Is spanking a good way to punishing children?

United States
September 28, 2009 3:39am CST
and when does it go to far?
2 responses
@redhotpogo (4422)
• United States
28 Sep 09
No. It is done out of anger,not to discipline. Think about it. When is a child spanked? When they do something wrong, and you think, oh I better spank them quick so they learn not to do that. No. Its done when the spanker has had enough, and can't take it anymore. "Get over here now!" Its gone from teaching a lesson, to revenge. Lessons are things to be taught at the end of a belt. Lessons are to be taught all day long. Talking and explaining. Patience. Spanking just teaches children to not get caught.
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Spanking is almost always the wrong way to punish children. The same is true for yelling and screaming. Once this pattern is established, you find yourself on a merry-go-round and you cannot get off. You and the child are frustrated. It usually ends up being child abuse. There are much more effective ways to discipline children. Establish rules and guidelines. Let them know there are consequenses for their actions. Be consistent. Don't confuse them with mixed signals. Lastly, let the punishment be age appropriate. A three year old may only need 3 minutes on time out versus an 8 year old needing 8 minutes on time-out.