Would you entrust the care of younger daughters to a male manny?

male nanny - A male nanny is the equivalent of a female nanny hired to take care of children and assist them in all their daily livings.
Philippines
September 28, 2009 5:55am CST
A male nanny is the equivalent of a female nanny which are being hired to take care of your children. If you are a single mother with younger daughters. I would like to know if you would entrust your children to be taken care of by a male nanny. As some family are wary of having a male nanny to take care of their children as they are suspicious that children would be neglected and abuses. While, other people like to hired a nanny which would serves as as strong protector in absence of a husband. How about you, would you entrust the care of your children to a male nanny? Kindly share your thoughts. Thanks
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@turones (206)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
it may sound mean but no, i will not hire a male nanny to take care of my kid. i am a mother of a 4-yr-old girl and i really can't imagine entrusting my kid to a man. i think it is just natural for mothers to be very protective when it comes to their children especially girls. i have often heard about child abuse in the news and so i will never entrust my kid to a male nanny.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Selection of the nanny really fall on the shoulder of the parents and arranging the selection with the nannies agency and before hiring whatever it is a male or female nannies is to check up first the background and skills of the person to ensure children are safe from predators.
@Tantrums (949)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Many years ago I knew of a male au pair from Sweden. They had two young girls for charges and they were out kicking around a soccer ball on the school playground one afternoon. A few mannies were drooling practically. It turned out okay to habe mannies around.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Oh, drooling that would not be good as it is tantamount to hidden desires to the girls and I do wish never end up attracted to the minors as they may end up in jail..lol..
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
I think i will trust a female nanny more than a male.. lol =D Because i will not know what he's gonna do to my daughter.. There are be things even worse off than plain abuse.. haha =D AFter all, a man is not as gentle as a female nanny, and gals tend to be more meticulous as well.. THus i will be opting for a nanny, instead of manny.. I guess i will feel much more secure to know my daughter is in the safe hands of someone.. haha =D
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, that is true even in my country it is a rarity to find a male nanny and mostly those involves in a baby sitting are done by effeminate male who happen to likes to do household chores and babysitting at the same times. Yeah, female is more gentle, caring and nurturing. Finally, the best nanny is a full time mother who know what really is best for her children..
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
YEah, but for myself, i dun mind being a manny too, for i like household chores.. haha =D BUt i'm definitely not effeminate.. lol =D NOthing beats taking care of one's own baby, rather than entrusting to others, if they have a choice to do it on their own
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
really, good for your mom, you are going to be a great help in the house...no gal sis??:) definitely, you are a rarity as most men doesn't like household chores.. Yeah, not all men who do household chores are effeminate , you just like being in the comfort of your homes and clean it for you to relax and enjoy the ambiance... Yeah, no doubt the best caregiver is the mother itself and nobody could replace a mother who are gentle, nurturing and caring both to her children and husband.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
28 Sep 09
nope never trusted my kids with any one but myself! and sure wouldnt trust a man with a daughter. an other thing couldnt afford to have a nanny
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, that is the best thing to do never rely on anybody to take of your children better be a full time dedicated mother is a great vocation able to raise children without depending on anybody to care for them.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
29 Sep 09
My hubby made good money and wanted me home then so I could be home when they got home from school Bubt I also thought I could work adn help with the money too but nope didnt happen till they got grown and gone then I could work at anything I wanted too and I did.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Good for you as your husband is a good provider and she want you to be a full time mom and a loving wife. It is a fulfillment career to be a full time mother as it enables you to provides caring and guidance seeing your children grow to be a responsible adults. Then, at the end of the day you could be proud of yourself as you becomes the ideal wife and mother to your children. well, now have your own work of your own . Goodluck to you.
• United States
3 Jan 10
well...my daughter is 22 now, BUT, i dont think it matters male or female...i dont want a stranger in my house, PERIOD!! or imagining my daughter was still little, i NEVER left her alone with strangers, ever. period. male or female. they can both be abusive.
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
hi jane, Well, that fine rules as it is really hard to trust any person to handle the care of your children and it is a must to stick with your policy which you feel more comfortable for the safety of your children.
@taztheone (1726)
• India
29 Sep 09
According to me, I would never do that because there is no way I'm gonna entrust males for my daughters. Most of the men get attracted to females unless there is a close relation. Happy Lotting
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, very true but not all males have the same attitudes but most men do have the habit of the things which you mention. Finally, to be safe and to safeguard the welfare of the children one need to be extra careful in choosing who they want to care for their children in order not to regret with the decision later on and the most important to get a background check done first before hiring a potential nanny. Thanks for your responses
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
29 Sep 09
I will never leave my yong daughters under the control of a male nanny. The male nammy may be a nice person, but I don't want to take the risk. It is a risk to the life and future of my daughter and I will never do that knowingly. The researches show that a good percentage of the young girls who are getting exploited are abused inside of their house and their family member or a person known to them does the abse.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah, that is true even a male family member is hard to be trusted that is why a mother do not like to leave a child even to the care of a male relatives and many is suspicious as we really never know what comes out in their mind if we left children to their care. Aside, from that even though they know to care females are more nurturing and loving compare to male. Unless, you really trusted a male even if you left it on their care your mind is calm that they are in good hands.Thanks for your responses
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
29 Sep 09
I have never thought about a male nanny before but if I felt good about him and he had all the right credentials I guess I would not have a problem with it. I don’t think I would discriminate between the genders; I would have to judge the individual as I meet him or her and decide from there. My seven year old has always had female teachers and this year for the first time she has a male teacher and I have to say he is better than any teacher she has had before and I am very happy with him.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah, that is true all kinds of genders have the capability to provides care and they only differs to the intensity of caring they could provides and with the adjustment process one have to undergo a lot of screening test before one is qualify to becomes a nanny. Definitely, one should not judge the personality of a person unless their is further evidence of proof that he molested a child. The selection process depend on the credibility of the nanny agency based also from the recommendation of his past employer records which could reflect his attitudes as trusted nanny with exemplary behavior.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
No, I don't think so. I can entrust my children to a female nanny only. I seen on the movies some of the rich people in foreign countries entrust their children to a male nanny, they call it a butler. I don't want to hand over my children to male, this is very suspicious even if the male have no malice or with clean minds and just want to have work and take of my children. There is still female nanny i can find.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, the ideas of having a male nanny starts from other countries like in the USA and in UK. The male nanny works like a baby sitter and all around maid, doing household chores and could also be rely upon in fixing like a plumbing, wiring etc. that is if he have many skills. Then, the advantages too of having a male nanny he could carry big children with him unlike a female nanny who easily got exhausted having to carry big children unless the nanny is a big lady too..But, in reality a female nanny still is the best choice in terms of caring for children since she is a women more sensitive and more nurturing when in times of caring..
• United States
29 Sep 09
It all depends if the Male Nanny has a good reputation well let me explain better. Let's say the Male Nanny has been known like a nanny that has had comments from recently mothers who had said he is not a nanny you can trust to leave your child while you are doing something important either in your job or family situation. If other people say negative things about this person which in this situation is the Male Nanny then No I would not leave my child with this male nanny. If the Male Nanny has excellent comments on how he takes care of other children then i would absolutely leave my child to the male nanny, why not? If he will treat my children the right way. :-)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, that is true never ever trust your children to be taken care by a nannies who have a bad record and known to abuse the children he have been handled in the past. Then, it is good to know first the background of the nannies if he have good recommendation from past employer and it is known as dependable, honest, caring and responsible with good qualities. Then, why not? We could give him a chance to prove his self that he is worthy enough to be called as the gentle male nanny.
• Malaysia
28 Sep 09
Never on Monday.Never on Tuesday. Never on any day. No! no! No! It is certainly out of the question. With pedophiles around, no one is safe. In fact, given the social malaise of today,even animals are harmed by bad nannies! So, no male nannies for my children. Thank God, they are all grown up!
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah, selection of nannies really depend on the mother and what she think for are good for her children. Then, go on to select only the best types of care whom you feel comfortable with and trusted.
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
male nannies are very rare. but it actually depends. it's true about what you said that we should be wary of abuses that could happen. ive known some guys who take care of children well and take very good care of them,. once i have established that kind of trust then maybe i could leave my children to his care, maybe if he were to babysit my children, not exactly hire him as a nanny.but only with that knowledge will i get him to take care of my children. this is a nice question, thanks for asking.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah, hiring male nanny is good as live out nanny and not live in nanny. Thus, he would only gives care to your children when he is call for and then left too after his time scheduled duties is over. male nanny are good for household chores and serves too as a repair man fixing all the things which a lady have no knowledge to fix alone and they also good as assistance when you plan t purchase heavy things, you could ask him to carry it for you. A lot of multi-tasking skills which a male nanny could perform is good too..
@jellymonty (2358)
28 Sep 09
Well to be honest it's kind of odd for a guy to do a nanny job.. at least from where I come from there is no such thing as a male nanny. I have nothing against male nannies but I would not feel comfortable hiring one. Not because of the Paedophile thing but mentally it wouldn't feel or sound right. And there's a possiblity that this male nanny might be a hot looking guy and that's going to be hard for me as he would distract me from looking out for my babies
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yeah, it is a rarity but even celebrity actress and singers have a male nanny hired to take care of their children such as the likes of Britney Spears in which she trust them as they are more stronger to carry children and could also do other household chores aside from baby sitting. And, for single mother, I get what you mean, but it would also serves as an added inspiration and their is nothing wrong in having a relationship with a male nanny. It means you becomes attracted to them not only because of their housekeeping/baby sitting skills but they also have dependable qualities which is likewise lacking to other guy who have the egos and prides much larger than the universe...
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
although i have reservations having male nannies take care of my young daughters, i don't see any reason why they shouldn't. my mother told me that my nanny was a male (although he was slightly gay) and he took good care of me and on the side, did some household chores as perfectly as the female nannies. if there are two different nannies that i have to choose for my young daughter, i would rather go for the female.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Many men who desire to work as a male nanny are mostly have effeminate qualities and they are very professional in terms of providing care to their clients, giving them all the best efforts to take care of the children with the same care which any female nannies could provide for and they best to choose for the care of younger sons and rarely for females.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 Sep 09
i have never met a male nanny before. I'm not sure I would be as comfortable with a male nanny as i would a female nanny. Maybe I am just used to women being nannies and not men.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah, for male nanny are rare as many men never desire to handle jobs like that as they think of it as a effeminate things to do downgrading their levels to a skills which only popular known to women. Male nanny is good to be hired to do heavy household chores and especially better to take care of male children. Thanks for your responses
28 Sep 09
Funny, this discussion came up as well on the radio some days back. The question was, "Would you hire a male helper to assist you in the house chores"? Most of those who called said they actually found men to be good and serious in doing their work. They further commented that although women can multi-task, men are very focused and do the job one at a time but with excellent results. Personally, we have entrusted our kids (2 girls, ages 2 and 4 at that time) to a male nanny sent by the hotel in Bangkok,because we wanted to explore the sights of the city at night. We were a bit surprised when we saw that he was a young man. But, we thought he must have been cross-referenced by the hotel management and is capable of caring for young children. The kids were just fine. In response to your question, I would not mind having a male nanny for as long I know his reputation, credentials and that he has enough experience to fulfill the job.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, males appear more stronger with a long stamina to perform heavy household chores and to carry big children then play with them. The new concept of having a male nanny is not yet popular as the mother are hesitant to hire them for many men on the records is not efficient, less nurturing and tender to treat children as it is not really their natures to do it. But,not all men are insensitive that is why their are now the so call male nanny or manny and in some country they are now accepted although many people feel awkward of having a male nanny as they are all uses to seeing a female nanny.
@med889 (5958)
28 Sep 09
I would search for a female nanny though. I will be very cautious about my children and I will see that they are not in any danger even at home so nowadays we can hear many incidents happening around so better to be careful.
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yeah, your choice is depending also on your need and assurance that your selection is the best to take charge of children care while you are away from home working as working mother. Then, you would feel calm and not stress knowing your children is in good hands of a trusted, caring, responsible and loving nanny who do her job done worthy of praise..
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
28 Sep 09
I heard in news about a nasty female nanny. The hidden camera had caught her beating crying babies. Another case was a female nanny putting sleeping pills in baby food so that they would sleep and not disturb her. So I would like known the background of the nanny (male or female). Also ask the previous employer. Nowadays one can also get details from the police.
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yeah, their are really no perfect nanny and the attitudes of the nannies matter most whether they are female or male nannies, that is the best things to do to have a check up background of the nanny before hiring to assure the security and care for your children is not at stake. It is better to take precaution first than be sorry for neglecting to make an investigation as the life of your children is depending on their care as you work away from homes. The nanny should be properly trusted first before letting them have their hand on the children care.
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Not totally because there are lots of cases nowadays trusting too much to someone that in turn they have their hidden agenda. It will bother me much if I entrust it to other person. Better yet, to a female nanny rather than male.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Sep 09
I would be very wary of this. Make sure the guy has good references that you've checked and talk to him to gauge a bit of his character. And then still be very carefull.