Have you ever felt Out of Place?

Philippines
September 28, 2009 6:22am CST
In some point of our lives there are times when we really cannot relate to what's happening in our surroundings. Specially when the people around you seems to get along to something you cannot understand. It might be coincidence, purely accidental, or the people around you just are really ignoring you. What do you do if you find yourself in this kind of situation?
4 responses
@taureiel (26)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Whenever I've been in that kind of situation, I try to learn from it. What about the situation makes me uncomfortable? It's important to think about that in times like those, because it's when you're struggling that you can learn the most. Right when you get the most frustrated is right before you hit a breaking point, and all becomes clear. Sometimes, just so I can expand my horizons, I put myself in unrelatable situations on purpose. I try to see what other people like about what they're doing that I can't see or figure out, and more often than not I've missed something big!
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
i'll give this a try. I just hope that i wont feel so awkward like i usually do.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Sometimes I also put myself in unrelatable situation on purpose but not to figure out what they like about what their doing but simply because I want attention. I really exclude myself at times to see who will care to notice and escape the awkwardness of being out of place
@debbie_19 (228)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
28 Sep 09
Oh well, I've been in that situation many times and I can't help but pity myself thinking, what have I done? Should I have been like this or that? I get so "emo" at times. When I feel that way, I simply just leave them if I can't do anything about being left out. But when I'm in a good mood, I start another conversation which i can relate to. :)
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
I hate having the feeling of being left out or being out of placed but you should not pity yourself. Think clear why things like this happens to you and if you find it's not your fault why you are being treated in such a way then you must learn how to stand and help yourself for there is nothing wrong with you but there is definitely something wrong with them.
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
28 Sep 09
You're right. Maybe it wasn't me after all. It was them. I just wish I could get through it as soon as possible.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I hope you got through it by now. It has been four months already since I made this discussion I hope I helped you out on this one
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
28 Sep 09
Oh yeah I have felt out of place for as long as I remember and I am 56 now. I was raised in numerous foster homes, some abusive, and was never made to feel welcome so I have a mind set that makes me feel unworthy, even though I know I am intellegent and friendly. Most times I prefer to be alone as I don't have to deal with those feeling when no one else is around. I have also been married for 27 years to the same loving woman but my inner feelings have never changed.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
It's hard to overcome one's terrible past and would greatly develop some insecurity issues. If I were on your shoe, I would feel unworthy but I would help myself by being optimistic. I have these mindset that "everything in this world has purpose, a mission they need to finish and no one is alone". I say that statement to myself if ever I'm down. I'm glad that you've been married for 27 to the same women, I'm sure she made your life worth it and worth living:)
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
hello.. you are not the only who has felt out of place. I feel that most of them time whenever i am in the province and when all the oldie moldies are talking? eewwrr... whenever that happens, i weasel out and go to nearby hut and just talk to salamanders or just do my favorite thing... daydreaming... i dont know if it is helpful for me to sit there and pretend that i know what the old folks are talking about. I dont want to sound stupid with my comments which they may even thwart head on. that would be too embarrassing for me. i'd rather go to some place quiet.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
If I can escape this kind of situation, I definitely would. Sometimes it's best to pretend that your not hearing or seeing them and keep yourself focus on something. Like you, I wonder off if I know that I could not relate to anything around me but there are times I push myself and share my thoughts and if I make stupid comments, I smile and say "how stupid of me" and laugh along with them:)