Do you answer back with disrespect to your parents?

answering back to parents - is bad
Philippines
September 26, 2009 1:57am CST
I have my own family now but I don’t really remember answering back in a rude way to my parents. I hate to admit but some of siblings fight back to them by answering in disrespectful way. With that, they were often slapped in the face for doing so. I was the record holder in the family whom was never being slapped in the face. I don’t want to brag here but I never answer back to my parents even that I knew that what they’re saying against me is wrong. I don’t think I have to defend myself. I just stayed quiet in the corner and thought of the things that I had done. I’m not against defending own self from harsh words but they’re my parents and I don’t have those nerves to give my reasons to them. how about you? Do you answer back with disrespect to your parents?
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21 responses
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
I do not rudely reply to my parents but I reason out and it becomes a discussion. This is my way to explain my sides and I do not see anything bad about it. It is better for me to go ahead and say face to face what I would like to say or express rather than hide. I do not like to feel guilty or have suppressing feeling it make no good to one's health if i control myself talking when they argue.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i wish i can do what you did.i am used to always suppress what i feel.it seems that we are not allowed to speak. if you reason out, my parents would feel that we are fighting back. i used to just cry in bed and just drown myself with tears.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
I never answer back in disrespect. I just be on a silence rather talking back to them. It's kinda hurt mentally and emotional, rather than being a rude daughter.
@Melbee11 (233)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I do sometimes, I don't mean for it to slip out and say it though. My parents don't really care what I say to them as long as I stay out of trouble. That's all they ask of me to do is stay out of trouble. So I do and I try hard to do it. I have been a trouble before and it was bad.
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@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
26 Sep 09
That would be the last thing I would ever do to my parents. My parents are one of a kind. They both are very very spiritual and they teach good things in life to others too. I am not saying this because they are my parents, but because that is the only truth. I don't remember in my whole life when they have asked me to do even a single false thing. Yes, I have been beaten by them. But that is only for my well being. And I have learnt those things in life just because I got hit. Had it not been for that, I don't think I would ever have got to lead a good life. All credits for them.
• Indonesia
26 Sep 09
Yes, I often did that in my younger years. I regret that very much and wish I could turn back time and make it better. Now after all that happened in my life I realize that I was being so naive, immature and selfish. My parents love me but I ignored it. Now being an adult, I know I was wrong but I am so grateful, my parents don't change a bit and they love me no matter what.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
i have done it. but not so many times. i love my parents and which just means that i do not atlk back to them disrespectfully. but i guess with the tome of my voice sometimes made them think and even i think that i am begining to talk back in a disrespectful manner. but i seldom do. i just like to hold it all back and cry it out when i am alone. specially those things they say against is not true as well. i like to take it on my own and just lie low on one corner while admitting to their constant qualms and hurting words. jhelai
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• India
26 Sep 09
hiiiiiiii...really in today's world its and very serious condition as people of age 11 answer there parents that you have not done this than why me should do that that's why i think that today this condition is in the most family and if you never answer than sorry to say you may be called as exception case in now days world. i answer to my parent in rare case when i get too much angry and afterwards i realise that i did the mistake but that i am not in my control so cant help me out. answering parents is became the habit now days and yes we can also see the other side that if parents says something wrong than we had to speak against them to make it right. those were the days when whatever parents say we used to do whether it is wrong or correct so in my accordance now days its common on replying to parents whether for small things or for big.
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
I respect much, my parents and don't say anything bad to them. Parents is always our parents whatever they will be in this world they are our parent and need to respect them...Have a nice day!
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
yes,parents are always there thru good times and bad times.... we have to love them because no one can replace with them... we can replace our friends,husbands,wife and etc. but not our parents... so we better be good to them,respect them and love them...
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I agree with you, Marilyn. We cannot repay the care and love of our parents and this is a great things for us being their children. Welcome to mylot, Marilyn! Hope you enjoy stay here. If you have any questions don't hesitate to ask me and I will do my best to help you getting started...
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
31 Dec 09
That is a very good nature you have.First i too used to be like that but now i really get angry fast and talk back to them.I know it is bad but i have been bearing them for a long time.I think i should also a cultivate a good nature like you and site quiet in the corner.It will help me in the long run.I never like when people scold and insult me even though i have not done the mistake.
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
I love my parents so much and Im giving them all the respect they deserved. answering back to my parents?yes, I did. But it doesn't mean it is disrespect and being rude. My friends called me fighter because I always fight back. Yes I admit that I answered back to my parents often because I always try to reason out in any arguments we had. Not at all time parents are always right they are also human who can do mistake in life. It's also important that they can hear my side inorder to settle what's being discussed. Most of the time good talk can solve the problem.
@harmonee (1236)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I never answered back in a rude way to my parents. They wouldn't have it. I was raised to have respect for people older than me or in authority even if I was mad at a situation. They were really big on watching the tone of voice you use when talking to people too so that what you say can't be misconstrued as being disrespectful. I think it's a lesson that is getting lost in the current generation.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
28 Sep 09
When I was younger I talked by once to my mom and my dad was there. He slap me over my mouth it did not leave a bruise but it did hurt. After that I never talked back again I might have thought about it but I knew better. Some of the kids now a days do not respect their parents they talk back all the time. It is hard to discipline your children because if you spank them it is consider child abuse now.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I am sure I did as a teenager. I have apologized a hundred times to my mother for my actions growing up. I look at teenagers and little children growing up and i am devastated on the way the speak and treat their parents. I know was never that bad because I did not know some of those actions and words. I still do have conversations with my mother every day. I do not yell, scream, or cuss at her. If I do need to defend myself it is done in a respectful way as she would do me also.
@tinam13 (840)
• United States
27 Sep 09
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I hate arguing with my mom, but she usually comes at me disrespectfully and when she does that I can't help myself. I try talking to her about it, but that just digs me a bigger hole. I don't like to be talked down to and that's one thing I realize I can't change, but I can do differently with my kids. People usually think that just because a person is younger or less experienced, that they have the right to disrespect them. When someone is treated like that, they aren't going to feel good about themselves so why would they treat other people with respect?
@jterrock (277)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I remember when I was younger, probably the age of 13 or so. My father and I would always argue and I will say, I was pretty mouthy. I never got slapped or grounded to the house though. After growing up and losing my father from Cancer over 10 years ago, I look back at the times when we use to argue, fight, and me being rude, I really regret it! I have grown up to realize that you should never be mean to the ones you love. Because one day you will lose that person, and then regret it. All teens usually go through the stage of talking back and being mean. That is just how you learn really. But, as you get older, you do realize how silly it is to be mean. It is a learning process.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Hello I hate to admit it but I always had a big mouth, very opinionated, I never disrespect my mom, but I will tell her how I felt I always thought it was my right to speak my mind I love how you feel about this issue and you are right, I love my mom but she has some ways about her that made things really hard coming up, I tell you one thing she really values my opinion anytime anything happen she comes to me to get my point of view, like I said I never cursed her or said mean things to her, just had an answer for everything which worked her nerves. My daughter was great coming up she was perfect until she became an adult now lol she gets on my last nerve like me she has an answer for everything, I try to remember how I was and step back and say this is me she just waited until she was old enough lol, we are the same sign and virgos talk to much at times. What a great discussion, thank you for this.
27 Sep 09
We have discussed ths subject of violence within families before so I will just say that if as a parent you find you have to use violence of any sort to control your children then your failure not theirs
@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Usually I did not talk back to either of my parents because they would beat me. I had a brother, same thing to him, so we grew up NOT talking back to them. Once in awhile they were so unfair that I felt that I had to fight back but mostly, it was not worth it. I was not raised right. I tried to be different when I raised my daughter and now with my grandchildren. I want them to know that they are loved very much even if they have a bad attitude. I never felt loved when I was growing up. I know that sounds like I feel sorry for myself but now I am an adult who has had many years of counseling and I am actually okay with it. Not that I think what they did was okay but that I can't handle that yes, it happened and thank goodness it is in the past and will not happen again.
@malamar (784)
• Canada
26 Sep 09
Nope, not to parents, grandparents, or respected elders. It was not allowed while I was growing up and I don't allow it in my own family. You can have disagreements, debates and discussions without disrespect, screaming/yelling, or hurting someone needlessly. We have always been allowed to express ourelves and our feelings, and we pass that on to our children and grandchildren. Ultimately, the parent is the one to make the final decision if need be. The disrepect I see in the community today just leaves me shaking my head in sadness. It is not just the young people displaying this blatant disrespect, although those are the situations I see most often, or read about most often.
@amijor (234)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
When I get into a fight with my mother I usually get my point across without disrespecting her. Yes. I raise my voice but I think that's just because I'm angry at that time. Although I'm yelling I make sure that what I am saying is what I am trying to tell her but not to the point of forgetting who she is in my life.