What would you do?

United States
September 29, 2009 10:28am CST
I just learned about the young boy that was killed in Chicago. Someone actually videotaped the event happening. Apparently he was not affiliated with any gangs but he had his life taken by one. In the video there are a lot of cars going by and people around. So I ask you, what would you do if you came upon this situation? I think we all would like to think we would offer a hand to help someone out, but would you? Or, would you keep driving and hope someone else would help? For me, I don't know that I would stop to help. I would cal 911 but don't think I would get out of my car and risk my own life to help. I wish I could say I would but, I just can't see it happening. Does this make me a bad person or not caring? Any thoughts welcome!
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• United States
30 Sep 09
The young man's name was Derrion Albert. I'm not sure who taped it, either, maybe a freelance journalist? I wouldn't jump in, because it's pointless for a girl my size to jump into a fray like that; I wouldn't be able to stop it. I hope I would call 911. I say hope because there's something called Bystander Effect that at least somewhat explains what those people did--or didn't do. It's also called Diffusion of Responsibility, and is under the umbrella of what we consider "groupthink" or even "mob mentality." When a group of people watches a crime taking place, often no one calls for help. The primary three reasons are that 1. you automatically assume that someone else must have and your 911 call will just clutter things and get in the way, 2. you second-guess what you're seeing and you don't want to be the person who cried wolf, 3. the first thing we all do in a situation like this is to monitor the reaction of everybody else watching to see if *those* people are reacting as if the event is a crisis--since everybody is doing that, nobody picks up panic from anybody else. Bizarrely, the findings state that the more bystanders there are, the *less* likely it is that any one of them will help. I hope if we all learn about this, then maybe if we're in a situation like this one, we'll call 911 even if we think call 911 even if we think somebody else already did. Here's the Wikipedia article on it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bystander_effect
• United States
30 Sep 09
Sorry, I messed up that last sentence: what I meant to say was: I hope if we all learn about this, then maybe if we're in a situation like this one, we'll call 911 even if we think somebody else already did.
• United States
30 Sep 09
What an interesting response you gave. It makes total sense and I am so glad you shared that. That is something to keep in mind when faced with a situation like this. I appreciate you taking the time to explain!
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• United States
30 Sep 09
Hey, anytime. It was something I learned about in college because I was a theater minor so we were learning art history and Phil Ochs wrote a song about Kitty Genovese, the murder case that launched all of the psychological studies that led to the discovery of the Bystander Effect. My professor explained it in order for us to understand the song better. You can read about Kitty Genovese in the article I linked.
• China
30 Sep 09
of course I am willing to help others, ah but it is also within the capacity of their own
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• United States
30 Sep 09
I am so glad you would be willing to help. Would you call 911 or jump into the middle of it to try and stop it?
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@Sara101 (39)
• China
30 Sep 09
I guess most of us would choice to call the police as soon as we confront such situation,as of me, i 'm a girl, all i can do is that what i'm saying.If i were in a can near by,I'd like to shut at the killer to distract him may be the boy can escape and i drive away. and i think nowadays , people are so indifference.if we all do what we can do ,those gansters . how dare they did this?
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• United States
30 Sep 09
I know, how dare they for sure. It is a sad world when you look at the crime we see everyday. I think shouting and trying to distract is a great idea and hopefully you can buy the boy sometime to get away and get free.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Yeah, i will do the same thing as you, because if you help, all of the question will be ask on you. because my friend help a man before who got stub from the back and the police get all his information and his drivers license. He wasted his time answering all the question and getting his drivers license on the police station. So i think its better to call a 911. :)
• United States
30 Sep 09
that is too bad for your friend. I bet he now second guesses helping because of that. 911 sounds like the best option for me and then I atleast would feel like I did something.
• Indonesia
30 Sep 09
If I'm in that situation, first : I call 911. second: I stop my car and I screaming so much people can hear my screaming then they will be stop the car.more people the we can win.we not be scared if so much people in our site.Many people want help but they don't want be the first, so we must be first to help so the people will come to join to help.But I must have something in my hand for fighting if its have to.this is my way maybe.
• United States
30 Sep 09
Screaming to draw attention is a great idea. And your right I would want something to fight with as well if I were to try and break it up. It is easier if there are a lot of peopple involved.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
that's sad. i might do the same thing. stay in the car and call for help. i'd rather not watch it though, i guess if i will for sure i won't be getting any sleep for days. i hate gangs. i mean what for? brotherhood? you can just have friends anyway. if you want fun or someone to look after you, you can get that without joining a some sort of killer group. that's so low.
• United States
30 Sep 09
I agree. Watching it would be very difficult. I would not sleep for days either. Gangs have never made much sense to me but I come from a small town in a small rural state and we really don't have any.
@Bloggership (1118)
• Indonesia
30 Sep 09
Personally, i will help that boy... Maybe his still alive but critical... So i think if i help him and take him to the nearest hospital, perhaps he wouldn't lost his life... Poor boy... I think that time he was standing in a wrong place...
• United States
30 Sep 09
Very true, getting them to the hospital to save a life would be a great way to help. I agree that he was most likely just in the wrong place at wrong time.
@LordOzz (204)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
yes i would risk my life for that. imagine if that would happen in your love ones. and no one helped them. and i don't want to have that regret. you must have the courage to destroy that kind of menace. we shouldn't allow this kind of violence anymore.
• United States
30 Sep 09
That is how I looked at it. If it were my son and no one helped how would I feel. I agree, this kind of violence needs to be out of our society. I just am not sure how to make that happen other then teaching my boys how to live a life free of violence. Any suggestions on how to make this world a better place...
29 Sep 09
Hi, I would also call emergency services, but i would not like to think i would risk my own life, by wading in there, and maybe being killed, leaving my children motherless. I don't think it is selfish, just human nature to want to help, but maybe hold back, from getting too involved. I would do everything i could, but to a degree i think.
• United States
30 Sep 09
I suppose your right. It is not selfish just difficult to understand why people could act in such a terrible way. I wonder what it would be like if that happened to my son and no one stopped to help... scary world out there!
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i do not wish to be in the area where any criminal act happens. it would surely scare the wits out of me and thinking about it now, i feel i am more inclined to secure my own life first. i won't create a situation that would also bring my life to danger. i will, however, do everything to get help from the police or call someone to call the police. i had been a victim in one criminal act in the past and i had experienced how people react. i now understand that i may be wrong in my judgment that they were uncaring people... they must be like me who are also feeling "scared" to help because of risks endangering my own life.
• United States
29 Sep 09
I agree totally, I do not wish to be in the area of crimes either. sometimes it is just wrong place at the wrong time. I am glad you would call the PD or get help in someway. There are many who do not even do that. I also am glad you can be forgiving of those who watched your incident happen. I hope you are okay and not affected by the crime to this day. It is a scary world we live in these days.
@ravinskye (8243)
• United States
29 Sep 09
That is so sad. Did one of the gang members tape it? I would for sure call 911, but I wouldn't jump in to help. If it was just me I had to worry about then I would, but I have 3 kids that depend on me. I couldn't risk my life and leave them without a mother.
• United States
29 Sep 09
I don't think it was a gang member that taped it but someone watching. I am not too sure of all the details. I have two children at home and that was my thought, I can't leave them without a mother. With cell phones, I don't know why anyone would not call 911... so sad...
@olepmis (843)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Well that's life! Unfortunately, the young boy was at the wrong place at the wrong time. I have wondered the videotaper should call 911 before the killing was happened or make a noise to distract the killers. I donot know only God knows. You are not bad for not helping because nowadays it is better not to help sometimes when your life is in danger. You care by sharing your thoughts here. So it depends on the situation whom to help.
• United States
29 Sep 09
It does depend on the situation and your right, I do care since this affected me enough to warrent a discussion. It makes me so sad to see a young person loose there life. And again you are right, only God knows why.