Making the same mistakes over again

@breepeace (3027)
Canada
September 29, 2009 10:32am CST
I recently had a situation present itself to me with a very intriguing option. The only problem is that I've decided to take that option before in the past with some bad results. This situation is slightly different than the ones in my past, but there are many similarities, too, and there's always the chance that this time things could be different. Especially in light of the fact that it involves a different person and different time of my life. So my question is -- If in the past you made a decision that turned out to feel like the wrong one, would you make that choice again under slightly different circumstances? Or do you believe that, as Einstein said, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity?
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• United States
29 Sep 09
I agree with Einstein on this one. If it looks like chicken, smells like chicken and tastes like chicken, it is most likely chicken. Go with your gut and make a different choice :) Different charecters and settings are not usually enough for different outcomes. Good luck to you!
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• Canada
30 Sep 09
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@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
go with what you think is right ofr you my friend. because you might end up in the long run saying "why didnt i do it?" how can we learn if we do not try. and there is always time for changes. if that does not go through well then you could always change it in some other ways you think it would still be possible right? so whatever or what your decision may be then go for it. never turn back and dont try to stop your self. give it a try. who knows maybe this time, it would be much more different than before. jhelai
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• United States
29 Sep 09
If it involves different circumstances, then the situation is not the same.
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@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
29 Sep 09
Not identical, no, but very similar.
@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 09
I probably make the same decision if the circumstances is different. I will feel like I need to give it a shot, despite the failure I received from the first attempt. It just that I can't let it go unless I try it trough and satisfied that nothing will come out of it no matter what I do. I guess I am being stubborn.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
29 Sep 09
When we first try to learn to ride a bike, most of us fall off. On the next few attempts, circumstances are apt to be similar, but slightly different. It may be evening, not morning. It may be cloudy, not sunny. We may fall off several more times. If we stick with it, one day we will try 'one more time'. Similar circumstances, of course. But this time, the wind catches our hair, we find that balance, and off we ride into the sunset. Does this answer your question?
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@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
29 Sep 09
It's a nice analogy, but I'm not sure that's the right idea. I'll give you a similar situation: You met a guy at about the same time you were moving away from the city you lived in. You ultimately decided not to leave in order to pursue the relationship, because one never knows how these things might work out. They don't work out, as it happens, and you swear never to make that mistake again. Years later, you meet another guy in the midst of relocating. Again, you contemplate staying for him and then wonder if, because of your past history, this is such a wise idea?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
29 Sep 09
I think the analogy is the same. You're getting ready to move, you meet a guy, and end up staying. The relationship breaks up and you vow never to do it again. Time passes and you're getting ready to move again. You meet another guy. Like the second time you get on that bike, you're either going to fall again, or you're going to learn to ride. If you decide to stay, this relationship may not last...or it may bring you a lifetime of happiness. You don't know until you try. There is also another way to look at it. If you move, can the relationship continue? If it falls apart because of distance, it probably would have fallen apart anyway. Then were are you? Distance isn't as big an obstacle as it may have been 100 years ago. There is email, IM and other ways to stay in almost constant contact. Distance makes the heart grow fonder...perhaps moving is a good thing. If the relationship progresses, one of you can make the decision to move. If the relationship falls apart it would matter less because you've already gotten on with your life.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
well in my opinion there are times we over do it our mistakes some other do it learn from their mistakes they do whether is in the past or at present.some people promise not to do it again somehow they make it others failed again.there is a saying 'learn from our mistakes".well somehow it is true other find it not true.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
4 Oct 09
Trust me, steer clear of anything remotely similar to that where you made a mistake. You need to take a different path altogether. There is always the chance you will still make a mistake but it will be a different one....you won't be making the same , or similar mistakes over again. You may start getting things right too.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Why do you have to take the risk when in fact that you know and perceive that the outcome would still be the same. The chicken itself whatever ways of cooking it is still the same... Be cautious & do the right thing now. Are you willing to undergone the same feeling and pain that you had undergone and had surpass (I presume) before? Think twice. Pray for the guidance of the Lord. Good Luck!
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@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
30 Sep 09
Hey, Yea actually I had made the same mistake about 3 times, and that was because I pretty much lost money on the Internet 3 times. When it happened the first time, I thought it would never happen the 2nd time, but it did, and it happened the 3rd time too. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
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@irefed (200)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Maybe it really meant to happen and we just been fooled by such situation. It's a little regret if its our decision and had a bad results rather than we listen to other people's advice and it turns out bad.Just follow yourself of what you think is right.
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
do not do the same mistake again. you already know the consequences of it, so better not choose that. as they say, people repeat history. it is not "history repeats itself". so if you do not want to experience the things that happened because of a wrong mistake, then you better not do that mistake again.
30 Sep 09
for me things will never be the same. that happened in the past. your situation now is far more different than before for some reasons. one, you are with another person. second, your in another relationship. and lastly i think if one failed before then this time he will make sure he will succeed.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Sep 09
Hey bree! Hmmmm! I am not exactly sure how to respond to this question. I have made so many mistakes in my life by doing the same things over and over again and thinking the results will be different because it is a different time, a different person, but in the end it alls comes out the same! If you think that there is going to be the possibility that the outcome might be the same then chances are it will! I have been down that road so many times! Take it from someone who has been there done that and is worn out and old! Use your sense of inner feelings and listen to what you really feel! I so wish that I had really listened to inner self! I could have saved myself from so much trouble, heartache, and alot more! Think before you leap bree!
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@mansha (6301)
• India
29 Sep 09
May be you should give yourself and that person a chance and hope for the best but be prepared for the worst too. Since its a different time in your life and you are now a mature person I trust that you will make your choice much wisely then before so May God bless you but you will end up happy...I am sure of it.
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
29 Sep 09
I agree with Einstein! If something doesn't work out for me, I don't do it again. That's just self destructive. I might try something a different way once, if I caused my own failure before but in general I won't do something twice that fails.
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@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
Its not necessary wrong to make the same decission again where you think it may end up in a different result. Everyone is entitled to have their own mistake, if your judgment was to have that you know u did it because you have followed your heart. sometimes its not really easy to accept the fact that the result ended up the same, but you had never know that, don't be hard on yourself, just make sure you learn from all this mistake and put all that you learned into a good use the next time around.
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
I rather believe in Einstein, doing it all over again and having a different result, lol. I am also intrigue on that, why do people do the same mistake again when they are aware in the same place because they have been there. Based on my experience I do not want to repeat the same mistake but if that is the only thing or only answer or only way to do , just to have a clear answer, just to solve the problem, I will do it.