Do you get hurt when you are replaced with your boyfriend with an ugly duckling?

By fler
@feodda (579)
Philippines
September 28, 2009 1:24am CST
I called still recall the pain that my ex gives to me. And what more painful to it, he replace me with an ugly duckling type of a girl. It really getting into my nerves. And what more worst with it, that girl try to ruin my life.
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12 responses
@smsky2009 (455)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I don't even think about doing that to my girl.. We just trust each other alot so we dont even worry about something like that to happen in our relationship.. I like my girl, so now I stay out of bars and clubs just to avoid those kind of situations by not starting anything drama.. Maybe you guys just had some communication problems from the beginning which led to this problem.. I don't know everything, but I think communication in a relationship is very important because especially now that were all grown up and you meet as adults you both have lived over 20 something years of different styles and ways, so its good to fill each other in and be honest and truthful from the start and communicate.. just my two scents..
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
That's nice to hear from you. You yourself try to avoid to have some kind of bad situation may happen. We don't have any problem with communication, actually our houses are just a distance apart. We talk every day and send message. It just so happen to have a third party.
• United States
28 Sep 09
I guess with the third party he was tempted everytime then.. Looks like he was a weak man to fall for such temptation.. People like him are no good for you in the long run.. Maybe it's good that he is gone now, instead of something like this happening later on when your relationship is more serious and start to settle down and think about marriage.. People like him you should not hold on to.. It is much better for your life in the long run to just let them go and move on with your daily life. Just take in the good and the experience. And don't be too hurt by this situation and take it out on your next boyfriend, some girls have the tendency to get hurt in a relationship and they get so damaged that they are always in a defense position and ruin something good going when they finally find a decent boyfriend.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Thanks a lot. There's always a rainbow after the rain. And a life to start on and move forward.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
sometimes you have to understand that the basis of love is not just the physical appearance of the person. your ex may find qualities of that girl that you lack or something. :D
• United States
29 Sep 09
Even if thats true.. I still think this guy has no manners.. Hes credibility has just gone down the toilet for all I know.. Even if she did have some qualities that she lacked.. the guy should have communicated with her and try to solve the problems that they had, but no instead of communicating this fool runs off with a different girl. Hes a d.ouchebag.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
i don't think that communication is still needed because they were no longer lovers when the guy had a relationship with that other girl. why should he ask permission to his ex girlfriend?
• United States
29 Sep 09
If that guy hurt you that much forget about him. He is the type of guy that no girl wants. If she keeps ruining your life then she has noticed that you are a way better person than Her. Good Luck :-)
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeahhhh. I have to forget about him. I know that she is insecure with me, beside there endearment is the same as my ex. They don't have any originality.
• United States
29 Sep 09
Yup shes just jealous so you should not worry about that scrub.. Let the haters hate.. You need haters in your life, take it all in. Haters hate thats just what they are born to do. lol
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Way before I got married I dated this really good looking guy for about 6 months, we kind of grew apart and just kind of stopped seeing each other. Several months later he came walking through the store where I worked right past the department where I worked holding hands with this really ugly girl. Obviously he wanted me to see him since he knew the store and department that I worked in. I wasn't jealous, but I was angry because the girl was so un-attractive. I was thinking why would he possibly think I would be jelous of that. I was more offended that he would go out with me and then go out with this ugly girl. It is kind of funny now that I am older and I think about, but at the time it really ticked me off, I didn't care that he was dating someone else, I was just upset that she was not pretty. He was good looking enough to go out with anyone he wanted.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
It's really getting to the nerves. But what is upsetting is that the personality of the girl. And he choose it over me. It is so funny and said to say to him "How poor he was".
• United States
29 Sep 09
Wait a minute "Obviously he wanted me to see him?"?! He turned g.ay? So after 6 months he brought a guy with him?!*or was that a typo? im confused @_@
• India
28 Sep 09
Well fortunately or unfortunately i am not in contact with any of my ex bfs and have no idea who they have replaced me with. But if I create a hypothetical situation like that, I think initially I will feel a little sad that his choice is bad and I was his choice initially so maybe even I was bad but then on second thoughts I will feel good that I was too good for him and he couldnt get hold off another good looking girl like me :P Coming back to you, how does she manage to spoil your life? Nobody else other than you can spoil or make your life! So awake arise and get hold of your life! Dont let trivial things or people affect you :) Good luck!
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Thanks for cheering up. I know nobody should spoil my life, that's why I'm fighting for my right. The girl is setting me up, and sending messages that are immoral. They try to sue me in court but the problem is they can't because they are the one making those immoral thing. And I have evidence on it. So, they back off in my life.
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 09
feodda, lol. So sorry for laughing. At least now you know that your ex has such bad taste, thank goodness you are no longer with him. Looking at the positive side (for him at least), maybe he hook up with her not for her looks but for her heart. Sometimes, the most hideous looking person can be the sweetest person on earth. But you said the girl is trying to ruin your life. I dont know what she has done, but I suppose, it's better for you to move on and not ponder bout your ex.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Right, I have to look on the positive side. Thank goodness having not be with him for now. I also believe that beauty is not measurement. But with my ex. he replaced me with an ugly duckling not just outside and also inside. The girl also send me immoral words, she's like a girl living in the squatters area.
2 Oct 09
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, they say. You might think she is ugly, but he obviously does not. It is not worth stressing over, try to forget about him and her, there are plenty more fish in the sea. Good luck!
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Yes, of course and that would be extreme humiliation. It would be very painful and degrading because I might think I am an ugly duckling also.lol!
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
i know this feeling when i saw my ex with another woman who is a super ugly ducking, and a low level person, i was so pissed of that i went striaght to him and show my face and said "it that all you can get???" i was planning to slap him too but i manage to control myself. After a few weeks later he actually contacted me and tried to explain himself that the girl was nothing to him but a pass time and so and so blah blah blah... i just told him just give a little shame to yourself cause he looks pathetic seeing him with that kind of girl. But in yopur case that is much more irritating that that ugly girl is trying to ruin your life. Well you stand up high girl and show them they are just insecured people who is so jealous of you and you won't let them ruin you as that ugly thing don't deserve your time and effort. never stoop down to her level, show here how classy woman really are.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
We they same story feodda, i've experience that before also to my ex.He replace me with an ugly duckling and the girl try to ruin my life and drag me down.I know its really hurts. But i didnt fight them , and i didnt give any revenge to the girl.Instead I give freedom to my ex beacuse maybe im not enough for him. After that im starting move on until some months ago i met my Mr. right man"my husband" and im happy with him now.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i would get hurt if we are still having our relationship then cheated on me, no matter how pretty or ugly the girl is. but if we are not in a relationship already, meaning we already have in our separate ways, then it would not affect me anyways.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Dont get affected with it anyway its not your lost but his. Just go on with your life and forget everything about your ex, he's not worth your time and love. Just look around maybe the right guy for you is just aound the corner waiting for your love and attention. About the girl trying to ruin your life, well i guess, u just have to ignore her, dont stoop down to her level. Goodluck girl!