Are you willing to change your self for the sake of other people?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
September 27, 2009 10:47pm CST
There are some people who don't like your attitudes, or your personality. But for the sake of someone you like or you love are you willing to change your self? Like I have a friend who tried to change his looks and stopped smoking because the girl she likes want Him to changed.
What do you think?
8 responses
@buping (952)
• China
28 Sep 09
hi, i am willing to change my attitude or pernality in the case that most people do not like it. and i think that if most people do not like me, so that would be definitely my problem. so i would change it, and i would be grateful to the person who pointed out my problem. and there was a boy who stopped smoking for me, and i was so moved about what he did to me, so finally i became his girlfriend.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yeah, if there's a lot of people who don't like the way you act. Then it's obviously your problem and you have to change your self, if you want other peoples' company. Smoking is a vice, and I don't think it can be that hard for someone to quit. But when it comes to our personality and attitude it's quite difficult to changed, since it deals with our inner feelings and emotions. But still if someone do changes of himself for you, that's a good credit.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and have a great day!
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
28 Sep 09
NO...I made that mistake once, and it will NEVER happen again. I am me. What you see is what you get, and if anyone doesn't like it, they don't have to hang around me LOL
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
LOL, Yeah you're right! What's best is you'd tried. Yeah, people should at least learned to accept other people's attitudes and personality. I know there are many people who want someone to be like them, and worse someone like to be their twin.LOL Which is impossible we're very different from each other, we're unique individual and changing our self to satisfy others is a quite different matter.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and have a great day!
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I think that you can't change anything about yourself for someone else...you have to do it for yourself. I also think that, while it's possible to change your attitude, it's extremely difficult if not impossible to change your personality, and any changes made in that area will only be temporary.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yeah, you're right we can't totally change everything about our self, that's impossible. And yeah, we can't change our personality, we can shift for awhile but sooner or later our real identity will come up. That's why I don't really like the idea of changing other people's attitude or personality. It's important that it's on their own free will and not pushing them into something.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and have a great day!
@med889 (5941)
•
28 Sep 09
If I change it is for myself first then it will be for others, I am not someone who decides to change for someone else's because I believe that I can do myself some good first. So I change because I want to and not because someone has asked me to do that.
@angel_rain (271)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Change is good but what good will it do if you will not be happy?
I think if the person that you like feels the same way they should accept you for what you are and be content with it.
I think if the person that you like feels the same way they should accept you for what you are and be content with it.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
In my opinion I think "YES" why not. If you really like the girl so why don't you try to change your personality. We can't see our own bad attitude and personaity but others can see it. If they are telling us to change our attitude and if you think it could make you a better person. Then why don't you try? We all know what is good or bad. It's our choice do you want to make a better life or you want to make it worse.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yeah, you have a valid point. Some other people who is concerned with us surely noticed all our not so good attitudes. Some of them telling us to change our self, but because of our ego, we tend to ignore them and sometimes misinterpret their motives. But still changing our self is much better if we really want it, if we believe that it will make us a better person. And not because of other them.
Thank you for sharing with us ealzhan and have a great day!
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
28 Sep 09
i think comprise is the best way to deal with personality clashes. it is not so much about changing yourself. i think that yourself is going to change whether you like it or not, or whether someone influences you to change or not. by the way someone can influence you to change, but they can't make you change. you still have to decide. this goes for the other person. since both has the same right to their own personality, then comprise is how you should handle it. the best answer most of the time lies in the middle, when things are even. anyway...lol....you know what i mean.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
28 Sep 09
If you want to change something about yourself, you ahve to do it for yourself, not because someone else wants you to. If you attempt to change for someone else, I feel that you will only end up resenting that person for what you will see as forcing you to change.
I think there is a big difference between changing for yourself and changing to please someone else. I believe in compromise, but not changing unless it is what you want to do for yourself. In my marriage, we have both changed a few things about ourselves and a lot of compromises we have made. Neither of us has changed just to please the other, and that is why, I believe, we are a very strong couple and why we both have so much respect for each other.
