HELP! Friends plan to live together - what advice should I/would you give them?

United States
September 28, 2009 6:33pm CST
Two good friends, both in their early 20's are ready to move in together in a committed relationship. I hope for the best for them, but I want to tell them about communication and love and respect and keeping the toilet seat down and things like that. Please help... what advice would you give?
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
29 Sep 09
They need to respect each others privacy. They need to always have communication between themselves. They have to decide how the bills will be paid. If its 50/50 or not. If the housework will be 50/50 or not. They need to sit down and go thru everything that is expected of them individually so there will not be any surprises down the line. Best of luck to them.
• United States
29 Sep 09
Thank you... privacy (and the respect in that) and money (and the day to day of that) are important questions.
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
..Maybe try to ask them if they are really ready to take the responsibilities of establishing a family.. I know you would be hard up explaining to them about this because they will not easily understand it if they are very much inlove and committed at this time.. but later, when they will be together, they will realize how hard it is to maintain a good relationship.. However, if you lay down examples that could open their hearts and minds will be helpful.. Try to cite real examples.. state the responsibilities and sacrifices they will have to make if they will decide to stay together at their early age.. I have witnessed youths making decisions like that and they end up regretting what they did.. They were just madly inlove that they didn't see the weaknesses of each other.. after being together for sometime, they just discovered that they are not compatible in many ways.. I really hope that your friends will think carefully and I hope you could be able to convince them not to push through with their plan first.. Happy mylotting..
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• United States
29 Sep 09
Establishing a family, eh? Really gets to the 'what if's" of the relationship they are entering. Thanks!