry...I was becoming unreasonable.
I came to a point that I realized there's no one who could help my self best but me..
If i go on depressed forever..nothing's gonna happen to me.
so i started calling friends....it does help to vent out your feelings to somebody...
and I kept my self busy....busy...busy...with naything i could find worthy of my time........
I had to fight being dpressed...else...i would end up on the losing side...
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@irisspeedy3xc (64)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Instead of thinking on how many negatives you have going on right now in your life try finding some positives, yea i know you gonna say there is no positives otherwise you wouldnt be having this problem, but trust me look deeper and there positive to it. well you have you life? you still allive and healthy, just stress. there is nothing wrong with your loves ones there are well, now this things are positive in way that other people out there have it worst than you but still have to find the strenth to keep going. Me for example i am 24 and everything is my life is going down too i am so stress, i look older than my actual age, i want to sleep all the time but i cant, and you know why because i got 2 little humans that depend on me and dont understand what is going on in the world. one is 3 and the other one is 1. so just tell yourslef, other people have it worst than me, and just repeat that, and dont think about it anymore. instead find something productive, you might not have a job, but how about reading a book, or playing a video game, something that distract you from all that crap you going through. and you living at you mom's ok i being there too and me and my mom dont get along, imagine, when you are living with you mom and you have a 2 year old that wants to break everything and she is very strict and at the same time you pregnant? now repeat some poeple have it worst than me. follow your mom rules, avoid arguments by just keeping yourself busy, and stay in your room play video games watch tv and try not to think about the bad things, eventually life is gonna turn it around, life like to mess you up alot it but it will get better, believe me it will, it did for me, i am still a little stress, but now i am back on my own place with my husband. find positives in your life. hope this help you a little
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 09
Fairygirl go ahead and see the counselor as it cannot
'hurt and might actually help you. Tell her or him
'just what you have told us, don't be shy he or she
has heard it all before. you need help and help you
will get if you just go and seek it.
@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
Well, the source of the depression is what you should be looking for. Do not look at the circumstances. Use symptoms to locate these causes. If you can zero in on what is it that makes you depress, that is the source that you must tackle. What causes the problems of 6 months ago that you lost the job? Why did it happened? If the cause is a trigger from outside you, then you can at least know why it is causing you to have the depression. If it is just serotonin imbalance and you do not know what causes this hormonal imbalance, then you need to see a doctor as it is now a clinical case that may need help from the realm of psychology and psychiatry.
