Do you really know your neighbor?

@ibuemma (2954)
United States
September 26, 2009 8:12pm CST
We all know time is changing so fast. These days people move faster, a lot busier than it was before. Not mention the internet really change the way we are living. Back when I was young ( hope that not long ago ), we really do know our neighbor. Seriously know them. THeir name, their job, how many kids they have, etc, etc. And a lot of times we stop by just to say hi, or even hang out in front of our fences to gossip...LOL. Not stop right there, a lot of times we bring food, bring souvenir if we travel for them. One time my mom told me it's very important to have a good relationship with our neighbors. Family sometimes lives too far if we have emergency. But we can always knock our neighbor door if we really need help. These days, it's different. there's news that a person found death after the "rotten smell" come out from their house. We don't even "missing" them we they are not around. I think it really sad. What do you think? Is it happening too in your neighborhood? Do you know your neighbor? Do you even know their name?
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@feodda (579)
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
Yah. I still know my old neighbor but with those new ones I don't. I am very busy nowadays. Don't have time meeting them but their faces are familiar to me.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Just like my neighborhood right now. I know couples of them. But there's no stage of hang out or talk for more than an hour. Just say hi, when we 'accidentally' bump to each other.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
One of the problems with today's society is that everybody is so busy around that they don't take the time to get social with the neighbors around us. We can only say HI or just give a smile when we bump each other in the lifts or car park. Then we busy rushing to go out.... But of course they are still many out there that are so close to their neighbor, but not me...
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
I don't have problem knowing my neighbors because most of them are my cousins, aunt, uncle, grandma and so on. Almost all of the people living in my village are related. So we are pretty comfortable with each other.
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Wow, talking about one big happy family! LOL. I'm glad to hear that
@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Hi ibuemma.. I probably dont know my neighbors as well as I should know them. Heck one of them I probably know them too well. I know that their actions are not good. But you know that it really aint safe any more to try and get to know the new neighbor that just moved in next door or down the street. It is a sad world that we live in when you can't or won't trust..Great discussion..
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
27 Sep 09
That's the thing too, TRUST, is an expensive thing. It's hard just to trust anybody. Don't you miss the old days?
• United States
27 Sep 09
Oh YES..I do miss the old days. You could always depend upon your neighbors for the little things. I remember when the neighbors would come by just to say hi and see if you needed anything. Oh how I wish it was the same again...Have a nice day..
@Craicha (801)
28 Sep 09
yes i know my old neighbors but the new ones not.....yes its right to know whos living nxt door in you and front door in you....that you'l aware who are they...and o course you should know they names coz if you dnt visit there homes of course for sure your neighbors will....and of course eventhough you dnt came out from home, you shlould know whats going on in your neighborhood ask somebody in your home that always comes out...:)
• Canada
28 Sep 09
I agree you should know your neighbors and you should always be courteous and polite to them, but I also think that good fences make good neighbors.
• India
27 Sep 09
ya we do our neighbour well ,we know how many neighbours are there and what they do thier jobs we also sometimes share dinner i think we should know our neighbours well bcoz they are 1st whom we reach for anything
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
29 Sep 09
That's good to know that at least there is one place on this planet still have good relation with neighborhood. LOL
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
Hello ibuemma, When I was a kid, i used to serenade a kid on the other side of our house ever after noon. but recently they moved to a new and bigger house, that leaves them with their maid living in their old house. the only neighbor we can count on now days in the neighborhood in front of our house and the barbershop near by.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Wow, that's sound lonely...but at least you have those 2 neighbors.
@grey26 (254)
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
Yeah i know soMe of my neighbor. Because some of my neigHbor is blood related to us. SoME people in my neiGhbor i know them by there faCE and name .BuT i doNt knoW their atTitUde and lifEstyle.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
29 Sep 09
So you are not that close too to your relatives?
@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
i guess not all. We are new here in our place and i guess i don't know the people around me and same with them they don't know us too. It will take time to know each other because we are all busy in our respective works. Maybe one day will have time to bond and talk.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Busy, busy, busy...yes that's the common reason. we are all so busy improving ourselves , we forget how to socialize..LOL
• United States
27 Sep 09
Wow, that's a tough one. It was many years ago that Robert Frost said, "Good fences make good neighbors," so I often think that those old days we think were so serene and perfect really weren't, you know? I definitely have neighbors on either side of my house that I love dearly and consider to be very close family friends...but there are people on my street--the majority of them, really--I've never met, and I don't even know their names. It's really not considered proper anymore to go to the home of someone you don't know and knock on their door, because they might feel obligated to let you in and they might feel like the house isn't clean or they don't look their best, etc. I don't feel comfortable just knocking on people's doors with a jello mold. Maybe you're right and it's a different world now than it used to be.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
29 Sep 09
maybe because right now, the crime rate is going up. But I'm thinking if we really do can make good relationship with our neighbor it can reuce the crime rate.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I know a few of my neighbors but not many. I keep to myself as i'm very shy. i notice some of them and others i do not...but theres only one neighbor i really know. the lady who lives next door and thats it because i don't talk to my other ones but a hi or how are you and a smile.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I think that what most people do lately, limit to just greeting no more than that.
@buping (954)
• China
28 Sep 09
well i do not know my neighbor. i can not recognize her or him in street. i live here for nearlly one year, and i have not seen her/him. i have to work in week days. when work is over, i go back home and take a shower and then go to sleep. on weekends, i go oout to meet friends. on the other hand, my neighbor's door is alway closed, so we do not have chance to know each other.
@tjt8367 (23)
• China
28 Sep 09
I live in a small village.My neighor is a good old person.I always take him some souvenir or food when I have.
• China
28 Sep 09
Hello ibuemma, Once I lived in the countryside in China. We knew our neighbor very well. Almost everyday we visited each other. When the summer came, we will got together, under a big tree, talking or doing some housework. we might have some disputes towards some small things. But it's Ok. Generally speaking, we had a great relationship. But when I grew up, I left my hometown, studying in a different place. I missed my family and my neighbor. It will be National Day in two days so that I can go back home and visit them. I'm looking forward to the holiday.
@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
28 Sep 09
We are really good friends with a couple of our neighbors. One of the mom's I am closest too is my daughter's friend's moms so we got to know each other because of our daughters. We know several of our neighbors at least a little, we all lend and borrow things from each other from time to time and have had quick little chats. But we have lived here for 12 years, and most of our neighbors were here even before we were. So we have had a lot of time to get to know them over the years. But I would not say that most of our close, but we are friendly, and do co-exist nicely.
• United States
27 Sep 09
I don't know my neighbors. I don't find it nessesary since I have family and friends. I think it is good to know at least their names but not on a personal basis. People move in and out all the time, it's hard to keep up sometimes. Just as long as everyone is nice and friendly i think thats enough.
27 Sep 09
When I lived in the city I did not know my neighbours very well but now I live out in the country I know most people at least by face recognition and to say 'Hello' to. I think the smaller the community the more likely you are to know your neighbours. However, we do live very different lives to our parents day - modern conveniences like computers for on-line shopping mean we can do a lot of tasks from home. Most people have two or more cars and go everywhere in them even just down the road to buy the morning paper. People drive out in the morning to go to work and in again at the end of the working day. I do feel that some places are just dormitories where people sleep, eat and watch TV. It is possible never to have to speak to any of the neighbours. When I was a child my mother was always hanging over the garden gate chatting and no-one seemed in the least bit of a hurry. Unlike, today where the pace is fast and furious and many bosses expect their employees to work long unsocial hours with massive workloads. Lots of people are afraid to speak to children in the street for fear of being seen as a 'pervert' and so when unsocial behaviour happens outside your house no-one will come out and support you. The only way to build community is to get involved in the life of the environment you live in eg join neighbourhood watch schemes, help raise money for a new kid's playground, etc. The community will never come to you -you have to get out there and make your mark.
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Hello Ibuemma, Nice discussion you have there. Yeah, we are now in another busy world. everyday every one is busy with their own stuff. More ever staying at the town or city make our life more busy too. I admit I don't know my neighbor very well. They are just staying next to us! But we do say Hi and greet each other when we have special festivals. But never never drop by in each other place for a chit chat, never hang out before. I don't know what their name, jobs family background. But I know for sure , we care for each other! There is once our Fitness room in our Condo was on FIRE! Me and my hub got to leave the house because the fitness room is quite near to our unit ( actually I am so worried the FIRE could reach us, LOL) Before we left, I ask my hub to call our neighbor. It was in the midnight and I don't think they know what is happening there. There house is not facing the fitness room but it is better to inform them. !
@gohigh00 (65)
• China
27 Sep 09
yes,the same situation as you. When I was a little child, I live in the suberban area and we have a such close relation ship with each other. I played with kid of the neighbours. And we will help the other when one are in difficulties. But with the urbanizatioin of the city development, I don't know who live in my neigbourhood and It seem that my neighbour have changed several times. I think it's the common situation around the world.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
i think it`s a common problems for everyone. because many site or tools make us easily to be friend by cyber, we always forgot to make relationship with our really friends or really neighbour.so sad but the fact many of us never know their neighbour
@Trensue (5255)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Currently I know none of my neighbors. I don't live very near any of them and I don't leave the house much. I do know three of the people who work at a gas station a few miles from my home, but none of them live where I do and I do not even know their last name. I do know them by sight and I always try and be polite to them. I guess that makes me a hermit.